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23 Pleasant Hill, CA Woman


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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 26–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last online
Yesterday – 10:15pm
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Full figured
Libra, but it doesn’t matter
Working on university
Open relationship
Doesn’t want kids
Has dogs and has cats
My self-summary
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Very femme feminist lady, GGG, switch. INFP.

I'm smart, witty, and sweet, but also a stubborn and incorrigible wiseass. I excel at metaphor from the profound to the truly disgusting. I show up looking good. I suffer no fools. (I'm pretty sure learning to suffer fools would prevent me from developing high blood pressure.)

I have been told my profile doesn't really get across how "feisty" I am and that I seem more boring in profile version than in person. Which I think isn't the worst problem to have.

Currently dating multiple people, but have one serious San Francisco-based partner.

"When all your desires are distilled you will cast just two votes: to love more, and be happy."
What I’m doing with my life
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Since I graduated with an incredibly in-demand liberal arts degree in May 2014, I left New York, moved back in with my family, and have been unable to find steady work due to a combination of factors, including a lot of health issues I am finally healing from. It has been a stressful and tumultuous time in my life, and I have had to do a lot more growing than I really wanted or was prepared to do. I plan to go back to school to earn a teaching credential next year. Between now and then, it's baby steps.

"This is what you shall do: Love the earth and sun and the animals, despise riches . . . take off your hat to nothing known or unknown or to any man or number of men . . . re-examine all you have been told at school or church or in any book, dismiss whatever insults your own soul; and your very flesh shall be a great poem."
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Quoting more talented writers than myself

Which, after all, is how Fitzgerald wrote all his books. #FitzgeraldTruth #TeamZelda

Also, crafts, public speaking, Irish goodbye-ing, bonding with animals, blowjobs, talking shit, talking about real feelings, being affectionate, and questioning the substructures of history, authority, and society
The first things people usually notice about me
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Strong presence, quick wit, sharp tongue, colorful obscenity
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I LOVE to read. Here are ten books rated 5 stars on my Goodreads list: The Gift by Hafiz trans. Daniel Ladinsky, The Good Earth by Pearl S. Buck, City of Women by Christine Stansell, Americanah by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, The Ethical Slut, Unaccustomed Earth by Jhumpa Lahiri, Age of Innocence by Edith Wharton, Beloved by Toni Morrison, One Hundred Years of Solitude by Gabriel Garcí­a Márquez, and The Gold Cell by Sharon Olds
+I adore the work of Pablo Neruda and Louise Gluck, among many other poets, and that of feminists Angela Davis, bell hooks, and others
I'm trying to read more women authors, but I'm running into a roadblock with female poets. Help!

T.V. staples: Archer, True Detective, 30 Rock, Mad Men, Parky Rec, New Girl, Broad City, Jeopardy, Masters of Sex
Honestly, I love T.V. and am happy to watch a wide variety, although I can't sit through cable news or anything by Shonda Rimes.

Movies: His Girl Friday, It Happened One Night, Singin' in the Rain, My Best Girl (1927)

Music: Erykah Badu, Billie Holiday, Aretha Franklin, Creedence Clearwater Revival, Neil Young, Adele. Sucker for anything with a kick-ass gospel choir.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Not sure, but coffee, weed, sex, sitcoms, cats, and books are my go-to tools for making myself feel good.

Update on this: I have a sensitive stomach and can no longer drink coffee, which is very sad, but I can still do all those other things.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Race and racism, sex and sexism, crafts, books, poems, Zelda.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Stoned crafts and Netflix, staying in and fooling around with my man, going out with new people
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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One of my greatest fears is that gorillas, being the most terrifying animal, will eventually gain enough intelligence to take over the world

Also, for some reason I'm really bad at Scrabble.
You should message me if
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You're gonna say something besides "Hey, what's up" or "Hello, how are you?" Please.

Additionally, I'd like to attract positive energy into my life; although I'm happy to help partners through tough times, everyday negativity is no good. If you're genuinely interested in talking to me, please be a positive, stable person.