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40 San Francisco, CA Woman


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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 35-45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 9:07am
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
5' 5" (1.65m)
Body Type
Special Diet
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids and doesn’t want them
Has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), French (Somewhat), Russian (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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My heart is more inquisitive and unassuming, my mind more open and fearless than is, well, average. I admit to being caring, intelligent, and spontaneous too.

I am most passionate about cultivating our human/primate potential for connection, joy, courage, strength, resilience, balance, gratitude, power, change and peace. I relish joining with and being reflected in nature's awesome presence. I love learning about both the cosmos and the atom.

On the Meyers Briggs I'm supposedly an INFJ, but the "Introvert" aspect can also be extroverted. Maybe I'm just versatile:)?
What I’m doing with my life
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I work as a clinical social worker stabilizing and offering therapy to vulnerable folks.

Believe it or not Ripley, it is possible to do the social justice work I do and also maintain an artistic balance. I'm (hopefully) improving my moves in salsa dancing; finding time for high sierra backpacking trips, practicing Martial Arts (Aikido) and also the visual arts (drawing, painting, collage).

I prioritize Buddhist practice and principles in my life, and also did former study of the psychology of spirit within the Ridhwan School.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Being tender . Backpacking . Conversing . Dancing . Inspiring . Cooking . Appreciating art . Writing . Interpreting California Natural History . Brainstorming . Laughing . Exploring. Erupting. Nurturing. "Aikido-ing" . Being loyal . Giving feedback . Receiving feedback . Growing. Teaching. Resonating.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Nabokov . Murakami . Pollan . McCarthy . Melville . O'Connor . Borges . Lorca . Dunn . Rumi . Oliver . Lammot . Marquez . Diamond . Morrison . Kornfield . Chodron . Kristeva . Snyder . Lispector . Williams . Kerouac . Pynchon . Tannen . Kipnis . Miller . Cortazar . Social service journals . The New Yorker . Others too numerous to mention.

I am pretty eclectic and adventurous in my musical taste: world music, jazz, blues, Afro-Cuban salsa , classic rock, exotic voices, classical Indian, indie rock, flamenco guitar, Japanese flute, Usted Ali Khan. Almost anything acoustic....I'd like to explore more.

I don't regularly go to the movies, but prefer foreign, indie, silent, sleepers or cult-classics (i.e. Airplane, Harold and Maude). I don't own a television.

I eat to live rather than live to eat. I grew up in California so, understandably, go for healthy fresh food.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Vision, purpose, meaning, and goals.
A home sanctuary that is beautiful and peaceful.
A good night's sleep.
My calico cat Pumpkin.
Intimate conversation.
Affection: hugs, snugs, roll-in-the-rugs.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to grow and express my strengths in the most profound and effective ways; how to best support the people in my life; how to stay honest and true to myself and others 100% of the time; how to plan for the future and invest in myself and in relationships; how to actualize freedom.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
On a quieter night, I am reading, writing, talking and tending; on an active night, I'm out dancing or dining or prowling for animals on a night hike (no joke); on other nights I'm seeing at an art opening, theater, modern dance or music gig.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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A "pursuer"/"distancer" cycle in relationships is very uncomfortable for me. Conversely, warmth, directness, authenticity, confidence, non-reactivity, passion, groundedness, connectivity and transparency are qualities that I find attractive.
You should message me if
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If you're an exceptional man who is looking for an exceptional woman.