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6′ 0″ (1.83m)
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Graduated from masters program
Politics / Government
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
My self-summary
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I’ve lived all over, so I’ve ended up with a bit of a mish-mash of different regional characteristics. I cross streets like a New Yorker, have the politics (and sense of guilt when I leave a room without turning the lights off) of a Northern Californian, and try to treat people with kindness – the way people do in Nebraska where I grew up (I’m also a believer in chivalry – and in feminism, and believe that two can be entirely consistent). Spending a year in grad school at Oxford left me with an appreciation of sticky toffee pudding, an ability to feel comfortable in a tux, and a habit of using “crap” as an adjective (without the “-py”, as in “Well, that was a crap show.”).

I can be pretty impatient. I’m a fast walker, and I get annoyed with people who walk too slowly on the Metro escalator (on a related note, I really think that escalator-walking would make a great Olympic sport – in addition to speed, there’s a great deal of technique and strategy involved - and the weather can add to the degree of difficulty). At the same time, I love long dinners – I’m the sort of person who has no shame about telling the waitress five times that she’ll need to come back later to take our orders because we’ve been too deep in conversation to have looked at the menus.

I can be rather particular as well. I believe that hoppy beer should be consumed from a pint glass and not from the bottle, and I like my red wine slightly chilled, not room temperature. I’m a sucker for impeccable grammar and a quick wit. But I definitely don’t take myself too seriously, and I sometimes have a tough time with people who do. (And for the record, I certainly think that there are times when there’s nothing better than a cold bud light from an aluminum can – say, at a summer afternoon baseball game at Nats Park…).

As much as I love trying new things, I’m also pretty sentimental and devoted to traditions. My birthday celebration, for example, has for about the past 20 years involved, in order, a birthday dinner, Christmas Eve service, driving tour of the best Christmas lights in town, and my mom’s cheesecake.

And I love people-watching. Not in a creepy way – in a “Let’s see what economic principles and psychological theories we can apply to the couple at the table next to us” sort of way.
What I’m doing with my life
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I lead a team that does education policy strategy work. My job is to figure out how to make sure every kid in DC has a great teacher. I love my job: I get to do work that really matters, on extraordinarily challenging issues, with an incredible team of people. It does land me in the newspaper or radio every so often, but I’ve finally learned my lesson about reporters (key lesson: nothing is ever off the record). I started my career teaching middle and high school social studies in the South Bronx as part of Teach for America, and my Facebook news feed is still completely consumed by my kids (who somehow manage to post minute-by-minute status updates throughout the school day). My current job enables me to both do high-level strategic work and spend time in schools – and there’s nothing more fun than being around kids or more inspiring than seeing amazing teachers.
I’m really good at
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My job. Drinking wine and trying to sound sophisticated about it (and enjoying being right on that line between descriptive and ridiculous by using words like leather, minerality, and “chocolate-covered cherries”). Extensively analyzing mundane situations (probably the reason I’m such fan of shows like Parks & Rec and Seinfeld).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I should preface these lists by saying that I don’t think I’m a person whose tastes in music or movies provide tremendous insight into my character. Or maybe that’s just what I tell myself because I’m concerned about what they suggest. Either way, here we go.

Shows: Breaking Bad, Game of Thrones, Parks and Recreation, The Americans, Veep, Scandal, Scrubs, Seinfeld, The Wire, West Wing, How I Met Your Mother, Big Bang Theory, House of Cards, Boardwalk Empire, Top Chef, and Project Runway. Yes, I’m a straight guy who loves Project Runway and isn’t afraid to admit it.

Food: My childhood answer was “cheesecake” – because, you know, this is the sort of question you get asked a lot more as a kid than you do as an adult, for some reason. These days, avocados would be near the top of the list. Steak, of course – I’m from Nebraska, after all. Brussels sprouts, which I’m pretty sure is a requirement in order to live in the District.

Movies: I have a probably-irrational degree of trust in Rotten Tomatoes. “Snowpiercer” was the last movie I saw (and quite enjoyed) because Rotten Tomatoes told me to. I’m also an unabashed fan of movies that are purely escapist (Yes, I’ve been known to enjoy the occasional member of the “Fast and Furious” canon).

Music: My tastes are pretty eclectic (read: embarrassing, if I let myself be embarrassed by my musical tastes). What I listen to on my way to work ranges from current teenage pop (e.g., Ke$ha) to old teenage pop (e.g., Christina Aguilera – the stuff I used to listen to while driving my super-cool light blue Dodge Caravan in high school) to jazz (which I used to play) and EDM. I’ve recently gotten into country – ten years after, as a teenager, I used to say that I liked “Anything but country.”

Books: I’ve always said that “David Copperfield” is my favorite book – it’s probably the book that most frequently made me marvel at the sheer brilliance of the prose. At the moment, I'm making my way through Robert Caro's biography of Robert Moses, after reading his biographies of LBJ.

These days, I go mostly for non-fiction - recently, I've enjoyed "The Signal and the Noise", "Switch", "The Unwinding", "This Town", "Thinking, Fast and Slow," "How Children Succeed", and Walter Isaacson's biography of Ben Franklin.

I keep up pretty well with The New Yorker, The Atlantic, and The Week. I aspire to have a print subscription to The New York Times. One day.
The six things I could never do without
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• A job I care deeply about
• Lots of time with good friends
• Some time on my own to engage in wholly self-indulgent activities like eating popcorn and watching sports on TV
• Good wine
• Dark, strong coffee
• Avocados (in just about anything)

These may not be in the right order. For instance, I could probably make it a couple days without seeing friends, whereas I struggle to go that long without coffee. Also, despite its placement on the list, I’d be incredibly heartbroken if some tragic insect-born disease decimated the worldwide avocado market. Really, I’m not sure what I’d do – avocados make everything better, so a lack of avocados would make everything worse. Everything.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Trivial decisions, mostly. I think a lot about things like which flavor of ice cream to order or which shirt and tie combination to wear on a given day, and how that will affect my options on the ensuring days – and can usually make compelling cases for both sides. That, and how to ensure that every poor kid in the country gets an outstanding education. I am, by nature, an optimist (and not yet willing to attach the adjective “hopelessly” to my optimistic nature), and I’m convinced that we can fix this.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm a huge wimp about scary movies. I had nightmares for years after ill-advisedly seeing the original "Saw" on a Halloween a while ago. You were going to discover it at some point in our first few dates, so I figured I might as well just mention it now. If you assess masculinity by interest in gruesome horror flicks, then we’re probably not going to work out (for lots of reasons, but this is at least a good cause for us to part ways at this point).

Also, I really like washing dishes. No, really. I find that I enjoy the strategy it demands: Which dishes need to be pre-soaked? What's the optimal arrangement of dishes in the dishwasher? I also appreciate the way in which it presents a clear goal that I can work toward in a linear fashion and know when I'm finished - quite unlike my job.
You should message me if
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You’re confident but humble. You’re pretty outstanding and definitely not perfect. I find that I get along better with people who have some flaws, since I certainly share that characteristic.You have a cool job that you like, or are looking for one. You're passionate about something meaningful, and maybe about some not-so-meaningful stuff too.