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secretspartan

24 San Francisco, CA Woman

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 23–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Online now!
Orientation
Gay
Ethnicity
Asian
Height
5′ 1″ (1.55m)
Body type
Fit
Diet
Strictly other
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Sign
Sagittarius, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Job
Technology
Income
Status
Open relationship
Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Chinese (Okay), French (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Start with a base layer of Silicon Valley book-smarts and ambition, mixed with some Chinese pragmatism and brash honesty. Next, add several layers of California style personal growth, self-awareness, and empathy. Then, infuse with a strong dose of New York City street-smarts and cockiness. Finish with a sprinkling of San Francisco kink and poly.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I strive to live my values, not just talk about them. For example, I'm a morning person because I like to get ahead. On Monday mornings, I'm having a check-in call with my productivity coach. On Wednesday mornings, I'm probably dancing my ass off at one of those recently popular morning EDM events in front of the DJ. Then it's time to dodge cars on my bike through rush hour traffic to a coffee shop for tea, meditation, and focused creative/analytical work. After that, I geek out with my friends (er, "clients" and "contractors") about marketing, technology, fitness, and the body's hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal axis..before calling it a day with activities like: downward dogging, lifting heavy things, cuddling, and reading about misaligned incentives in American healthcare.

In some other life, I would be a doctor instead of an entrepreneur. I dream of having the time to be both without delaying the time it takes to positively impact the world in the way I envision.

UPDATE 2/18-5/18: Visiting Bali, Indonesia for a tropical work-vacation retreat. Without the Eat, Pray, Love mid-life crisis touristy shit.

Another update: I don't know if I want to come back home anytime soon. The mixed martial arts gyms of Phuket, the Amazonian plant teachers of Peru, and the entrepreneur scene in Chiang Mai are now calling me too...The journey has only just begun!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Pullups.

Booking plane tickets to getaways with 2 days' notice.

Cooking healthy gourmet in 10 minutes.

Massaging the right muscles.

Psycho-analyzing the hell out of you and figuring out the deep dark secrets you didn't know you had. Is that creepy? No, it's self-awareness and empathy.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Why ruin the surprise?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Food: On weekends, I appreciate all sorts of decadent foods, including mousse cake with whipped creme, pho noodle soup, chirashi with sake, skinny truffle fries with creamy basil aioli, and deep dish supreme pizza with wine + orange juice mixed 50/50 (yes, it's good--I won a $5 bet with a friend on this concoction tasting legitimately good).

On weekdays, I'm pretty strict with food (paleo) for athletic performance, mental focus, self-respect, and vanity.

So all this just means that if you're a self-professed "foodie", we should only see each other on weekends.

Books: The Ethical Slut, Non-Violent Communication, and...the book that has made a disproportionate degree of impact on my life, for better or worse: The Four-Hour Workweek. I've realized since reading it that owning a successful "work anywhere, anytime" business and having the freedom to travel the world 24/7 is not what you would expect. Here's what actually happens:

First you "find your passion" and try to make money from it. Then you realize you don't know anything about business, but you refuse to learn because you're afraid of "selling out". Friends and family start thinking you've gone crazy. This is when most people fail.

If you stick it out, after a few years of running around like a headless chicken for 60+ hours per week, you finally end up with a 10-15 hour per week work schedule and can work at any time and any location. Which is great for traveling the world and doing whatever you want most of the time...forever. Wildest dreams achieved.

Little do you know, after a few years of "freedom", the travel bug dies inside you because constant adventuring and having no commitments in life is just a means of running away from our problems under the guise of "growth" and "challenging comfort zones!!!". Quarterlife crisis time. So then you do some personal development. After that, you decide to do something "meaningful" and try to "change the world", returning to working 60 hours per week. This time, you do it with the kind of dedication a parent has to a child.

I don't know what comes after changing the world, though, because I'm still living that phase. Except not at 60 hours per week. More like 30, because if you actually add up your productive hours, which don't count email or meetings or reading, it comes out to about 3-4 hours of real work per day. 5 hours if you're really good about not checking Facebook or Instagram or Pinterest or Kindle or Netflix or Hulu or OkCupid and you just work. Without stopping. For 5 hours. But it's surprisingly easy to avoid mindless media consumption when you're creating a piece of your vision everyday.

Anyway, after changing the world for the better, I might want to share my world with someone special. Might as well jump ahead and start early :)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Too much.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Many people try to seem exciting and unpredictable in this section by saying, "There is no typical Friday night."

I tend to respect people who have the self-awareness to know their own habits, and the maturity to set and respect their own boundaries.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I live my life pretty transparently (just like half of the OkCupid population, who are "an open book"). It's all about asking the right questions...

The other half of people are afraid of the internet and won't reveal any personal information except the fact that they like food and "have an OkCupid profile".

Right?
You should message me if
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You are a feminine-leaning lady who would like to share connection, adventure, intellectual conversation, cuddles, and maybe more if there's a spark ;)

I'm also open to friendship (and talking shop about startups, tech, marketing, nutrition, medicine, healthcare) with others of all stripes!

If we're really really similar (e.g. you're just as logical and analytical as I am), we'd probably make better friends than lovers, and that's okay. If we're similar but distinctly different in ways that annoy yet endear us to one another...I tend to like that dynamic with lovers.

Things I'd like to do:
- dance to EDM
- go to a book cafe
- people watch on the beach or park
- bike along an under-utilized route through the city
- visit a tea house
- share nibbles and lay out on blankets on the grass
- try out a wine bar
- snoop in secret underground tunnels
- walk along a body of water, or in nature
- frolic on a playground
- share snuggly cuddles :)

Any of these up your alley? Let's hang out. I'm a better "experience" in person :)