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  • Ages 22–36
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6′ 0″ (1.83m)
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Graduated from masters program
Politics / Government
Rather not say
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them

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My self-summary
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You may have caught me surreptitiously dancing on a Metro platform. Chances are it was to something embarrassing - a song by Katy Perry, Rihanna or Christina Aguilera (the old stuff) that a 15 yearold girl would like. I suppose that the point of beginning my profile this way – instead of telling you the tremendously distinguishing fact that my friends and family are important to me or that I love a night out dancing but enjoy relaxing on the couch just as much – is to convey that I’m the sort of person who’s confident enough to own up to what he likes: even when that happens to be the late 90s vintage Britney Spears that I listened to while driving my minivan at age 16.

I’ve lived all over, so I’m sort of a mish-mash of different regional characteristics. I cross streets like a New Yorker, have the politics (and sense of guilt when I leave a room without turning the lights off) of a Northern Californian, and try to treat people well – the way people do in Nebraska where I grew up (I’m also a big believer in chivalry – and believe that that’s entirely consistent with feminism). After spending a year in grad school at Oxford, I gained an appreciation of sticky toffee pudding, an ability to feel comfortable in a tux, and a habit of using “crap” as an adjective (without the “-py”, as in “Well, that was a crap show.”).

I can be pretty impatient. I’m a fast walker, and I get annoyed with people who walk too slowly on the Metro escalator (on a related note, I really think that escalator-walking should be an Olympic sport – in addition to speed, there’s a great deal of technique involved, plus the weather throws a wild card into the mix). At the same time, I love long dinners – I’m the sort of person who has no shame about telling the waitress five times that she’ll need to come back later to take our orders because we’ve been too deep in conversation to have looked at the menus.

I can be rather particular too. I believe that hoppy beer should be consumed from a pint glass and not from the bottle, and I like my red wine slightly chilled, not room temperature. But I definitely don’t take myself too seriously, and I sometimes have a tough time with people who do. (And for the record, I certainly think that there are times when there’s nothing better than a big bucket of cold bud lights).

As much as I love trying new things, I’m also pretty sentimental and devoted to traditions. My birthday celebration, for example, has for about the past 20 years involved, in order, a birthday dinner, Christmas Eve service, driving tour of the best Christmas lights in town, and my mom’s cheesecake.

I also love people-watching. Not in a creepy way – in a “Let’s see what economic principles and psychological theories we can apply to the couple at the table next to us” sort of way.
What I’m doing with my life
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I lead a team that does education policy strategy work. My job is to figure out how to make sure every kid in DC has a great teacher. I love my job: I get to do work that really matters, on extraordinarily challenging issues, with an incredible team of people. It does land me in the newspaper or radio every so often, but I’ve finally learned my lesson about reporters (key lesson: nothing is ever off the record). I started my career teaching middle and high school social studies in the South Bronx as part of Teach for America, and my Facebook news feed is still completely consumed by my kids (who somehow manage to post minute-by-minute status updates throughout the school day). My current job enables me to both do high-level strategic work and spend time in schools – and there’s nothing more fun than being around kids or more inspiring than seeing amazing teachers.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
My job. Drinking wine and sounding sophisticated about it (“chocolate-covered cherries” is a great phrase). Extensively analyzing mundane situations (probably the reason I’m such a Seinfeld fan).
The first things people usually notice about me
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When I’m wearing my bright orange striped tie, that’s definitely the first thing that people notice and compliment – which is notable, since it’s one of the few ties I own that I didn’t pick out myself (a group of my high school kids got it for me as a Christmas present, suggesting that 16 yearold girls may have better taste in ties than I do).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I should preface these lists by saying that I don’t think I’m a person whose tastes in music or movies provide tremendous insight into my character. Or maybe that’s just what I tell myself because I’m concerned about what they suggest. Either way, here we go.

Shows: The Wire, West Wing, Breaking Bad, Game of Thrones, Scandal, Scrubs, Seinfeld, How I Met Your Mother, Big Bang Theory, House of Cards, Boardwalk Empire, Top Chef, and Project Runway. Yes, I’m a straight guy who loves Project Runway and isn’t afraid to admit it.

Food: My childhood answer was “cheesecake” – because, you know, this is the sort of question you get asked a lot more as a kid than you do as an adult, for some reason. These days, avocados would be near the top of the list. Steak, of course. Recently, I’m into crab cakes and scallops, for some reason.

Movies: While I’m not opposed to enjoying something with more artistic merit, I’m also an unabashed fan of movies that are purely escapist – vacuous action movies, dumb comedies, etc. Yes, I’d consider watching “Dude, Where’s My Car?” again. Ha. Just remembering it makes me laugh.

Music: My tastes are pretty eclectic (read: embarrassing, if I let myself be embarrassed by my musical tastes). What I listen to on my way to work ranges from current teenage pop (e.g. Kesha) to old teenage pop (e.g. Christina Aguilera, as mentioned above) to jazz (which I used to play) and EDM. I’ve recently gotten really into country – ten years after, as a teenager, I used to say that I liked “Anything but country.”

Books: I’ve always said that “David Copperfield” is my favorite book – it’s probably the book that most frequently made me marvel at the sheer brilliance of the prose. At the moment, I'm making my way through Robert Caro's biography of Robert Moses, after reading his biographies of LBJ.

These days, I go mostly for non-fiction - recently, I've enjoyed "The Signal and the Noise", "Switch", "The Unwinding", "This Town", "Thinking, Fast and Slow," "How Children Succeed", and Walter Isaacson's biography of Ben Franklin.

I keep up pretty well with The New Yorker, The Atlantic, and The Week, and I aspire to have a print subscription to The New York Times. I’m pretty sure that it would not only make me better informed, but also smarter and a better person.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
• A job that I'm passionate about
• Lots of time with good friends
• Some time on my own to engage in wholly self-indulgent activities like eating popcorn and watching sports on TV
• Good Wine
• Dark, Strong Coffee
• Avocados (in just about anything)

These may not be in the right order. For instance, I could probably make it a couple days without seeing friends, whereas I struggle to go that long without coffee. Also, despite its placement on the list, I’d be incredibly heartbroken if some tragic insect-born disease decimated the worldwide avocado market. Really, I’m not sure what I’d do – avocados make everything better, so a lack of avocados would make everything worse (check out the unquestionable logic of that statement).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Trivial decisions, mostly. I think a lot about things like which flavor of ice cream to order or which shirt and tie combination to wear on a given day, and how that will affect my options on the ensuring days – and can usually make compelling cases for both sides. That, and how to ensure that every poor kid in the country gets an outstanding education. I am, by nature, an optimist (and not yet willing to attach the adjective “hopelessly” to my optimistic nature), and I’m convinced that we can fix this.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm a huge wimp about scary movies. I had nightmares for years after ill-advisedly seeing the original "Saw" on a Halloween a while ago. You were going to discover it at some point in our first few dates, so I figured I might as well just mention it now. If you assess masculinity by interest in gruesome horror flicks, then we’re probably not going to work out (for lots of reasons, but this is at least a good cause for us to part ways at this point).

Also, I really like washing dishes. No, really. I find that I enjoy the strategery it demands (Which dishes need to be pre-soaked? What's the optimal arrangement of dishes in the dishwasher? Also, am I the only one who finds that made-up word rather useful?), and I also appreciate the way in which it presents a clear goal that I can work toward in a linear fashion and know when I'm finished - quite unlike my job.
You should message me if
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You’re pretty outstanding and definitely not perfect. I find that I get along better with people who have some flaws, since I certainly share that characteristic.

You have a cool job that you like, or are looking for one. You're passionate about something meaningful, and maybe about some not-so-meaningful stuff too.