First.... Notice that I specified "new friends" as my interest (way down there at the bottom of this column). That's not an insidious ploy designed to slip past the defenses of the unsuspecting. It actually means just what it says: I like finding new friends, and you never know when and where you just might find some real gems.
Okay, here goes....
I have a kind heart. If I see people hurt, it hurts me. I can't stand cruelty and I can't comprehend people who are capable of dishing it out.
I like learning about people. People are interesting. And friendships are incalculably valuable, so any opportunity for a new friendship is appealing.
Character matters to me. There are other things that are great and that are even important to me--a beautiful face, a great figure, high intelligence, a good sense of humor, quick wit, an easy laugh and smile, athleticism, an easygoing personality.... But, as desirable and attractive as those attributes are to me, they're not enough without character. There's just no substitute for character.
Age range: I don't have one. I relate to everyone the same. I have found that there is no automatic correlation between age and character, or even age and maturity. I've known people of all ages with strong character and maturity...and I've known people of all ages without. So, for me, age is not a defining or limiting factor. Character is, maturity is, some other things are. Age isn't.
Some odds and ends: INTP. An irreverent sense of humor that I haven't employed here because too many people wouldn't know when I'm joking (the kind that frequently prompts, "Oh No He Didn't!"). Mensa. Varied hobbies, varied interests. Recently, though, I have spent more time reading and listening to music than anything else.
Music: My tastes are broad. As long as it's well done for its particular style, I will probably like it. As I'm typing this, I have about 3,000 different artists on my iPod, and I doubt there is any genre that's not represented. I just like music.
I borrowed the following; it communicates some things better than I ever could:
When I say "I am a Christian," I'm not shouting "I'm clean livin'." I'm whispering "I was lost, but I've been found and been forgiven." When I say "I am a Christian," I don't speak of this with pride. I'm confessing that I stumble and need Christ to be my guide. When I say "I am a Christian," I'm not trying to be strong. I'm professing that I'm weak and need His strength to carry on. When I say "I am a Christian," I'm not bragging of success. I'm admitting I have failed and need God to clean my mess. When I say "I am a Christian," I'm not claiming to be perfect. My flaws are far too visible, but God says I am worth it. When I say "I am a Christian," I still feel the sting of pain. I have my share of heartaches so I call upon His name. When I say "I am a Christian," I'm not holier-than-thou; I'm just a simple sinner who received God's grace, somehow. (adapted from a poem by Carol Wimmer) So, yeah, that's me. I'm a follower of Christ, and I don't follow nearly as well as I should, but it's the most defining and most important thing in my life.
Some things I've done, for what it's worth: I've run an international subsidiary of a large company. I've owned and run my own company (publishing, distribution, retail). I work in executive management, and I love new challenges--thrive in that kind of environment. I've travelled a fair amount--most of the states and somewhere around a dozen countries. I love it when it's leisure travel, but not so much when it's just business...because I have to spend my time there working. I'd love to visit again everywhere I've been, and lots of places I haven't. It's a big, fascinating, cool world.
I'll try to come back later and write some additional substantive stuff (and respond to all these other prompts!). In the meantime....
The quotes below are listed for no reason at all, other than to provide some entertainment, food for thought, or just a vehicle to while away a couple of minutes of time that you'll never get back. (Plus, it's a cheap way to pad my content.)
The only limits in life are those you create by your presumptions, by your prejudices, by your fears, and by your shortsightedness.
By all means, extend trust. But, extend it very slowly. If you worry that you may be extending trust TOO slowly, rest assured...you're still going too fast. :)
No matter what it is, make it fun! Why would you NOT make it fun?
Don't compare people to other people. Don't do it to yourself, and don't do it to others. Base your assessments and your positions on absolutes, not on the ever-shifting standards of relativism.
What people need most is simple kindness. What people need least is judgment. Just be kind. Your kindness can keep someone from going completely under. Your judgment can be the blow that finally sinks them. What you do can determine whether someone keeps trying to breathe or just gives up completely.
He jests at scars who never felt a wound. --William Shakespeare (Romeo and Juliet)
Don't flatter yourself that friendship authorizes you to say disagreeable things to your intimates. The nearer you come into relation with a person, the more necessary do tact and courtesy become. Except in cases of necessity, which are rare, leave your friend to learn unpleasant things from his enemies; they are ready enough to tell them. --Oliver Wendell Holmes
Once the game is over, the King and the pawn go back in the same box. --Italian proverb
There is no such thing on earth as an uninteresting subject; the only thing that can exist is an uninterested person. --G. K. Chesterton
The dirty little secret of many people is that work is simply their drug of choice. And, almost every person they know praises them for their addiction, their mechanism of escape.
If you're too busy for someone who really needs you, you're too busy.
Many people, though alive, already bear with painful awareness the wound of a living epitaph—“Not Gone, But Forgotten.”
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by.
What was I thinking?!?
There's a reeeeason people don't take this road!
The early worm gets to fly. It's all a matter of perspective.
Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing. --Helen Keller, The Open Door (1957)
I know all about hope. Hope is that place where pleasure and pain, exhilaration and agony, promise and despair intersect and torturously coexist. Hope has always been my seductress, teasing and beckoning with coy wink, luring with insinuation of lasting delight, enticing and convincing me to expend all that I have in order to finally win Rachel, only to awaken the next morning with Leah instead. Hope is bane disguised as balm. Phantom fulfillment. Joy's ghost.
Money often costs more than it is worth.
The thing that makes you exceptional, if you are at all, is inevitably that which must also make you lonely. --Lorraine Hansberry
It is not the critic who counts: not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes up short again and again, because there is no effort without error or shortcoming, but who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, who spends himself for a worthy cause; who, at the best, knows, in the end, the triumph of high achievement, and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who knew neither victory nor defeat. --Theodore Roosevelt
If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things. --Albert Einstein
My yearning desire is to depart (to be free of this world, to set forth) and be with Christ, for that is far, far better. --Philippians 1:23 (Amplified Bible)
I dwell in possibility. --Emily Dickinson