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Ordinary_Spark

32 M Seattle, WA

My Details

Last Online
Aug 26
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Capricorn, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Science / Engineering
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I promise I'm not as dour or serious in person as this profile might suggest. Once I relax I'm quite silly, often with full-on iconoclastic geekishness.

You can skip to the last section if you like, and save yourself from the TL;DR bulk of this profile. That's where I keep the important stuff.

Born and raised till 9 in rural Pennsylvania, where it was normal to see an Amish neighbor hitching up a team of horses to plow a field. There were no traffic jams, but sometimes you would get stuck behind a buggy. I lived in Ohio till 19, Maine till 22, briefly in Massachusetts and then back to Ohio before making the transition to Seattle in 2005. I really like it out here - everything is covered in plants, the weather is mild, and people are generally non-aggressive. When it feels like tornado weather (midwesterners will know that sickly green light) the worst that'll happen is hail.

I love the wonderful gender equality culture thriving in Seattle. My terrible dark secret isn't really so terrible, dark, or secret anymore. I enjoy being on the vulnerable, receptive side of a physical relationship more, if anything, than I do the other way around. Just as I am unconventionally moral, I am unconventionally masculine. I feel strong attraction to people who don't fit the gender binary.

When the weather turns cold and gray, my garage is filled with the smells of fresh solder smoke a few times a week. I love tinkering, but I'd rather be outside from May through October. That covers the gardening season and the main part of the mushroom hunting season. I have been, and always will be, a naturalist.

I am not naturally comfortable with ambiguity - but emotions and feelings keep the world alive and dancing in way that a cold emotionless spark never could. Feelings have no problem being self-contradictory. It is important to have faith in something more powerful than me, and for me that thing is humanity. Not people, or humans, but the greater whole: all we aspire to, all we have done, and all we will ever do.

I like watching the plants in my yard come to life in the spring, and talk to them while weeding. I also learned how to prune a fruit tree this year - I hope for a larger number of Italian plums and Asian pears.

More than anything else, I am unfinished.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Over the past several years I've been figuring out how to be an adult. I think I've got a few parts ironed out. There were clubs and associations, conferences and shows - volunteering behind the scenes gives a much improved learning experience. I've had a few good relationships, and one really bad one. I'm more or less single at the moment, and I'm content to stay this way for a while. I'm working on improving my own personal life-space. It would be nice to have some more company, though.

In 2006 I started as a student lab assistant at an electrical engineering department, and later was a technician at a physics laboratory. After graduation in 2009 I did some electronics assembly and parts fabrication for one company (liked the boss, hated the work) and tried out being an independent contractor for another (loved the work, hated the boss). I then joined a small engineering shop doing oceanographic work (liked the work, liked the people), which later led to working on a large oceanographic installation (Loved the people, but the work was so incredibly boring) for the past few years. Budget cuts and a shift from preparatory work to at-sea deployment led to me being laid off. I started a new position this June, this time as an engineering lab technician working on aeronautic instrumentation. So far I like the people and the work :-)

In my spare time I like building esoteric electrical devices, and am in general a bit of a DIY'er. My garage is a workshop - the walls are lined with shelves full of a mix of new and old projects and scrap electronics in partial states of being cannibalized. I've built things ranging from radios and electrostimulators to laser microphones and Tesla coils.

Recently I started a continuous brew of kombucha. It's like an ugly houseplant that requires sweet tea as fertilizer and gives delicious fizzy beverage as runoff, except that sunlight would kill it.. ..so it's better than a houseplant! I've also begun making spruced-up sauerkraut. The first batch came out super-delicious, so I've started a second batch, this time with red and green cabbage, carrots, ginger, sweet onion, daikon radish, and cayenne. Update: the second batch was very yummy, but now I have a ton of sauerkraut, so it'll be a while before I start more.

My first-ever garden is producing! This year I experimented with a variety of methods including ordinary raised beds, different types of containers, hugelkulture, and upside-down hanging planters. I've had good success with the strawberries, sweet peppers, various tomatoes, carrots, cilantro, lettuce, basil, cucumbers, sweet corn, sugar snap peas, garbanzo beans, and the Oxalis tuberosa, potatoes, and popcorn are coming along promisingly. The one tomato planted in the hugelkulture plot is insane: 4 feet tall and 10 feet wide, spreading out through all its neighbors. Harvesting requires some delicately balanced poses at times.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Taking things at face value.

Being open about who I am - I dislike compartmentalization.

Contact staff. It forces me to be in the moment.

Noticing visual details. I can work very easily with large amounts of symbolically formatted information.

Going off on tangents. And coming back if you insist.

Analogizing.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Bright eyes and a tendency to smile? I honestly don't know. I guess I should be asking people this question on first dates.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Online Blogs/Comics: Girl Genius, XKCD, Scenes From A Multiverse, Pharyngula, TED Talks, SMBC, Sinfest, The Oatmeal, Science Daily, and Upworthy.

Books: Currently reading Mycophilia by Euginia Bone. Animals in Translation by Temple Grandin opened a whole new chapter in my life. I've gone on to read most of what she's written, minus the dense science publications. The Mind's I, which is a collective work about Philosophy and Cognitive Science, played a crucial role in my transition from spiritualism to agnosticism. Other good books on the shelf: Wonderful Life by Stephen J Gould; Race, Class, and Gender in the United States by Paula Rothernberg; Biological Exuberance by Bruce Bagemihl; Fat of the Land by Langdon Cook; Surely You're Joking, Mr. Feynman by Richard Feynman; The Technology of Orgasm by Rachel Maines; The Telephone Gambit by Seth Shulman; and a heavily worn 1978 edition of Peterson's Field Guide to Edible Wild Plants of Eastern and Central North America, which helped me cope as a child, giving me endless hours of directed searching in woods punctuated by the occasional delicious find.

Movies: Across the Universe, Life of Pi, Adaptation, Hedwig and the Angry Inch, V for Vendetta, Sunshine, How to Train Your Dragon, Primer, Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas, Wonderland, Four rooms, Hero, both Kill Bill 1 and 2, Donnie Darko, Princess Mononoke, The City of Lost Children, Amelie, Wall-E, Ratatouille, Dr. Strangelove, The Abyss.

Music: There is good music in all genres. Gogol Bordello, Devotchka, Norah Jones, Of Monsters and Men, Men at Work, Yeah Yeah Yeahs, Beth Gibbons, David Bowie, Goldfrapp, Manu Chao, La Roux, Dan Le Sac and Scroobius Pip, Paul Oakenfold, Ween, The Beatles, Led Zepplin, Neil Young, Pink Floyd, Nine Inch Nails, DJ Shadow, Beck, VNV Nation, Hooverphonic, Pigface, the Chemical Brothers, Modest Mouse, Gnarls Barkley, Ministry of Sound, Lake Trout, Royksopp, Portishead, Doc Watson, David Grisman, Rustin Man, and the list goes on and on and on.

Food: Good food is good. There is simply too much to list, though previously I did try. My tastes run counter to our cultural trend of thinking that the only way to make something palatable is to drench it in salt, sugar, and fat.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Science*

Friends I can hug, and trust implicitly.

Love for myself and for those close to me

Books about whatever topic piques my interest

Nature at her most raw, preferably rinsed and in a salad

Music

*An evidence-based, self-correcting truth seeking method.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Electronic circuits, wild edible foods, the emotional and mental effects of various substances. Sobriety and its myriad advantages.

Sex, feminism, gender politics, and LGBTQ issues. How bisexual people are not allowed to have a collective identity in our culture. How to achieve greater self-acceptance.

How to recognize my own personal privileges, and use them for good.

Social problems, globalization, humanism, and how to be kind.

The limitations of human perception.

What can I do, right now, to make life better?

Am I being a good enough friend?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
At home, sitting next to my keyboard, visiting with a friend, tinkering, cuddling, drinking tea, or any combination of these things.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have Asperger Syndrome. What this means is that I have the emotional intelligence of a sweet potatoto work harder than most guys to figure out what makes you happy. I am definitely up to the challenge, if you can articulate what you want. I'd probably be most compatible with someone who's patient, kind, and doesn't mind giving constructive feedback on an ongoing basis.

I'm striving toward accepting more ambiguity in myself. Intellectualism doesn't care about emotions, and without being happy, life isn't much worth living.

I take an SSRI (mild side effects only, thankfully), so for the foreseeable future I should not drink any alcohol. Otherwise I am intensely fond of Flemish sour ales.
I’m looking for
  • Guys and girls who like bi guys
  • Ages 24–39
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
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Our match percentages aren't abysmal, and a few of the following apply:

You think devotion to people is more important than devotion to ideology.

We share common politics and unconventional morality.

You enjoy peaceful and quiet environments.

Explicit consent is important to you.

You want to actively engage in DIY projects - build a greenhouse, a quadricycle, a shed, a giant four poster bed, plant a garden and pickle/can/preserve/dry/ferment the results, or just about anything.

You want me to teach your children about electronics - help them build things hands-on while giving creative analogies for the physical processes at work. I'll make their eyes sparkle with literal hair-raising electrostatics, show them levitating objects, how to get power from pennies, or make water boil at room temperature. I'm happy to be a low-key Mr. Wizard/Bill Nye kind of guy. If you're a big kid yourself, I could show you how to make a laser from hardware store parts.

You like playing games and want to teach me to play them with you.

You'd like to come along with me for hikes in the woods.

You'd rather kiss your ideal mate on a mountainside than in a hotel room, all else being equal. (like the relative proximity of a warm bed and a shower)

You own a SHARE. Bonus if it's an XL.