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sehsuan

35 Serangoon New Town, Singapore Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 25–35
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 9:42pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Asian
Height
5′ 9″ (1.74m)
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other, and laughing about it
Sign
Libra, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from high school
Job
Banking / Finance
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Likes dogs
Speaks
English (Fluently), Chinese (Fluently), Japanese (Poorly), LISP (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Update:
I've met a girl through OKcupid, and she's absolutely adorable and CUTE (she hates the word, but that's a story by itself). Best wishes to all - that person you were searching for is really out there! As as of 26 Dec 2013, I can finally breathe easy - I'm taken :-)

*Back to your regular news channel...*

Cycling and photography have been first loves for quite a long time now. Working in the insurance line, learning to understand people better - and I'm still working on keeping my mouth shut more often and listen even more.

I'm looking out for a life partner, and certainly not friends-with-benefits... so if you are open-minded (keep on reading the other sections) you might be The One.

More on myself at http://www.facebook.com/sehsuan.
Please indicate how you came across my profile - it's not only girls who get stalkers too; you know... Guys can get some too! I've had my share of some girls who added me in Facebook claiming that they would want to know me as a friend but keep absolute silence... and at the same time limit me to see their world. Very, very oddball behaviour... I'm emotionally tired to come across nice girls... who were less-than-nice to say that I'm too skinny. But that's because I had an earlier lifetime of being a competitive long distance runner, clocking in 8:12 for 2.4km when i was seriously training. And endurance athletes (running, cycling etc) are usually skinny... not muscle-bound.

My photography portfolio is here at http://www.sportsshooter.com/sehsuan
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I find a purpose in ensuring people's financial worth are protected. Yes I work in the insurance line; more important is that I believe in my work with conviction.

I have a dream though it sounds somewhat unusual - to be able to cycle in Japan for four weeks, camping and going off the beaten track - every year. Working my way towards it! In October 2013, I did something that got myself pushed to a little "inner limits" - I cycled from Taoyuan Airport in Taiwan, along the eastern coast and ended in Kaohsiung. 13 days of riding, >900 km done... just to stretch my comfort zone... as a friend said, "to lose yourself, but to find youself." The journal is at http://www.crazyguyonabike.com/doc/taiwan-nesw-2013 - it's a work in progress.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
wrenching on the bicycle - it's my main hobby after all! Photography, thinking of how to beat the limitations of a 4 megapixel camera in the year 2013 (yes, you read that right!) and navigation - only with my main outdoor/hiking/cycling GPS unit. Fix-it stuff don't really stump me thus far - although I must agree that there are situations that are beyond my set of tools.

Methodic painting of a room(s) is a meditative event - just don't tell me you want to be with me just because I can paint a house. You'd be looking for a painter, not a life partner if that were your sole cause. Please ensure you have the sanity of mind first, ok? Even guys are entitled to feeling creeps coming from a girl...

I'd love to be a better cook - and instant noodles don't count, and my rosti just lacks of taste (is it because potatoes + eggs + a dash of salt has no inherent taste of its own?) until there's some cream with it (then am I actually eating for the taste of the cream only?). This is related to something that I think I'm fairly proficient at - camping. Camping is ideal for a couple to spend some quiet time under the stars... while having the view of the night sky AND without the requisite mosquitoes zipping and having a 2 course buffet.

Yes, I find spending time in a tent (I spent > 600 SGD on my tent, you didn't read that wrong) a lot more meaningful than heading to Paris (I answered that OKcupid question, so I know...)
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My sleepy eyes. Kind of due to the angle of my eye sockets being inset into my skull. So if you see the full pupils of my eyes, usually that means I'm tilting my head back. Otherwise it's the sleepy-eye look. Not really my choice - I was born with it. You didn't choose the way you look, and guess what? Neither did I have a choice! Ha!

The reason why I'm mentioning this, is so that you don't get to wonder (wander is possible too) why I look unusual. I'm learning to have heart-to-heart communication, not just face-to-face.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Steve Vai, Joe Satriani and Dream Theater. That's the main lot of music I listen to - the odder the timing signatures, I'm happier with it, although I'm good with appreciating regular 4/4 beats. Nope, I can't count them notes anyway, nor can play any instrument. I still can pick up rhythm, so I've still got some redemption. I suppose that's called "feeling the music", no?

Other drummers who have unusual melodies, such as Terry Bozzio comes to mind - for his incredulous solo work. "Barking toms", as I call it, with his signature china cymbals... it's a remarkable feat of psychomotor coordination to have possibly all different counts on each limb. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oQGNw6frvSM

At the same time I still love R.E.M. from their Automatic for The People days - simple rhythms rock, too. Pearl Jam in the Yield/ No Code days were great too.

Japanese movie soundtracks are nice too - without sounding pompous and overpowering. Departures/おくろびと come to mind. Sounds that remind of innocence from the years past like those in 犬と私の10の約束 are nice.

Movies - I tend to watch Japanese movies and dramas although my command of the language is limited solely to selective phrases, probably <5% of the speech. There's some charm in the language itself! Moreso the culture of this mountainous country; how everything would be packaged to beautifully - food, produce, almost everything... that is the pride they have. Gotta learn how to apply it in my work and my life too.

Salmon sashimi gets me happy. Otoro, Chutoro... all are fine with me, no specific preference. No wasabi please, and you're more than welcome to take my share of it. Big fan of Chikuwa-Tei since 2007. Needless to say when Chef Peter started Mitsuba at Central, I decided to flock there too, although I go once in two months or so.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. SEX.

that might have popped your eyes, didn't it? nah, it's actually the company, trust and intimacy (one doesn't mean the other) that i'm after. we're humans, not wooden blocks.

2. my bicycles. yes, after spending five grand on two bicycles over the years, and using it buy groceries with it - how could i do without it?

3. my laptop. otherwise you wouldn't see me online no more.

4. a camera (of almost any form). The best optical camera system is the human eye... the best virtual camera is the mind. For if the mind can visualize the image, the eyes and camera will get it.

5. communication. kind of close to #1 - i'm seeking friends or a companion who is capable of sharing her innermost feelings.

6. You, perhaps?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
the true purpose of life. How the world actually melds together so many different occupations and industries to chug along... not in perfection, but in quasi-symbiosis.

Also, about the impermanence of Life.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
probably at the nearby pool, honing my freestyle strokes using principles from Total Immersion...

Or I might be fixing my bicycle - I'm a bicycle-head; so this is a meditative, and Zen-like time out relaxing... I'm partially joking. However this is true - the calmness of mind that I seek to have a simple yet fully functioning bike while cycling (which is the second activity I'd be doing)... gives a form of peace - especially cycling at night in the cooler night air on roads with low traffic. Serenity in this crazy paced country is quite often a lost cause.

Otherwise I might be just staying in late at the office, since I don't usually wish to impose on other friends since roping in their insurance agent to an outing may get awkward when that inevitable question of "what do you do for a living?" pops up.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'll let you know when it's time.

Angry Birds is something I enjoy playing - I loved physics in secondary school.
You should message me if
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you're are a sporty or athletic girl!

Or you're looking for an athletic partner-in-crime who is unable to sit still for hours in an office, or just a platonic sporting friend. I'm fine both ways - just be clear about your intention early so there's no misunderstanding.

Believe in these from 犬と私の10の約束:
1) Listen patiently to what I have to say.
2) Trust me, for I am always on your side.
3) Play with me a lot.
4) Don’t forget that I have feelings, too.
5) Let’s never fight.
6) If I don’t obey you, I have a good reason.
7) You have school, and friends, but as for me, I only have you.
8) Stay my best friend even when I’m old.
9) I’ll only live about ten years, so let’s make every moment count.
10) I’ll never forget our life together, so when my time comes, please be by my side.

Most importantly, you think you would be a person I feel safe to unlock my innermost thoughts with. Because neither you nor I, seek out a person to get ourselves hurt.

Cheers!