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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 40–55
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Oct 4
5' 8" (1.73m)
Body Type
Agnosticism and laughing about it
Doesn’t have kids
Has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Thanks for stopping by. Good catch seeking another good catch. Romance is both generous and patient. I'm seeking a down to earth active, smart woman for fun and adventure. Your smile makes my heart skip a beat and your kiss causes my knees to weaken. You might be up for anything, like a vacation to a developing nation, traveling as the locals do, to experience a place. No ritzy seaside resorts where everyone swims in the pool rather than the sea. If you've never done it before, leave the details to me. You might be into camping in high mountains. These are by no means deal breakers, by the way.

Mutual trust, attraction, intimacy, and good open communication are the most important things in a healthy, happy relationship. I am affectionate and emotionally available.

Some odd facts about me:

I am a bit of a collection of paradoxes.
I eat meat, but don't like to kill insects, even those bazillion leg millithings that give me the creeps, which I catch and release. Small spiders in the house don't bother me, but if one's presence bothers you I will catch it and toss it outside. Although I care about the environment and usually bike or bus to work, sometimes I drive a car the same age as I that boasts an amazing 12-20 mpg. Sometimes I judge people for being so judgmental (though I'll never judge you). I can't tolerate intolerance.

I am smarter than your phone.

I am one of about three straight men nationwide who have no interest in sports.

The word "awesome" is often used to describe things that aren't.
What I’m doing with my life
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Oh, lots of things. I need a few hundred more years to get it all done. I enjoy many outdoor activities, such as long-distance biking, paddling, walking in nature, cross-country skiing (though I have never skied across the country, believe it or not). I miss hiking in the mountains. I play tenor saxophone in two big jazz bands. You know, living the dream.

I make a living overseeing a team of intrepid civil rights investigators.

I have been fortunate to have had some unique experiences, like living at a Buddhist monastery in Nova Scotia one summer.

I lived in a tiny country in Africa for two years serving in the Peace Corps, so every now and then I crave international travel, but don't do nearly enough. Perhaps we could change that.

Let's talk about you now...
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
This could open the door to arrogance, which I tend to avoid. I'm really good at a few things, pretty good at a bunch of things, pretty bad at a bunch of other things, and really bad at a few things, like brain surgery for example. Here are a few: Stating the obvious. Understatement. Dry humor. Repairing things such as my house or car, making people laugh (sometimes unintentionally), massages, cooking (including vegetarian), standing on my head, listening.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Beats the crap out of me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Fresh Air with Terry Gross, various international foods, jazz, lots of things.
I like unusual and foreign films.
Music: Rolling Stones, Stevie Wonder, James Brown, P Funk, Count Basie, Thelonius Monk, Tim Whalen Nonet (in Madison). I could really go on and on.
A Lawyer's Journey - The Morris Dees Story; kudos if you know who is Morris Dees!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
This seems a bit corntrived, but I'll be a good boy and play along.
My saxophone
My family
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Funny things
How weird this world is
The next adventure
Playing music and kayaking, not simultaneously yet
The world and its condition
Reducing my environmental impact
Living mindfully and compassionately and purposefully
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
There are no "typical" Friday nights. Well, sometimes there are. Though I watch frightfully little TV I have been getting into whatever British detective show is on WPTV.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Sure! I laugh every time I hear the rooster crow at the beginning of those NPR Morning Edition promos - every time.
You should message me if
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you want to. Also if you're interested in meeting a friendly, playful, somewhat unconventional guy and you're kind, playful, and curious.