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41 M Albuquerque, NM

My Details

Last Online
Today – 11:31am
5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Atheism, and laughing about it
Sagittarius, and it’s fun to think about
Dropped out of space camp
Entertainment / Media
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I'm not going to carpetbomb you with one-liners or incoherent proposals which tell you nothing about me. You won't receive unsolicited requests for sex or be assaulted with pictures of my best friend (I'm proud enough of it not to inflict it on strangers). I don't believe in fairytales, so you won't find any in this profile.

I am polyamorous and currently in an honest, open relationship with Daring2Explore. This is not subject to change so if you want to meet me you will eventually meet or talk to her.

No, I'm not cheating.
No, I'm not giving myself permission to play around. In fact, I encourage her to do the same.
No, you won't have to date both of us.
Yes, she is okay with this and will have full knowledge. If you're interested in anything more than a friendship, you will need to be okay with this as well.

I am quite aware that this is not for everyone and to those I wish you all the very best of luck finding the monogamous relationship of your dreams.

Those of you experienced with polyamory and open-relationships are welcome to reply although it's certainly not a requirement to just be friends. My lover and I can respect the beauty in each other's differences and we hope you can as well. Ideally, I'd like to find a secondary for myself or a couple who fits our diverse interests and personalities.

What is more important is that you're sweet, non-judgmental, open-minded, and adventurous. While I have no problem explaining what the poly lifestyle means to me and what I want, I'm allergic to judgmental people and those of you who feel compelled to comment negatively about various forms of consensual non-monogamy has probably never had an honest relationship in their life. It takes a great deal of trust and commitment. It's complicated enough dating one person, so it really depends on your own experience and comfort level - I'm perfectly happy dating one-on-one as long as you understand there will be no secrets.

I'm interested in forming meaningful relationships with others, whether that relationship leads to chat pals, serious romance, casual relationships, or simple unbiased friendship.

I believe relationships should be about the journey, not the destination. They should be about sharing who you are with someone, not about possession. I'm not looking to get married - I've been there already. I don't want children - my six year-old daughter and my partner's kids keep me well-occupied. I am mature and respectful, complicated, sensual, charming in the right company, intellectual but not pretentious, and very open to new people and new experiences. I do not have an agenda, nor am I seeking one who has. I love sex but I prefer connection over friction anytime.

I'm not opposed to outside relationships and dating, but a triad or quad with loving, affectionate couples and singles is not out of the question. I'm always looking for new friends, so you're always welcome to say hello.
What I’m doing with my life
Chasing after my six year-old daughter and my new extended family, reinventing myself a piece at a time. I'm working toward rebuilding my life emotionally, financially, and spiritually and want to make the most of the time that I have with the people I love. I don't need anyone's help to achieve this, although I don't mind a few interesting distractions along the way.

I work at a local radio station as their resident geek, so I probably know far more than I should.
I’m really good at
Some mysteries are best discovered rather than revealed. You expect me to give away all my secrets? I tend to think and speak in complete sentences and enjoy expressing myself sensually, using my words to stimulate the mind and body.

I have other talents . . .
The first things people usually notice about me
My eyes, my shoulders, my intelligence and my sweetness. I've been told I radiate a quiet authority, a hidden dominance beneath the surface. Indeed, I'll tell you what I want with or without words.

I'm comfortable just listening and don't strive for attention, although I don't shy away from a good conversation and often quite charming when you least expect it. I'm intellectual, always questioning and evaluating people's motivations and philosophy, but I'm far from a snob. I lean a bit more to the political left and very outspoken about subjects I'm passionate about, but make an effort not to judge. My girlfriend is actually more populist and right leaning, which makes for some unique conversations, especially when alcohol is involved.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Douglas Adams, Neil Gaiman and Terry Pratchett, J. M. Barrie, The Police, Futurama, and nearly anything smothered in green chile.
The six things I could never do without
My daughter's love, my intellect, my passion, constructive uses of technology, Coca-Cola, and green chile.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The significance of the match percentages on this site. They're amusing but hardly a reliable indicator of compatibility.

I've often found compatibility in people I least expected and conflict in those who were the most like me. Sometimes it's important to take a chance on someone with different backgrounds, different temperaments, and even somewhat different values.
On a typical Friday night I am
Rolling on the floor tickling my daughter.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am very creative with the people I feel passionately about, very open and adventurous. I believe love is not a precious commodity and is meant to be shared. While it's not our primary focus, we're both very open to alternative lifestyles and sexual exploration. If it's safe and pleasurable, we've either tried it or want to. Ultimately, I want someone who feels the same need to explore. I want a connection, not friction.

Make me blush!

I'm not opposed to outside relationships and dating - you don't need to date both of us - but a triad or quad with loving, affectionate couples is not out of the question. There are no secrets, only fun and love!
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 21–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
... you are beautiful, intelligent, and open-minded. I love a woman who challenges me intellectually but I have no room for pretentious intellectualism or exhausting cynicism. I reserve the right to be stupid on occasion and enjoy spending time with someone who doesn't take herself too seriously. If you are irreverent, non-judgemental, open-minded and adventurous sensually, emotionally, and spiritually, I want to meet you.

I'm content to wait for my goddess (or goddesses), so I'm not going to add to the growing list of inarticulate or hormonal e-mail currently flooding your inbox. [Seriously, you get enough unsolicited e-mail. Write me because you find ME interesting!]