Androgynous Genderqueer Pansexual, Programmer, HDR Photographer, Road Warrior Cyclist, Polyamorous, Sex-positive, Linux Evangelist, Ethical Slut, Minimalist, Toltec Alchemist
How does one summarize oneself in a small box of text? Very carefully, and by eliding the torrent of details that cannot possibly fit.
I am an androgyne. I occupy a nice, comfortable gender space in between being a man and a woman. I'm transitioning to a more female body, but I will not ever become fully female. I hope one day to be able to easily pass as either a man or a woman, pretty much at will. Until then, I'll just enjoy my process.
I write code. I bike around town, frequently with a camera, taking pictures, sometimes of things that do not look very photogenic in the beginning and become works of art by the time I am done. I hang out with good friends for whom smalltalk is something we do for five minutes and then we go deep. I share my bed with cats (for some definition of "share", but they are pretty good at leaving me some room). I practice unwiring my emotional triggers. I try to build solid friendships. I look for sex. I look for ways to connect with people. I give up when I cannot find a way beyond surface-level conversation. I say "let me dream into that", and sincerely mean that I will let my dreams help me understand how I feel about "that", whatever "that" is.
I run experiments on every single fragment of my life I can dream of to run experiments on, and then I find new things to experiment with. I have experimented with celibacy, with great success. I have experimented with maintaining silence. I have experimented with running around naked at burn events... but then, most other people do, too.
My current experiment, living in a 200 square foot space at least 10km from civilization, gained results very quickly. I've decided, within a month of getting here, that I love everything about it except that the biking out here is pretty awful.
I occupy a nice, comfortable gender space in between being a man and a woman. I'm transitioning to a more female body, in that I am trying very hard to grow breasts and learn to use makeup to reshape my face, but I will not ever become fully female because I don't want to be fully be a man or a woman when there are so many *other* genders that I can be!
I seek friendships. Deep, soul-revealing, vulnerability-inducing friendships. And I seek sex partners who are willing to go very deep into friendship. I don't need a lifelong relationship, but I need lovers who are dedicated to their personal growth and who are willing to show up and be seen for real with who they really are, and who want to see me for who I really am. People who want to walk through fire and discover that, in the end, the fire is actually kinda comfortable!
If you are still conflicted around sex, if you carry a lot of shame, can't figure out your sexual orientation, or just don't like sex all that much, I'm not the person for you. I might be able to talk with you, help you figure out ways to get around and start unravelling the shame, but not while I'm in any kind of romance with you.
My work with the Toltec community is important to me. I actually do believe in stuff like Reiki, Chakras, and even some sense of God, Astrology, and the Tarot. If you're strongly anti-spirituality, we probably wouldn't get along. An best we can have a casual friendship, maybe occasionally getting together to play games or have coffee, but that's about it.
I have to offer integrity, respect, a passion for creating, an ability to explain or teach, a willingness to learn, and a constant commitment to becoming more conscious in all of my activities. I would bring all of my previous experience with conducting poly relationships. I would bring in a willingness to face fear and have the difficult discussions that inevitably crop up. I will bring curiosity, passion, and an interest in exploration into the bedroom.