If this gives you a little pause and is making you frantically search for the back button on your browser, I won't be offended. How many of us have really examined our relationships or been truthful enough to explore them with a partner secure and supportive enough to let us?
I'm also not going to spend a great deal of time explaining what polyamory means to me or what open relationships are. I'd rather find someone who is already familiar and comfortable with those concepts and accepting that I have a primary partner, that she knows and is fully aware of who I spend my time with, and that I encourage her to do the same out of a true desire for our mutual happiness. If that's not you, I wish you the very best of success and love and always looking for platonic friends to join us for game nights at our home.
I would much rather find out more about you - what inspires you, what motivates you, what you geek out about when no one is looking and what turns you on. I'm sensitive, respectful, intelligent and unlikely to have a monosyllabic exchange with you that tells you nothing about me. I'm also not likely to send you multiple photographs of my appendage from many different angles. I have one, I'm proud of it, and it suits me just fine. Sex is fantastic and is a beautiful expression of humanity that I have explored openly in alternative lifestyles, but it's not the only thing I'm looking for. Connection matters to me far more than friction. Once we have that, everything else is negotiable. I'm passionate with the people who are important to me and I hope you're the same.
For the cynics out there I suppose I have to say this: Yes, she knows. We keep no secrets from each other and I encourage her to seek out relationships of her own. She'll most likely invite you over for dinner with the family if things develop that way between us (she's an excellent cook). While I'm looking for someone to date me, we're not expecting you to jump into bed with us. We don't really have the time for swinging, although we don't judge those that do.
If you're a fearless explorer and understand that relationships are more than the tiny boxes in which we contain them, I'd love to talk to you.