Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Okay, the short form, February 2013. I'm poly, in a committed triad
(actually a V), and looking for new connections. I am wide open to
wherever a new relationship might go, from lighthearted dating to
fun sex to serious emotional commitment -- but I've learned it has
to go there naturally. You can't force something in a particular
direction (I can't, anyway), and you can't control the way another
person feels. So it seems the best approach is to take things one
meeting at a time and see what happens.
What am I looking for? I would like to find a woman who is
intelligent, funny, reasonably drama-free, has some kind of
creative outlet or interests, is okay with the fact that I already
have a long-term commitment to somebody else, and of course I would
like to find her physically attractive. I'm in good shape -- I
don't work out, but I'm naturally lean and fit, and I'm aging well.
I prefer women with some curves and softness, and generally am more
attracted to slightly overweight than to muscular and athletic.
(But this is a general preference only -- I like ALL kinds of
women.) And then of course, our pheromones need to like each other
so we feel that spark.
What do I have to offer? Sense of humor. Delight in sexual play and
exploration. Honesty and earnestness. Goofiness and playfulness, if
you get me comfortable with you. Warning: I am usually not at my
best meeting people I don't know, although there are the rare few I
feel at home with right away. I'm smart and I write novels and have
a strong creative side, if that happens to be a turn-on for you.
And I've been told I'm a good listener.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
For money, I sell classical music LPs on eBay. What I really care
about: I write fiction, have completed 15 novels and self-published
a few of them plus a book of short stories. I've stopped expecting
my writing is ever going to earn me any money, but I keep on doing
it, I guess because ... it's what matters to me.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I guess I've got to say writing. I'm my own biggest fan. Just
finished re-reading my novel "Daisy Parker" and what can I say, I
really impressed myself. (Available from Amazon.com, shameless
And as of November 1, 2013, I've just finished writing my newest
novel, "The Thing About Alice," and I'm happier with it on
completion than I can remember being with anything I've ever
written. It's a kink-heavy comedy thriller romance, and anyone
who's interested, just contact me and I'll email you a copy. I'm
that happy with it.
The first things people usually notice about me
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If there's one consistent thing, they haven't told me what it is.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Philip Roth is a favorite author, and I recently discovered
Movies: My single favorite movie is Obsession, a 1976 romantic
thriller by Brian De Palma, who has never done anything remotely
like it again. I've got no excuse for loving it so much except that
it hit me at just the right time in my life, and I was madly in
love with Genevieve Bujold.
Music: Mostly 20th century classical composers and Elvis Costello.
Amy Winehouse was fuckin' brilliant but she went and got herself
Food: Oh my god, you name it. Any middle-eastern cuisine, taco bus,
hamburgers with fried egg on top, Fritos ... seriously, you name
it. Oh, and kimchee makes everything better.
Shows: I assume we're not talking theater here. Don't watch network
stuff. I think Game of Thrones is one of the best things I've ever
seen that was made for the small screen.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Music (primarily classical)
Pencils, paper, and other writing essentials
The few people I really care about
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Linda. I'm getting better about this but it's still true.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
hanging out at home watching TV and grading the condition of LPs
for my eBay store. That's why I'm signing up on this thing. I need
someone to rescue my Friday nights.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Wow, I'll share practically anything with minimal prompting. But it
seems ridiculous to just say something private to the internet in
general without even knowing who I'm talking to.
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