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41 M Albuquerque, NM

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 21–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Today – 4:07pm
5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Atheism, and laughing about it
Sagittarius, and it’s fun to think about
Dropped out of space camp
Entertainment / Media
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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There is no magic formula for relationships and no direct path to happiness. Each relationship is unique and can take on a life of its own. For those of you looking for your soulmate, I wish you the very best of success and happiness.

As for me, I'm in an beautifully honest, open relationship with someone (Daring2Explore) who makes me happy and we have a wonderfully chaotic, blended family together. We give each other the freedom to explore our happiness with others - emotionally, intellectually, and sexually - but it takes a special kind of person to accept our existing relationship without judgment. I'd be more than happy to discuss my philosophy on relationships and what polyamory and responsible non-monogamy means to me, but I understand if it's not for you and I have no desire spending more time explaining myself than getting to know you better.

I'm very explorative and have a lot of experience with alternative lifestyles but I'm not particularly interested in one-night stands or strictly casual relationships. I'm not opposed to a "friends with benefits" situation, but I would much prefer an intimate friend who is comfortable exploring with me or even hanging out with me and my partner socially. I'm not ruling out a more significant relationship if the chemistry is right (yes it is possible), but I have no expectations or hangups about what kind of relationship is right. If it feels good and it harms none, I'm willing to explore. I am passionate about the people who are important to me and I hope you are the same.

For the cynics out there I suppose I have to say this: Yes, she knows. We keep no secrets from each other and I encourage her to seek out relationships of her own. She'll most likely invite you over for dinner with the family if things develop that way between us (she's an excellent cook). While I'm looking for someone to date me, we're not expecting you to jump into bed with us. We don't really have the time for swinging, although we don't judge those that do.

If you're a fearless explorer and understand that relationships are more than the tiny boxes in which we contain them, I'd love to talk to you.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Chasing after my six year-old daughter and my new extended family, reinventing myself a piece at a time. I'm working toward rebuilding my life emotionally, financially, and spiritually and want to make the most of the time that I have with the people I love. I don't need anyone's help to achieve this, although I don't mind a few interesting distractions along the way.

I work at a local radio station as their resident geek, so I probably know far more than I should.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Some mysteries are best discovered rather than revealed. You expect me to give away all my secrets? I tend to think and speak in complete sentences and enjoy expressing myself sensually, using my words to stimulate the mind and body.

I have other talents as well . . .
The first things people usually notice about me
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My eyes, my shoulders, my intelligence and my sweetness. I've been told I radiate a quiet authority, a hidden dominance beneath the surface. Indeed, I'll tell you what I want with or without words.

I'm comfortable just listening and don't strive for attention, although I don't shy away from a good conversation and often quite charming when you least expect it. I'm intellectual, always questioning and evaluating people's motivations and philosophy, but I'm far from a snob. I lean a bit more to the political left and very outspoken about subjects I'm passionate about, but make an effort not to judge. My girlfriend is actually more populist and right leaning, which makes for some unique conversations, especially when alcohol is involved.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Douglas Adams, Neil Gaiman and Terry Pratchett, J. M. Barrie, The Police, Futurama, and nearly anything smothered in green chile.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My daughter's love, my intellect, my passion, constructive uses of technology, Coca-Cola, and green chile.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The significance of the match percentages on this site. They're amusing but hardly a reliable indicator of compatibility.

I've often found compatibility in people I least expected and conflict in those who were the most like me. Sometimes it's important to take a chance on someone with different backgrounds, different temperaments, and even somewhat different values.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Rolling on the floor tickling my daughter.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I am very creative with the people I feel passionately about, very open and adventurous. I believe love is not a precious commodity and is meant to be shared. While it's not our primary focus, we're both very open to alternative lifestyles and sexual exploration. If it's safe and pleasurable, we've either tried it or want to. Ultimately, I want someone who feels the same need to explore. I want a connection, not friction.

Make me blush!

I'm not opposed to outside relationships and dating - you don't need to date both of us - but a triad or quad with loving, affectionate people is certainly not out of the question. There are no secrets, only fun and love!
You should message me if
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... you are beautiful, intelligent, and open-minded. I love a woman who challenges me intellectually but I have no room for pretentious intellectualism or exhausting cynicism. I reserve the right to be stupid on occasion and enjoy spending time with someone who doesn't take herself too seriously. If you are irreverent, non-judgemental, open-minded and adventurous sensually, emotionally, and spiritually, I want to meet you.

I'm content to wait for my goddess (or goddesses), so I'm not going to add to the growing list of inarticulate or hormonal e-mail currently flooding your inbox. [Seriously, you get enough unsolicited e-mail. Write me because you find ME interesting!]