selcouth_
24 Pleasant Hill, CA
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My self-summary
Very femme feminist lady. INFP or INFJ, depending on the time I take the test.

I like poems, history, cats, dogs, crafts, companionship, intimacy, caustic humor, sweet affectionate words, self-awareness and consideration, sex, snuggles, soup

I'm smart, witty, and sweet, but also a stubborn and incorrigible wiseass. I excel at metaphor from the profound to the truly disgusting. I show up looking good. I suffer no fools. Generally I seem like an extrovert at first meeting and my introversion becomes clear later.

I have been told my profile doesn't really get across how "feisty" I am and that I seem more boring in profile version than in person. Which I think isn't the worst problem to have.

"When all your desires are distilled you will cast just two votes: to love more, and be happy."
What I’m doing with my life
Since I graduated with an incredibly in-demand liberal arts degree in May 2014, I left New York, moved back in with my family. It has been a tumultuous and difficult time, but I have been growing and recovering.

Aiming for a teaching credential because I am essentially incapable of selling anything, or caring about anything to do with "brands" or "products." In fact, I'm deeply suspicious of our cultural obsession with productivity and everyone's chronic anxiety about procrastination. What are we trying to produce? Rather, I want to engage with ideas and concepts.
I’m really good at
Quoting authors more talented than myself. Also, crafts, acquiring vices and then quitting them, emotional intelligence, collecting bruises/running into corners, public speaking (both because I am comfortable with it and because I have a deep voice that carries like it has a built-in microphone).

On a related note I do a decent Liza Minnelli impression.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I LOVE to read. Here are ten books rated 5 stars on my Goodreads list: The Gift by Hafiz trans. Daniel Ladinsky, The Good Earth by Pearl S. Buck, City of Women by Christine Stansell, Americanah by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, The Ethical Slut, Unaccustomed Earth by Jhumpa Lahiri, Age of Innocence by Edith Wharton, Beloved by Toni Morrison, One Hundred Years of Solitude by Gabriel Garcí­a Márquez, and The Gold Cell by Sharon Olds
+I adore the work of Pablo Neruda and Louise Gluck, among many other poets, and that of feminists Angela Davis, bell hooks, and others
I'm trying to read more women authors, but I'm running into a roadblock with female poets. Help!

T.V. staples: Archer, True Detective, 30 Rock, Mad Men, Parky Rec, New Girl, Broad City, Jeopardy, Masters of Sex
Honestly, I love T.V. and am happy to watch a wide variety, although I can't sit through cable news or anything by Shonda Rimes.

Movies: His Girl Friday, It Happened One Night, Singin' in the Rain, My Best Girl (1927)

Music: Erykah Badu, Billie Holiday, Aretha Franklin, Creedence Clearwater Revival, Neil Young, Otis Redding, Adele. Sucker for anything with a kick-ass gospel choir. I also enjoy shitty pop music because I don't have the time or energy to remain aloof and disconnected from popular culture for the sake of remaining cool.
The six things I could never do without
Lovingkindness
Literature/poetry/art
Crafts
Learning and continuing opportunities for education
Old friends
Wild laughter
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to find humor in the mundane, absurd, tragic

The substructures of history, society, culture, and authority
On a typical Friday night I am
I am, I am, listening to the old brag of my heart.
You should message me if
You are genuine, you want honest connection, you are warm or sensitive or open-hearted, you are too tired of jaded people to bother being jaded
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