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scarfboi

32 / M / Straight / Single

Delft, Netherlands

His Details

Last Online
Today – 2:15am
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 0″ (1.82m).
Body Type
Thin
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Atheism but not too serious about it
Sign
Scorpio but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Computer / Hardware / Software
Income
Offspring
Pets
Likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Dutch (Fluently), German (Poorly), Indonesian (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I'm a curious smartass and a shameless geek. I may have a little too much love for a good bad pun.

I'm probably not as weird as I like to think I am. Some will disagree. I think it's because I'm so usually mild-mannered that few people notice the other sides.

I treat many things intuitively, but have little problem forcing rational distance when I think it's useful or educational. I can be seduced to both ends most of the time.

It seems my brand of romanticism is looking for a partner in crime much more than the hollywood one.

I have little patience for protocol and platitudes. I'm fond of directness. I suck at smalltalk but love good nonsense. I have both a habit of feeling a little out of place and, having connected with someone, utterly forgetting to do so.

I realize this makes me difficult, particularly at first, and sometimes unnecessarily so. Even so, my attitude has gotten me some awesome friends. Recognition rules that way.

I'm perhaps a little too self-made. I call myself a cynical optimist. I'm interested in more things than I have time for.

It's all pretty fickle, but it makes sense to me.
What I’m doing with my life
Have done job, freelance work, and both at once. Am considering moving to the other hemisphere, and/or a research job assuming I can find one within my real interests.
Occasionally dreaming a bit about other things I might be able to live on.
The first things people usually notice about me
I really don't know, and I've not asked yet.
My apparent minimum velocity, perhaps.
Various people have asked whether I'm a dancer. This pleases me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I like interesting storytelling, but am a lot more satisfied when it has some reality, point, exploration, or some wildly personal or challenging things - I even prefer it in the schlocky, escapist, good-bad movie, and eye-candy stuff. I'm picky about half-hearted attempts.

My cheerup movies used to be Tank Girl and The Fifth Element but I've not seen either in a bit. I have different kinds of love for the Aliens series, Ghibli stuff, Real Genius, Princess Bride, Clue, Bound, Rocky Horror, Empire Records, and a handful or two of others. If you have a nontrivial theory why I have a soft spot for movies like Ballistic and Resident Evil, I like you.

Haven't watched TV for a long time. I do get occasional series addictions, often on the sci fi or gritty side of things - think Torchwood, B5, various Stargates, Doctor Who, Fringe, Dollhouse, Warehouse 13, and more which I'll admit to later. I recently started rewatching things like BtVS and DS9.
I like various anime and a few jdramas, for the style and the silliness. Nodame is awesome.

I read when I commute, rarely in bed. Probably because I rarely sit still when I'm not working.

I tend not to stick to authors, except for periodic patterns in Pratchett, Gaiman, and lately Peter F. Hamilton again.
I'm currently working on Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance and Anais Nin. And the recent Yotsuba :)

last.fm is relatively accurate though the navigation through unusual generes doesn't show. My longest-term squee is probably for Tori Amos, K's Choice, Fiona Apple, Garbage, Lamb, and Björk (mostly her nineties stuff). I've more recent loves I'm sure will make that list soon enough.
Disturbing soft spots include bouncy eighties pop. I like Aqua beyond its use as torture material. I rather like Tim Minchin's stuff.

I like my food spicy. Thai, Indian, Indonesian, that sort.
My own cooking is improving slowly, a little more so after I broke enough blenders to decide not to buy more. I am omnivorous, but cook almost exclusively vegetarian.
The six things I could never do without
Rainstorms. The occasional person to connect with without the usual protocol. My sense of suspended disbelief about reality and my sense of humour about it. The occasional escapist shiny entertainment. Sleep should probably be on this list, and coffee probably shouldn't be. Working on it.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Comfort and discomfort, from one self and from others, how important it is in interactions. Being positive without the cult of positivity. Memory. Rationalization. Shirked issues. Creativity. Society and how it might work with fewer misunderstandings. Intelligence, real and artificial. Deviance and dark sides.
Whether the matching is off because of low-hanging-fruit questions.
Lately, whether listing myself as casual makes any sense whatsoever.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have a habit of flip flopping between insecure and comfortable.

I'm possibly a bit kinky.

Beyond that, I answer people, not sites. Ask.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 22–39
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, activity partners, long-distance penpals