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secretspartan

24 Berkeley, CA Woman, Androgynous, Cis Woman, Two Spirit

Woman, Androgynous, Cis Woman, Two Spirit

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 18–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Today – 6:23am
Orientation
Lesbian
Ethnicity
Asian
Height
5′ 1″ (1.55m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Strictly other
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Other, and laughing about it
Sign
Sagittarius, and it’s fun to think about
Job
Technology
Status
Open relationship
Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Chinese (Okay), French (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Start with a base layer of Silicon Valley book-smarts and ambition, mixed with some Chinese pragmatism and brash honesty. Then, infuse with a strong dose of New York City street-smarts and cockiness. Next, add several layers of Californian and Balinese personal growth, self-awareness, and empathy. Finish with a generous sprinkling of San Francisco kink and poly.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I strive to live my values, not just talk about them.

Recently, I stopped working for others and started projects I've always wanted to work on.

On Monday mornings, I'm having a check-in call with my productivity coach. On Wednesday mornings, I'm dancing my ass off at one of those recently popular morning EDM events in front of the DJ.

Then it's time to dodge cars on my bike through rush hour traffic to a cafe, office, lab, or studio for tea, meditation, and a mix of creative, analytical, and technical work.

After that, I geek out with friends about various topics, before calling it a day with activities that make me more connected to people who matter, closer to being a superhuman, or more wise, smart, and at peace with myself.

Although I will always consider San Francisco "home", I do like to travel and live in other parts of the world for months at a time, to really sink into the cultural rhythm of a place. However, I'm inexplicably drawn to people who value stability and the romantic slow life over novelty and fast paced adventure.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Pullups.

Cooking healthy gourmet in 10 minutes.

Massaging the right muscles.

Being brutally honest, taking critical feedback well, and not playing games.

Psycho-analyzing the hell out of you and figuring out the deep dark secrets you didn't know you had. Is that creepy? No, it's self-awareness and empathy.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Why ruin the surprise?

These tell me a lot about people I meet:

- how they handle conflict and disagreement
- their relationship with their body and mind
- the words they tell themselves
- the words they use about the world
- how much time they spend creating or consuming
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Food: On weekends, I appreciate all sorts of decadent foods, including mousse cake with whipped creme, pho noodle soup, chirashi with sake, skinny truffle fries with creamy basil aioli, and thick crust pizza with wine + orange juice mixed 50/50 (yes, it's good).

On weekdays, I'm pretty strict with food (paleo) for athletic performance, mental focus, self-respect, and vanity.

So all this just means that if you're a self-professed "foodie", we should only see each other on weekends. Unless you are a paleo-ish foodie. Then we should see each other all the time and you can cook dinner while I cuddle you from behind and do the dishes after. Then we can make out and do tantalizingly dirty things to each other.

Books: Classically controversial books. Ones you've probably heard of include...The Ethical Slut, Sex At Dawn, Non-Violent Communication, The Four-Hour Workweek.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Too much, or nothing at all.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Many people try to seem exciting and unpredictable in this section by saying, "There is no typical Friday night!!!"

I tend to respect people who have the self-awareness to know their own habits, and the maturity to set and respect their own boundaries.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I live my life pretty transparently (just like half of the OkCupid population, who are "an open book"). It's all about asking the right questions...

The other half of people are afraid of the internet and won't reveal any personal information except the fact that they like food and "have an OkCupid profile".

Right?
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You are a feminine-leaning lady who would like to share adventure, connection, conversation, cuddles, and maybe more if there's a spark ;)

Things I like to do:
- dance to EDM
- bike along an under-utilized route through the city
- hike along the coast
- rock climbing
- snoop in secret underground tunnels
- walk along a body of water, or in nature
- frolic on a playground
- visit a quirky venue or landmark
- play the 4-question personality game
- play the 36-question engineered love game
- gaze into someone's eyes without a word
- share snuggly cuddles :)

Any of these up your alley? Let's hang out. We'll have a better experience in person :)