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31 Easthampton, MA Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 25-40
  • Near me
  • For new friends

My details

Last online
Sep 21
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
5' 1" (1.55m)
Body Type
Special Diet
Judaism but it’s not important
Doesn’t have kids but wants them
Has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat), Hebrew (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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I love deep conversations that last for hours, and silly ones that lead to inside jokes. My close friends are very important to me, and I am there for them. I know what really matters to me, and am going for it: I started my own business in my dream job, and tailor my life to feed my spirit with art, exercise, the outdoors, personal growth, and great connections with wonderful people. I keep a healthy, holistic, eco-friendly lifestyle, and believe that we all have a duty to build a more compassionate and equitable world. I'd say I'm spiritual, rather than religious; nature is sacred to me and my philosophical outlook tends toward Buddhism. Since I'm constantly seeking to grow, I have become very good at understanding and changing my own inner stories and patterns. You won't have to know me long to see me grow, and if I do something you don't like, you can tell me and I will honestly think about it and use it to progress.

I've made a number of good friends from okcupid, but have often felt that being on a "date" brought in all kinds of scripts and expectations that got in the way of just making genuine connections and letting them develop organically into whatever kind of relationship felt natural. I am therefore only interested in making new connections, not in "dating."
What I’m doing with my life
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I have my own business as a writer and consultant supporting anyone working for a better world. Grant writing for nonprofits is my bread and butter. It is deeply, inexpressibly gratifying to do what I love and use it to make a difference.

I eat healthy, run, do yoga every day, hike occasionally, and dance 1-3 times a week for hours on end. I'm committed to keeping fit and healthy as I get older, and looking for a man who is too.

Salsa dancing/Latin dancing is pure joy to me. I'm also getting into west coast swing. My dance partner and I go dancing 1-3 times per week and teach together. He's training me in a dozen other styles too, including ballroom, swing, and a little country. I also love freestyle dancing to just about anything with a beat.

I am working on my first novel (character-based literary) and write some poetry. For down time, I read novels and National Geographic, make my own jewelry, and watch quirky or artsy stuff on Netflix.

My friends and I tend toward long talks and tea, hiking, clubbing, or pool (which I am hilariously terrible at).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Appreciating the little things, giving advice, supporting people emotionally, growing as a person, writing, editing, networking, building my own business, staying organized, dancing, cuddling, bargain shopping, doing energy work (reiki and others), attracting synchronicity, making people laugh, and meowing so realistically that even cats are convinced.

I regularly find 4, 5, 6, and even 7-leaf clovers - my record is over 300 on the same walk. I find them all the time, and still each one feels like a miracle.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My hair – it’s down to my butt, crazily thick, and wavy.
My tininess – I’m 5 feet tall, size 3, just over 100 lbs.
My butt - just being honest. Men really seem to notice it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Anais Nin (just the diaries and novels), Tom Robbins, Margaret Atwood, or the archaeologist Marija Gimbutas. Poetry by Liz Waldner. Portrait of Jennie by Robert Nathan, Poisonwood Bible by Barbara Kingsolver, The Time Traveller’s Wife by Audrey Niffenegger, The Five People You Meet in Heaven and Tuesdays with Morrie by Mitch Albom, Women Who Run with the Wolves by Clarissa Pinkola Estes, When God was a Woman by Merlin Stone.

Movies: Big Fish, Ever After, Mirrormask, Amelie,Chocolat, Gulliver's Travels, Don Juan Demarco, The Neverending Story, Edward Scissorhands, Dumbo, Beauty and the Beast, 3-Iron (I'll be really impressed if you've heard of that one). Mostly I tend to watch artsy, indie, and foreign movies. I especially like French ones because people are always having interesting thoughts and telling them to strangers - I wish the world were really like that.

Music: Michael Franti, Marc Anthony, Portishead, Karmacoda,Sleepthief, Emiliana Torini, Blackmore's Night, Massive Attack, Yael Na'im, Jewel, Tori Amos, Sarah McLachlan, Ani Difranco, etc. New age in the morning, alternative/rock/pop/reggae during the day, anything with a good beat to dance to, trance late at night. Nothing jarring, angry, violent, or misogynistic.

TV: I don't have one, but I watch some online, like So You Think You Can Dance, Once Upon a Time, Tin Man, and Doctor Who.

Food: Saba sushi (mackeral) makes me moan. I have a limited diet for digestive issues, so I eat mostly organic meat and cooked veggies.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Understanding, love, writing implements, books, nature (especially trees), and music.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to become happier and happier, how to do a better job balancing everything I want in my life, how my past has led me to where I am and how I can change what I want to change, how to deal with stress better, how to build my business, how the people I love are doing, etc. I fantasize about romance, career success, and travel.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Dancing salsa.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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In May of 2008, I was in a high-speed car crash and had a beautiful near-death experience with a life review. It was incredible and I am no longer afraid of death. I designed a tattoo for myself based on the experience, and six months later discovered that the symbolism in it perfectly matched that of Neolithic Europe, so a person from that time and place would actually be able to look at it and accurately explain what it means, while people today tend to find it odd.
There are many other synchronicities like this in my life, yet I don't get used to it; it still amazes me... But then, I am also still totally excited that I have cats, and I've had them for over a decade.
You should message me if
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You have read my whole profile and think we’d genuinely connect, (and this thought is based on who we both are, not just on you liking my pictures). You are willing in your profile and/or note to give me a sense of who you are and pique my interest. You can write to me with decent spelling, grammar, and punctuation. (It doesn't have to be perfect, but I am writer, so too many errors will make me wince and cringe and want to stop reading). You live close enough that we can meet in person.

I am not interested in casual sex. Please don't ask.

If you are hoping our connection might go beyond friendship, it will be helpful to know that I am only attracted men who are physically fit and toned. Women there's a bit more leeway, since it can just add to the curves. However, I am not looking for something sexual or romantic; I am looking to make genuine connections with great people, and let them evolve organically.