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My self-summary
I aspire to find a relationship with authentic communication and joyful curiosity - I want to find someone who loves to learn about life and themselves as much as I do. If that sounds good, we'll get along.

And I'm looking for someone great to spend some time with and see where it goes. Also I really love my life and the people in it. I am not looking for a partner to complete me, but to compliment each others lives.

I believe that people can change when they have the desire to and are willing to do that hard work. The best things in life aren't free - satisfaction comes when there's effort involved. I prefer to participate in life rather than observe it, when appropriate. I'm adventurous and up to trying most things at least once.

I enjoy intellectual conversation - smart is sexy. I have a curious mind and I'm into lots of things; cooking, camping, surfing, and I love to dance.

My approach to life:
If you want it - go for it
If it fights back - let go
Say yes as much as possible - but stay true to oneself

I went to Burning Man for the first time in 2011 and it changed me profoundly. I won’t expound on it too much here, but the short of it is - I discovered who I really was. I experienced myself with no judgement or expectations of who I should be. This lead me to change my life in the “default” world and explore being that person each and every day, not just on playa. So my plan is to keep going back.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a professional problem solver. I started out in non-profit, moved to event production and now I work for a well known tech start-up developing implementation and adoption plans. I love my job, seriously, I love what I do every day and it's made me a very happy person. It was a long road to get there and I'm grateful.

So that’s my work life, but that’s just one slice of the pie. I’m a hard core foodie. I love dining out; fine dining is great, but so is a hole in the wall with killer food. I also love to cook and love it even more when I’m cooking for someone else. Long term life dream is to go to culinary school.
I’m really good at
Pushing my boundaries and communicating.

I fancy myself a zombie apocalypse survivalist.

I can totally get along for a week of camping with no power or running water. I made a swamp cooler out of a Home Depot bucket once and I'm damn proud of it. Trust me, if you get bitten by a zombie, as much as I may love you, I won't hesitate to cap your ass for the good of all humanity.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm effervescent and full of enthusiasm for almost any topic of conversation that comes my way. And if I think you're clever, you'll see my face brighten with a smile that my friends say lights up the room.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Franny and Zoey, Dune, Bell Jar, World War Z, Wool Series, Hitchhikers Guide, Dune.

I love going to the movies and my background is in theatre, so I love musicals.

Music - I'll listen to just about anything and would love to go see more live shows and be exposed to more fabulous music. Introduce me to my next favorite artist and I'll buy us tickets to their next local show.
The six things I could never do without
1. Gratitude
2. Reading - I'm partial to Audiobooks
3. How excited my dog is when I walk into the house at the end of the day
4. The intimacy of sex - because it can express the intellectual, emotional and spiritual connection between us, without a word
5. The loyalty and love of my friends - they give as good as they get
6. The moment on the playa when I feel fully me, no judgment and no need to hide
I spend a lot of time thinking about
About the community that's flourished around me since moving to San Francisco. It's so unique and special and beyond what I could have imagined (reminding me yet again that the universe can offer things beyond my dreams).

and this: "I used to say "if you take care of me, I'll take care of you".

Now I say "I will take care of me for you, if you will take care of you for me"

If this speaks to you, jump right down to the bottom and message me...
On a typical Friday night I am
Going out and meeting new people. Cocktails, movies, art or the awesome new thing you just suggested I try.

Going to the mountains, hiking and working on things around the property.
You should message me if
you are self-aware... and not finished. You've spent plenty of time having fun and learning what you want. Now you know what you want, and look forward to finding it.