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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 25–45
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 3:21am
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Not at all
Christianity, but not too serious about it
Pisces, and it’s fun to think about
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
This is constantly evolving, as am I ...

I'm a Midwestern transplant from Chicago, with a detour in North Dakota (It's a weird story and I'm pretty certain you've never heard it before) (It involves Jesus in a very interesting way) and moved to New York in 2006. I love words and good conversation, making new friends, hearing their stories and experiencing art in any way it comes. I'm pretty straightforward and direct with a slightly dark, wicked and skewed sense of humor, none of which will translate here because ... tone. And I dislike emoji's but they are a necessary evil in this age. So ... ;-)
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm a freelance hairstylist and am currently working on a gallery show.

I also subscribe to several theatre companies and will sit through pretty much anything. There's always something to take away, even if it's just a really great line reading.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Going with the flow, picking the right filter for Instagram pics and being a great friend. The last bit was by consensus. ;-) I'm also really good at making people laugh, sometimes intentionally, most times not.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Maybe my smile and my laugh. I tend to laugh at the wrong time, all the time.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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• Little Children by Tom Perrotta
• Anything by Tom Perrotta, really
• Let the Great World Spin by Colum McCann
• Revolutionary Road by Richard Yates
• The Garden of Last Days by Andre Dubus
• Beautiful Ruins by Jess Walter
• One Day by David Nicholls
• The Passage by Justin Cronin
• Anything by Jonathan Tropper
• Anything Hanif Kureishi
• Anything by David Rakoff. I re-read his work pretty regularly and am taking my time with his last book. Still pretty sad about his passing.

• Flirting with Disaster
• Heaven
• Love is Strange
• Rabbit Hole
• Anything Joss Whedon ... I'll pretty much watch anything. I like to get lost in the moment, completely suspend reality. I don't ask questions, just shut up and go with it.

• Shameless
• Togetherness
• Luther
• The Good Wife (how excellent is this show. Do yourself a favor and watch this if you aren't already)
• Veep (same as above)
• Law & Order
• Justified
• The 100
• Empire
• The Americans
• Game of Thrones
• Person of Interest
• Childrens Hospital

(Artists currently in my top 25 listened on iTunes)
• Betty Carter
• Carmen McRae
• Eyrkah Badu
• Meshell Ndegeocello
• Tori Amos
• Robert Glasper
• Kings of Convenience
• Beach House
• Janet Jackson
• Jill Scott
• New Order
• Kendrick Lamar
• Prince
• En Vogue ... pretty much anything from the early to mid 90's, r&b, alt rock, house and also a big fan of classic rare disco.

• Thanksgiving dinner. Never disappoints.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
• Real talk with good friends
• Good music
• A warm blanket
• A good laugh
• Touch
• My work
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Everything and nothing.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Curled up on my sofa under my favorite blanket, in a movie theatre, at a play, with friends, working, sleeping, at the ballet ... I lead a random life.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Didn't I just admit to liking (loving) disco? Actually, I can't think of anything right now but that's just because I forget most things that aren't useless trivia.

And I turn into Julianne Moore in Safe when I'm in crowded spaces. All insular, internalized, quiet mid 90s indie film angst ...

And I can't whistle.

Also, in a previous life I trained to be an opera singer. I don't, or can't, sing anymore but I do miss it at the most random times.
You should message me if
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You're interested in meeting me in person. Coffee or a walk around the city ... I'm pretty fun.

p.s. Big plus if you're my height or taller and the big spoon ... Huge plus if you're a good kisser.