For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
Yesterday – 5:45pm
5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Atheism, and laughing about it
Sagittarius, and it’s fun to think about
Dropped out of space camp
Entertainment / Media
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), German (Poorly)
I'm in a beautifully honest and open relationship with someone
(Daring2Explore) who makes me happy and we have an exquisitely
chaotic, blended family together. I'm also searching for a friend
with benefits who can also get to know me and my partner and
possibly grow into a relationship.
If this gives you a little pause and is making you frantically
search for the back button on your browser, I won't be offended.
How many of us have really examined our relationships or been
truthful enough to explore them with a partner secure and
supportive enough to let us?
I'm also not going to spend a great deal of time explaining what
polyamory means to me or what open relationships are. I'd rather
find someone who is already familiar and comfortable with those
concepts and accepting that I have a primary partner, that she
knows and is fully aware of who I spend my time with, and that I
encourage her to do the same out of a true desire for our mutual
happiness. If that's not you, I wish you the very best of success
and love and always looking for platonic friends to join us for
game nights at our home.
I would much rather find out more about you - what inspires you,
what motivates you, what you geek out about when no one is looking
and what turns you on. I'm sensitive, respectful, intelligent and
unlikely to have a monosyllabic exchange with you that tells you
nothing about me. I'm also not likely to send you multiple
photographs of my appendage from many different angles. I have one,
I'm proud of it, and it suits me just fine. Sex is fantastic and is
a beautiful expression of humanity that I have explored openly in
alternative lifestyles, but it's not the only thing I'm looking
for. Connection matters to me far more than friction. Once we have
that, everything else is negotiable. I'm passionate with the people
who are important to me and I hope you're the same.
For the cynics out there I suppose I have to say this: Yes, she
knows. We keep no secrets from each other and I encourage her to
seek out relationships of her own. She'll most likely invite you
over for dinner with the family if things develop that way between
us (she's an excellent cook). While I'm looking for someone to date
me, we're not expecting you to jump into bed with us. We don't
really have the time for swinging, although we don't judge those
If you're a fearless explorer and understand that relationships are
more than the tiny boxes in which we contain them, I'd love to talk
What I’m doing with my life
Chasing after my seven year-old daughter and my new extended
family, reinventing myself a piece at a time. I'm working toward
rebuilding my life emotionally, financially, and spiritually and
want to make the most of the time that I have with the people I
love. I don't need anyone's help to achieve this, although I don't
mind a few interesting distractions along the way.
I work at a local radio station as their resident geek, so I
probably know far more than I should.
I’m really good at
Some mysteries are best discovered rather than revealed. You expect
me to give away all my secrets? I tend to think and speak in
complete sentences and enjoy expressing myself sensually, using my
words to stimulate the mind and body.
I have other talents as well . . .
The first things people usually notice about me
My eyes, my shoulders, my intelligence and my sweetness. I've been
told I radiate a quiet authority, a hidden dominance beneath the
surface. Indeed, I'll tell you what I want with or without
I'm honest, respectful, compassionate, understanding of boundaries
and limits and want to spend my time with like minds. Good sex is
important to me, and I'm explorative, but it's not what drives
I'm also a skeptic who prefers to look at the world as it is rather
than the way I want it to be. That doesn't mean I have all the
answers or dismiss the value of the human heart - I keep an open
mind but I'm not likely to accept metaphysical explanations for
things that are already explainable. I also respect the role that
various religious traditions have on history and its ability to
uplift the spirit, but you won't likely find me inside a church or
thumbing through the Bible (unless I have a serious intellectual
curiosity to fulfill).
I'm comfortable just listening and don't strive for attention,
although I don't shy away from a good conversation and often quite
charming when you least expect it. I'm intellectual, always
questioning and evaluating people's motivations and philosophy, but
I'm far from a snob. I lean a bit more to the political left and
very outspoken about subjects I'm passionate about, but make an
effort not to judge. My partner is actually a great deal more
populist and right leaning, which makes for some unique
conversations, especially when alcohol is involved.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Douglas Adams, Neil Gaiman and Terry Pratchett, J. M. Barrie, The
Police, Futurama, and nearly anything smothered in green chile.
The six things I could never do without
My daughter's love, my intellect, my passion, constructive uses of
technology, Coca-Cola, and green chile.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The significance of the match percentages on this site. They're
amusing but hardly a reliable indicator of compatibility.
I've often found compatibility in people I least expected and
conflict in those who were the most like me. Sometimes it's
important to take a chance on someone with different backgrounds,
different temperaments, and even somewhat different values.
On a typical Friday night I am
Rolling on the floor tickling my daughter.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am very creative with the people I feel passionately about, very
open and adventurous. I believe love is not a precious commodity
and is meant to be shared. While it's not our primary focus, we're
both very open to alternative lifestyles and sexual exploration. If
it's safe and pleasurable, we've either tried it or want to.
Ultimately, I want someone who feels the same need to
Make me blush!
I'm not opposed to outside relationships and dating - you don't
need to date both of us - but a triad or quad with loving,
affectionate people is certainly not out of the question. There are
no secrets, only fun and love!
You should message me if
... you are beautiful, intelligent, and open-minded. I love a woman
who challenges me intellectually but I have no room for pretentious
intellectualism or exhausting cynicism. I reserve the right to be
stupid on occasion and enjoy spending time with someone who doesn't
take herself too seriously. If you are irreverent, non-judgemental,
open-minded and adventurous sensually, emotionally, and
spiritually, I want to meet you.
I'm content to wait for my goddess (or goddesses), so I'm not going
to add to the growing list of inarticulate or hormonal e-mail
currently flooding your inbox. [Seriously, you get enough
unsolicited e-mail. Write me because you find ME interesting!]