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31 M Oakland, CA

I’m looking for

  • Everybody
  • Ages 24–32
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 3:52pm
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Trying to quit
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
English, French (Okay)

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My self-summary
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I am about five months deep into my Bay Area relocation. As any transitional phase happens, I'm rediscovering the difficulties that arise when you move away from the ones you love. I left many close friends, packed up my records and guitars in my car and came here with no place to live. A million thank yous to my beautiful, intelligent, independent partner for helping with this incredible, albeit terrifying, transition.

Being employed full-time, I don't have many opportunities to rebuild the life I lived in Olympia, WA, but it is too much to ask of myself that I remain satisfied with tiresome bicycle commuting and repetitive, often sweaty, work. I'm in a great non-monogamous relationship and have, before I moved, dated up to two people outside of my primary relationship. However, it's wholly ludicrous of me to expect that to happen here right away. I'm entirely happy to just meet some new people and make new friends. Whatever may or may not follow from this is of little concern to me at the moment. But please count me among the open-minded.

I appreciate creativity, spontaneity, making do with what you're given, fairness, equality, music, dancing, queer, kink, and exciting conversations.

I tend to avoid sending many messages, but if I pique your interest, then please, by all means!
What I’m doing with my life
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music, writing, looking forward, personal projects, wearing stripes, questioning dominant paradigms, dancing, DJ'ing, work :(
I’m really good at
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Eating, dancing, parallel parking, sugar:coffee ratio, communication, bathroom graffiti, neologisms, avoiding cliche, leaving parties, dog puns, sandwiches.
The first things people usually notice about me
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You tell me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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the master and margarita, the wind-up bird chronicle, germinal, lipstick traces, leaves of grass, confessions of a mask, the revolution of everyday life, all my friends are going to be strangers

i am cuba, la haine, daisies, come and see, wings of desire, man bites dog, punch drunk love, night on earth, fallen angels, indiana jones, empire strikes back, classics, camp, Hitchcock, old noir, foreign, gaspar noe, holy mountain, quadrophenia

kids in the hall, strangers with candy, mitchell and webb, twin peaks

queer rap, drone metal, northern soul, grime, house, avant-garde, funk, dub, reggae, cumbia, rock 'n' roll, punk.

that sorta shit.

my body is a temple attended by a congregation of sandwiches.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
free will
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
sex death & infinity.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Sleeping. I work on Saturdays. Trying to change this.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Artisanal toast.

Experimenting with facial hair. Trying a dad mustache. I'm not attached to it.

NOTE: It's all gone.
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and only if.