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6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Graduated from masters program
Politics / Government
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
My self-summary
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You may have caught me surreptitiously dancing on a Metro platform. Chances aren't bad that it was to something a 15 yearold girl would like - Taylor Swift, Katy Perry, perhaps Christina Aguilera (the old stuff). I suppose that the point of beginning my profile this way – instead of telling you the tremendously distinguishing fact that my friends and family are important to me or that I love a night out dancing but enjoy relaxing on the couch just as much – is because I’m the sort of person who’s confident enough to own up to what he likes: even when that happens to be the late 90s vintage Britney Spears that I listened to while driving my ice-blue dodge caravan at age 16.

I’ve lived all over and come away with a bit of an odd (charming, I'd like to think) combination of different regional characteristics. I cross streets like a New Yorker, have the politics (and sense of guilt when I leave a room without turning the lights off) of a Northern Californian, and try to treat people with kindness – the way people do in Nebraska where I grew up (I did manage to avoid taking on the less-than-charming politics of my home state - you know, the conservative sense of gender roles, homophobia, gun-toting, those sorts of lovely things). Spending a year in grad school at Oxford left me with an appreciation of sticky toffee pudding, an ability to feel comfortable in a tux, and a habit of using “crap” as an adjective (without the “-py”, as in “Well, that was a crap show.”).

I live by certain principles. I believe that hoppy beer should be consumed from a pint glass and not from the bottle, and I like my red wine slightly chilled, not room temperature. I’m a sucker for impeccable grammar and a quick wit. But I definitely don’t take myself too seriously, and I sometimes have a tough time with people who do. (And for the record, I certainly think that there are times when there’s nothing better than a cold bud light from an aluminum can – say, at a summer afternoon baseball game at Nats Park…).

As a traveler, I prefer wandering around neighborhoods and trying out bars and restaurants rather than visiting museums and other tourist-y sites. In the past year, I've explored Cartagena, Bogota, Toronto, Savannah, and Charleston. I like coming home from a trip with a pint glass from a local microbrewery.

I can be a bit impatient. I’m a fast walker, and easily annoyed with people who walk too slowly on the Metro escalator. (On a related note, I really think that escalator-walking would make a great Olympic sport – in addition to speed, there’s a great deal of technique and strategy involved. And the weather can add to the degree of difficulty. Really, it's not that much different from downhill skiing.) At the same time, I love long dinners – I’m the sort of person who has no shame about telling the waitress five times that she’ll need to come back later to take our orders because we’ve been too deep in conversation to have taken a glance at the menu.

And I love people-watching. Not in a creepy way – in a “Let’s see what economic principles and psychological theories we can apply to the couple at the table next to us” sort of way.
What I’m doing with my life
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I lead a team that does education policy work. I love my job: I get to do work that really matters, on extraordinarily challenging issues, with an incredible team of people. It does land me in the newspaper or radio every so often, but I’ve finally learned my lesson about reporters (key lesson: nothing is ever off the record). I started my career teaching middle and high school social studies in the South Bronx as part of Teach for America (kind of a dream job for a history nerd). My Facebook news feed is still completely consumed by my kids (who seem to be largely spending their college careers majoring in social media).
I’m really good at
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Drinking wine and pretending to sound sophisticated about it (I quite enjoy that line between descriptive and ridiculous by using words like leather, minerality, and “chocolate-covered cherries”). Extensively analyzing mundane situations - probably the reason I’m such fan of shows like Parks & Rec and Seinfeld.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I should preface these lists by saying that I don’t think I’m a person whose tastes in music or movies provide tremendous insight into my character. Or maybe that’s just what I tell myself because I’m concerned about what they suggest. Either way, here we go.

Shows: Breaking Bad, Game of Thrones, Parks and Rec, The Americans, Veep, Scandal, Scrubs, Seinfeld, The Wire, West Wing, How I Met Your Mother, Big Bang Theory, House of Cards, Boardwalk Empire, Top Chef, and Project Runway. Yes, I’m a straight guy who loves Project Runway and isn’t afraid to admit it.

Food: My childhood answer was “cheesecake” – because, you know, this is the sort of question you get asked a lot more as a kid than you do as an adult, for some reason. These days, avocados would be near the top of the list. Steak, of course – I’m from Nebraska, after all. Brussels sprouts, which I’m pretty sure is a requirement in order to live in the District.

Movies: I have a probably-irrational degree of trust in Rotten Tomatoes. “Snowpiercer” was the last movie I saw (and quite enjoyed) entirely because Rotten Tomatoes told me to. I’m also an unabashed fan of movies that are purely escapist (Yes, I’ve been known to enjoy the occasional member of the “Fast and Furious” canon).

Music: My tastes are pretty eclectic (read: potentially embarrassing, if I let myself be embarrassed by my musical tastes). What I listen to on my way to work ranges from current teenage pop (e.g., Taylor Swift) to old teenage pop (e.g., Christina Aguilera – the stuff I used to listen to while driving my super-cool minivan in high school) to jazz (which I used to play) and EDM. I’ve recently gotten into country – ten years after, as a teenager, I used to say that I liked “Anything but country.” Last concert I went to was Jukebox the Ghost at the 9:30 club.

Books: For years, I've said that “David Copperfield” is my favorite book. I don't see any reason to reconsider that. As a kid, I read everything Roald Dahl wrote. At the moment, I'm making my way through Robert Caro's biography of Robert Moses, after reading his biographies of LBJ. And I've finally given in and started reading the Games of Thrones books. They're pretty perfect escapist before-bed reading.

These days, I go mostly for non-fiction - recently, I've enjoyed "The Signal and the Noise", "Switch", "The Unwinding", "This Town", "Thinking, Fast and Slow," "How Children Succeed", and Walter Isaacson's biography of Ben Franklin.

I keep up pretty well with The New Yorker, The Atlantic, and The Week. I aspire to have a print subscription to The New York Times. One day.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
• A job I care deeply about
• Lots of time with good friends
• Some time on my own to engage in wholly self-indulgent activities like eating popcorn and watching sports on TV
• Good wine
• Dark, strong coffee
• Avocados (in just about anything)

These may not be in the right order. For instance, I could probably make it a couple days without seeing friends, whereas I struggle to go that long without coffee. Also, despite its placement on the list, I’d be incredibly heartbroken if some tragic insect-born disease decimated the worldwide avocado market. Really, I’m not sure what I’d do – avocados make everything better, so a lack of avocados would make everything worse. Everything.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Trivial decisions, mostly. I think a lot about things like which flavor of ice cream to order or which shirt and tie combination to wear on a given day, and how that will affect my options on the ensuring days – and can usually make compelling cases for both sides. That, and how to ensure that every poor kid in the country gets an outstanding education. I am, by nature, an optimist (and not yet willing to attach the adjective “hopelessly” to my optimistic nature), and I’m convinced that we can fix this.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I can't do scary movies - I don't think I've seen one since an ill-advised trip to watch the original "Saw" on a Halloween in college. You were going to discover it at some point in our first few dates, so I figured I might as well just mention it now. If you assess masculinity by interest in gruesome horror flicks, then we’re probably not going to work out (for lots of reasons, but this is at least a good cause for us to part ways at this point).

Also, I really like washing dishes. No, really. I find that I enjoy the strategy it demands: Which dishes need to be pre-soaked? What's the optimal arrangement of dishes in the dishwasher? I also appreciate the way in which it presents a clear goal that I can work toward in a linear fashion and know when I'm finished - quite unlike my job.
You should message me if
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You’re confident but humble. You’re pretty outstanding and definitely not perfect. I find that I get along better with people who have some flaws, since I certainly share that characteristic. You have a cool job that you like, or are looking for one. You're passionate about something meaningful, and maybe about some not-so-meaningful stuff too. You can be sassy and sarcastic but are fundamentally more sincere than cynical.