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54 M Durham, NC

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 30–60
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Today – 4:00am
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Other, but not too serious about it
Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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I'm a work in progress. So is my profile.

I hate trying to describe myself, especially when I feel like I'm trying to sell myself (like in profiles or resumes.)

I was born and raised here in the triangle area. I have traveled a little so I'm not completely out of touch with the rest of the world, but I've never lived anywhere else. I've never really wanted to live anywhere else. In some ways I'm a typical southerner. In others, not even close.

I don't really workout, but I do try to stay fit and active. I like good beer, volleyball, wood working and boats and generally being outdoors.

I've been married... twice. I've finally learned that long term monogamy is not for me. I do not believe that it is reasonable to expect that any one person fulfills all of another person's needs and desires. I have a wonderful relationship with spicyvi and happily she feels the same way about monogamy so we have an open relationship. For us that means that we are both free to meet and date other people as long as we stay safe and keep each other informed of what's going on. If you want to hear her side of it, you can contact her.

I'm not very wordy. Some would call it terse. Don't take it wrong, it's just the way I am. I say what I mean. I'm blunt. Don't try to read between the lines. There's nothing there. I'm on a mission to actively avoid misleading people in my life. That combined with the bluntness might scare you away. If it does, I'm sorry but it's the way I am.
What I’m doing with my life
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... starting a new job, working on various projects around the house, working on the boat...

Hobbies... I guess those are woodwork (currently mostly a boat restoration project) and taijiquan.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Seeing both sides of a situation. Staying calm. Drinking Guinness. Listening. Accepting myself for who I am. Accepting you for who you are.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I really don't know. I hope it's that I'm a happy person... or that I'm hot or something.

I'm told it's that I'm "big". Not fat, but "big"... I don't know, I don't think of me as big.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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books... I don't read much these days... when I do, it's about building boats. Used to be science fiction.

movies... I generally like action films. Not usually critically acclaimed, but fun.

shows... don't go see many of those.

music... classic rock.

food... meat and potatoes. plain.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
a paycheck
Not sure what else.
I'd really rather not have to do without good beer, but if I had to I could.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to fix the next thing on my boat. And then how to find time to do that.

I think about people and and how they react to things. I think about the games people play, but I refuse to play. I think about how people lie to themselves about who they are and what they want.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Chilling at home or out with friends. Nothing fancy.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I study taijiquan (aka T'ai Chi Ch'uan). I didn't realize it until quite recently but apparently some people see that as a sign of extreme weirdness so I'm keeping it to myself more these days.

There are lots of more private things about me, but I'm not willing to admit them *on the internet*. I'll probably admit them in person.
You should message me if
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You have the slightest inclination. I love getting messages.