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40 San Francisco, CA Woman


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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 35–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 3:26pm
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
5' 5" (1.65m)
Body Type
Post grad
Doesn’t want kids
Has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), French (Somewhat), Russian (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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My heart is more inquisitive and unassuming, my mind more open and fearless than is, well, average. I admit to being caring, intelligent, and spontaneous too.

I am most passionate about cultivating our human/primate potential for connection, joy, courage, strength, resilience, balance, gratitude, power, change and peace. I relish joining with and being reflected in nature's awesome presence. I love learning about both the cosmos and the atom.

On the Meyers Briggs I'm supposedly an INFJ, but the "Introvert" aspect can also be extroverted. Maybe I'm just versatile:)?
What I’m doing with my life
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I work as a clinical social worker stabilizing and offering therapy to vulnerable folks.

Believe it or not Ripley, it is possible to do the social justice work I do and also maintain an artistic balance. I'm (hopefully) improving my moves in salsa dancing; finding time for high sierra backpacking trips, practicing Martial Arts (Aikido) and also the visual arts (drawing, painting, collage).

I prioritize Buddhist practice and principles in my life, and also did former study of the psychology of spirit within the Ridhwan School.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Being tender . Backpacking . Conversing . Dancing . Inspiring . Cooking . Appreciating art . Writing . Interpreting California Natural History . Brainstorming . Laughing . Exploring. Erupting. Nurturing. "Aikido-ing" . Being loyal . Giving feedback . Receiving feedback . Growing. Teaching. Resonating.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Nabokov . Murakami . Pollan . McCarthy . Melville . O'Connor . Borges . Lorca . Dunn . Rumi . Oliver . Lammot . Marquez . Diamond . Morrison . Kornfield . Chodron . Kristeva . Snyder . Lispector . Williams . Kerouac . Pynchon . Tannen . Kipnis . Miller . Cortazar . Social service journals . The New Yorker . Others too numerous to mention.

I am pretty eclectic and adventurous in my musical taste: world music, jazz, blues, Afro-Cuban salsa , classic rock, exotic voices, classical Indian, indie rock, flamenco guitar, Japanese flute, Usted Ali Khan. Almost anything acoustic....I'd like to explore more.

I don't regularly go to the movies, but prefer foreign, indie, silent, sleepers or cult-classics (i.e. Airplane, Harold and Maude). I don't own a television.

I eat to live rather than live to eat. I grew up in California so, understandably, go for healthy fresh food.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Vision, purpose, meaning, and goals.
A home sanctuary that is beautiful and peaceful.
A good night's sleep.
My calico cat Pumpkin.
Intimate conversation.
Affection: hugs, snugs, roll-in-the-rugs.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to grow and express my strengths in the most profound and effective ways; how to best support the people in my life; how to stay honest and true to myself and others 100% of the time; how to plan for the future and invest in myself and in relationships; how to actualize freedom.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
On a quieter night, I am reading, writing, talking and tending; on an active night, I'm out dancing or dining or prowling for animals on a night hike (no joke); on other nights I'm seeing at an art opening, theater, modern dance or music gig.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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A "pursuer"/"distancer" cycle in relationships is very uncomfortable for me. Conversely, warmth, directness, authenticity, confidence, non-reactivity, passion, groundedness, connectivity and transparency are qualities that I find attractive.
You should message me if
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If you're an exceptional man who is looking for an exceptional woman.