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26 F Saint Louis, MO

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5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body Type
Libra, and it’s fun to think about
Working on university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and dislikes cats
English, Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I want to live as much life as possible. I would much rather regret doing something than always wonder "what if", and therefore constantly seek exposure to new activities and ideas. I've been called many things, but never boring. I enjoy awkward situations, especially talking to strangers (people say the darndest things when they're not trying to impress you and don't expect to ever see you again). I know many random, useless things, and it's not even the kind of stuff that is generally helpful at trivia. I refuse to take myself too seriously, and can't stand people who won't laugh at themselves. If you don't get sarcasm, then we will NOT get along. There's very little that I hate more than having someone "correct" me and "explain" something to me after I make an obviously sarcastic statement. I overuse ellipses way too much... I love intellectual/philosophical/religious discussions, and I like people who can logically explain their opinions without attacking and getting defensive.

I really appreciate proper grammar and flowing prose. If you confuse your/you're, it's not a deal-breaker...but I'll definitely cringe when I read it.

People who spend significant amounts of time with me say that I've helped them to view life in a different way. I don't view the world through the same lens as the vast majority.

If you're looking for a girl who is simple and easy, keep looking. I'm layered and complex and intense... and totally worth it. I've been told that I'm like the boss level of a video game. Interpret that as you will.

*** As an aside, I find the various ways people interpret this section to be very interesting. When I saw the prompt, the first few things that came to mind as "my self summary" turned out to be random things that conveyed a bit of the diversity/whimsy/eccentricities that make up me and my thinking. Stream of consciousness (the fact that I drank a LOT of cough syrup before writing my original profile may have had something to do with that). It never occurred to me to list random accomplishments, occupation, place of origin and/or interests, as so many others do, because those are just superficial aspects of my life. My interests are diverse and change on a whim. They don't affect my core being. They wouldn't be included on an "About me" because they aren't WHO I am. In fact, I prefer to surround myself with people who have DIFFERENT interests (so that we may learn from each other and challenge each other) but similar curiosities about life, self, the universe, knowledge, and whatever else comes to mind that isn't mundane.

My original summary, I have only realized after viewing other profiles, is inadvertently completely abstract and intangible. I would encourage others to consider doing the same. Distinguish yourself from the masses!
What I’m doing with my life
Running in the rain whenever possible, and trying to satisfy my wanderlust.

I'm an old soul who seeks like-minded individuals.
I’m really good at
-getting into awkward situations and therefore always having fantastic stories to tell
-knowing, and keeping, everyone's secrets (people, including complete strangers, tend to tell me their life stories and/or extremely personal information for no apparent reason)
-looking like other people/having a generic face (strangers always think they know me from somewhere or think I'm someone else or say that I look like a certain celebrity)
-laughing at bad/stressful situations
-U-turns (loooots of practice)
-reading micro-expressions
-amusing myself
-making rice pudding
-making up words (mostly by turning them into parts of speech that they were never meant to be... nouns become verbs, etc.)
-speaking in bad accents
The first things people usually notice about me
The sparkle in my eyes. I'm not guessing here. This is what I've been told on many occasions. People interpret it as intelligence and passion...and they just might be right.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Björk, Amelie, Alton Brown, Dvorak, Debussy, Puccini (a soprano who likes Puccini... Shocking, I know...), Dali (why can't I list art?), Mad Men, Dr. Who (I'm a recent convert), dystopian novels, The Alchemist, The Little Prince, The Civil Wars, and Catch-22 (and Oxford commas, apparently, as I've just noticed...).

***Buddy Wakefield*** (spoken word) Oh my gosh, he came to St. Louis, and it was one of the most inspirational experiences of my life.

Basically, I like any art that moves me.

Foodwise, I love trying new restaurants of any type. I love things rare or raw, which includes rare lamb burgers, steak or tuna tartare, and sushi, like every other person on OkCupid. I've recently gotten on a butternut squash kick. I made ravioli for my mama when she was sick (awww...).

I love walking/hiking in parks: Forest Park, Castlewood, Creve Coeur Lake, Lone Elk,Pickle Springs, and so forth. Send me your favorite that isn't on the list!
The six things I could never do without
1.) a sound and curious mind

2.) water
I grew up on a lake (a real, natural one, not any of that man-made Ozarks stuff) and by the ocean, so being land-locked in Missouri is a bit of a struggle for me

3.) access to knowledge and new ideas
It could be the internet, it could be talks at museums, it could be drunk old men in bars, it could be books, but I need to know things and I need my ideas to be shaken up and challenged.

4.) a way to express myself
The urge most often manifests itself as either singing or writing, but I've been compelled to find various creative outlets from a young age and I've found that I'm healthiest when I have a means to create.

5.) people to love
My family is hilarious, and they keep me grounded and on track. My friends have been there for me through a lot. I have an overflowing, giving heart, and I need to be able to love.

6.) a sense of humor
My ability to laugh at stressful situations and not take myself too seriously has carried me through a lot of tough times.

If you said, "Air, food, water, shelter, that's it," or some such variation, well... you're completely missing the spirit of the question, now aren't you? I haven't learned anything about you except that you're very literal and not the least bit creative. You're not better than anyone for not being materialistic; you're just boring. So please don't message me. Kisses!
I spend a lot of time thinking about "a single action can cause a life to veer off in a direction it was never meant to go".

...whether true free will exists or if we are all just a product of our environment. it's really cool to see what the young universe looked like when you look at images from the Hubble telescope. many men think it's clever/unique to mention "preparing for a zombie apocalypse," or some variation, in this section.

...etymology. hypocritical it is for me to be judgmental of judgmental people. so much of society is determined by tradition, and how different things would be if people stopped and questioned the logical validity of the things that they do because "that's just how it's done".

...the fluidity of time.
On a typical Friday night I am
doing any number of things. I make my fun wherever I am.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I sometimes worry that I won't find the proper balance of person here. I'm looking for someone to take things slow with, enjoy each other's company, while being open to the idea of love and willing to be vulnerable. My experiences on here have seemed to vary from extremes of wanting to develop intense emotions way too quickly, and not wanting to develop them at all.

(And in real life, I just meet jerks who say things like, "Watch, I'm gonna rub my body on her ass." Then after it actually happens, to my shock and horror, I turn around and say,"I can hear you. When you speak, I hear your words." And he responds with,"Oh, that was pretty rude of me, huh? So. How you doin?" Yeah, you want stories? I got those...)

Also. Sometimes I like listening to "O Fortuna" from Carl Orff's "Carmina Burana" while I'm cleaning, because it makes me feel like I'm waging an epic battle against untidiness.

Furthermore: I always read profiles all the way through before looking at pictures, because the information contained in the profile is far more important to me than silly I'm always really disappointed (probably mostly with myself) when I feel like I'm really jiving with the voice in a profile and then I look at the pictures and I'm not attracted AT ALL....

So there you go, several random private thoughts of mine. Now, don't you feel silly for your cop out, "It wouldn't be private if I put it on the internet!" answer?
I’m looking for
  • Everybody
  • Ages 25–37
  • Near me
  • For new friends
You should message me if
Please don't message me if we have less than an 80% match, because it probably means that you're homophobic, racist, misogynistic, a Bible thumper, generally a bigot, and/or one of those "normal, average" people. Yikes.

Definitely message me if you're any *lady* who would get along with me. A lot of my female friends have moved away, so I'd love to make more. If it goes beyond that, great, but I'd be happy with friendship.

Also, just a heads up, please don't ask me about singing/opera. I was forced, for various reasons, to take some time off from opera (I still do random non-opera performances here and there, but not many), and sometimes it makes me sad to talk about. I'll get an otherwise lovely message, then someone will ask abut singing, then I won't know how to respond and it will sit in my inbox and get buried. I can share the story in person if I get to know you, but I'm exhausted with telling internet strangers about it all.

If you don't work the typical 9-5, M-F schedule, I'd love to hear from you, even just to hang out! I'm often off during the week (yes, I do work full time, as a manager), and I would love to have someone to accompany me on expeditions exploring St. Louis during those times.

If you want to see some live music with me (classical, blues, rock, anything), let's do it!