Beyond that, I'm probably best defined by the word 'balance'. I enjoy doing most things, and can really fit in and have fun anywhere. Want to go for an intense hike in the gorge? I'm so there. Get dressed up for a fancy restaurant and a play? I've already made the reservations (and bought the tickets). Talk geeky running things with marathoners? Do it all the time. Talk geeky gear things with the musicians? Do it even more. Serious conversation about our relationships and feelings? That actually makes me super excited. Silly conversation in which we discuss our plans to one day own a donut and ice cream shop? We'll be laughing the whole time. I'll probably even break out into spontaneous dance and song in the style of 'Thriller'-era Michael Jackson to fully express my delight. (I, in fact, did this a while back as I walked into my favorite ice cream and donut shoppe on Alberta St. I had an apple fritter. It blew my mind into a million pieces, which were then put back together by said fritter. It's a magic fritter.)
I live my life with passion and intention. And "Breaking Bad". I don't fit nicely into any categories. I like most things, but love only a few. I can talk sports with the guys, music with the hipsters, politics with the lefties, science with the nerds, and clothes with the girls. I can be shy and introspective, but i can also be the lively center of attention (I am a leo, after all). I won't bullshit you, though I once ate dog shit. I treat everyone with respect and honesty, which can get me into trouble. I don't drink or smoke, but don't mind if you do, as long as you don't mind if I don't. I'm told that i smell good, that I'm sexy, that I'm kind, that I am funny, and that I am a unique snowflake. I am an INFJ, which apparently is the rarest personality type. I am a complete dork and glad that i am (as previously mentioned). I can be very dry and sarcastic, but know when not to be. Becoming an uncle at 16 has and continues to profoundly change my life; I'm consistently amazed at the depth of emotion and unconditional love I feel for those little buggers. I am completely and honestly myself at all times. I will make you laugh hysterically, even if it's only because I'm trying to make you laugh hysterically. In fact, I would consider it a failure of massive proportions if we weren't both laughing hysterically at least 35% of the time, and laughing in silly/dorky delight at least 60% of the time.
I am courteous and polite. I celebrate half-birthdays enthusiastically and with aplomb. I love playing and watching sports. I love cats, mostly because they are kindred spirits. I have longer eyelashes than you. I am smart and well versed in culture and in pop culture and will gladly discuss it with you. I am an old soul, yet often have the carefree abandon of a child. I will get you into my band's shows for free. I seem to be able to float in and out of many varied groups, but really belong to none. I play music. A lot. Like, professionally. I used to play ultimate frisbee a lot, until i hurt my feet. Now i run. A lot a lot. I competed in my first race a few summers ago (a 15k) and won. I'm as surprised as you. I used to eat vegan chocolate banana muffins from the Daily Grind, but sadly, they've closed down. I'm not vegan; I just liked them a whole lot. I'm still searching for a suitable muffin replacement, in vain. If i really like you, I will write you love letters and make you mix CDs. Words are the way to my heart.
To wit, this quote sums up what I am looking for quite nicely:
"There are two ways to reach me: by way of kisses or by way of the imagination. But there is a hierarchy: the kisses alone don't work."
If you understand this, you're probably already a quarter of the way there.
I do believe that you can build a connection and chemistry through writing and words as a prelude to building the same thing in person. The way I express myself in writing is a hugely important and wholly unique aspect of who I am and one that I would want present in any relationship. I probably won't be interested in meeting if I don't feel a 'spark' in the writing. I understand that the writing and the 'in-person' are not the same thing, and that's kind of the point: I want connection and chemistry in both places in equal measure. I've never had a relationship in my life that didn't have both.
I've spent a good part of the last four years "working on myself", whatever that means. I've never felt healthier emotionally, physically, mentally, and spiritually. I'm what the kids like to call "emotionally available". Regardless of where any potential relationship goes, I'm looking for the same. I'm not here for sport; I look forward to the day that I can delete this account.
Lately it feels like I've been teaching 10000 stars how not to dance; I want to learn to sing, dammit. I'm looking for my one bird.
I still believe in magic; you should, too. At this point, I'll settle for nothing less.