My ideal match? I don't know that I'm wise enough to know what that is. We all make these lists about what we think is best for us, but sometimes I think it's just a notion of what we perceive to be ideal. This may have some/little/no basis in truth. I trust the Universe will match me with a partner who will enhance my life and I for him. Honestly, I would love a man who is not perfect, but perfect for me; someone who challenges me to be a better person. A partner who gives room and breadth for growth, but will walk near or with me on my journey as I will do for him. Relationships should be easy; meaning that being with a partner is fluid, like the flow in Feng Shui. Yet stimulating enough to facilitate expansion of the spirit and mind. I do expect there to be challenges, healthy ones that allow opportunity for evolution. Though I do not believe a relationship should taunt you to the core with strife. I own my experience and hope that my partner does too.
Besides that, I think a sense of humor is essential. We need to laugh and play, be goofy, and be spontaneous (when we can). Life can get in the way of living, its important to lighten things up.
I try not to have expectations. That way no one feels under pressure and no one can be disappointed. It gives people freedom to excel to a potential that they are ready to embrace. I do have standards, but that is no one else's responsibility to sustain, only mine to fulfill. I just hope to find someone who shares a similar sensibility.
Some of my favorite things: admiring the beauty of sunbeams glitter through tree branches and penetrate windows, soft breezes that carry the perfume of flowers, meditations, dark chocolate, red wine, Good Soup.
To relax I take leisurely walks through this beautiful city with a coffee in one hand and the other hand....? Mind bending conversations that project me from my comfort zone and enables me to see something new... a man who can facilitate that....sexy.