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51 New York, NY Woman


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  • Ages 45–56
  • Near me
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My details

Last online
Sep 15
5' 4" (1.63m)
Body Type
Post grad
Might want kids
English, Italian (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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Native New Yorker who loves Rome almost as much, big fan of cooking magazines, NPR, color. I love cities, travel, art (well not all art, only the art that I love), conversation, the bon mot, the sly reference, and people who make me laugh. Was in Spain a while ago and really loved it, especially Seville. On the other hand, it was astonishing to find that one could get tired of ham.

I am vivid, virtual (for now), and verbal, and not a fan of instant messages as an opening gambit. And, oh yeah... I'm not looking to date married men. I didn't think that needed to be said, but apparently it does...
What I’m doing with my life
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Hoping my agent can manage to sell my novel. Hoping I can manage to write another one. Teaching incredibly smart college students how to write as smart as they actually are. Wondering if shortsighted trustees will actually manage my institution into the ground. Taking analog photographs. What else? Yoga and a smattering of tai chi and swing dance, reading the NY Times, eating ethnic food, walking and biking around NYC. And I find myself on the subway a fair bit. The wonders of our fair city still make me marvel. I should spend more time improving my Italian.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Standing on my head;
being a guest (helpful, fun, patient, don't get in the way);
making salad and coffee, not together;
remembering what people tell me.
The first things people usually notice about me
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That I'm funny;
How fast I talk;
Maybe my eyes?
My colorful stockings.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Authors: Laurie Colwin, Joan Didion, Philip Roth with many caveats. Can't believe how good Moby Dick turned out to be. Recent great things I've read were A Constellation of Vital Phenomena (check it out), and Billy Lynn's Long Halftime Walk and a couple of Kate Atkinson books. Also Borges, Whitman, of course.

Music: Leonard Cohen, Richard Thompson, Bob Dylan, Johnny Cash, Fabrizio De Andre, Dolly Parton (an underrated song writing genius...) Not sure if she's a favorite, but I've been liking Neko Case lately. That Magnetic Fields Song Papa was a Rodeo. Of course, Blondie and Prince and other geniuses of sex/beat.

Art: Joseph Cornell, Giotto, Caravaggio, a bunch of contemporary artists that I keep track of.

Movies: Nashville, other Robert Altman, lots of other stuff I can't think of. Night of the Shooting Stars/La Notte di San Lorenzo. Some Like it Hot.

Food: Yes! Ethnic, Italian (Always happy to eat at Lupa or go to queens for Thai or Chinese food).
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Lip Salve
Moka Stovetop coffeemaker
Oxford Comma and the semicolon
Red peppers
Old friends
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How relieved I am that Obama won (although lately he's really been pissing me off, I have to say);
what's for dinner;
the absolute best place to stand on the subway platform for maximum exiting efficiency;
my students;
why people like Trader Joes;
my next novel.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Not typical by a long shot, but I recently found myself in synagogue for the first time in roughly ever. And I kind of liked it. Is this a trend? The Eight ball isn't sure and neither am I. When not in synagogue (ie, 51 weeks of the year), seeing a movie, hanging out with friends I've known forever, reading, eating something delicious.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I compost (actually, not metaphorically).
You should message me if
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if the spirit moves you, you read books, and you like to talk.