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  • Ages 31-69
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My details

Last online
Jun 21
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5' 6" (1.68m)
Body Type
Special Diet
Other and laughing about it
Dropped out of University
Has cats
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to open. -- Anais Nin

About six years ago I broke out of a self imposed shell and started exploring the sensual side of myself. Along the way I discovered a lot about myself ... I also found a love that I never expected and never thought I could have. And I still feel that I / we have more love to share.

I am still on a (hopefully never ending) exploration of my true identity. My identity as a sexual human being, my identity as a woman, as a partner, as a friend (and hardest of all as a step-mother!) It seems to me that our society gives us such mixed messages about accepting all parts of ourselves, and one of those is the acceptance of the self as a sexual being. I had tuned out that part of myself for several years. Quit listening to my body and my soul. Tried to fit into what I thought other peoples expectations were of me.

I've always been a bit of a free spirit ... beat of a different drummer ... but not enough that I fit with the "real" free spirits ... or the suits. So, I'm just me! I have a love of theatre, books and movies. I've been told I'm too honest and I share too much. I am immensely inquisitive and love to learn about new things.

I am curious, sensual, and eclectic
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am currently in a committed relationship with my life partner and love of my life. We are polyamorous. We are both open to me finding additional friends/partners and adding to our relationship.

Quite frankly, I've been through some difficult times and am still very cautious about who I will open up to. I will do much "vetting" before anything happens and anyone that I am meeting must be willing to meet my partner for his okay. If you are in a relationship with someone else I would expect something similar.

I am step-mom to two elementary school boys that we have 50/50 custody of and being good parents is very important to us. We also do not hide the fact that we have a nontraditional relationship from our sons.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Seeing more than one side of a situation.
Loving people for their unique self.
Listening without judging.
Being imperfectly human.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My hair ... yes it's natural.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books - I love to read ... mostly fiction and fantasy, some science fiction ... and from time to time biographies ... but I'm not great at remembering names ... I'll add on to this as I have flashes of what I consider favorites!

Movies - (see my note above about my memory) ... Shortbus; The Princess Bride; The Professional; Holiday Inn; Philadelphia Story.

Shows - Television ... Dr Who; Star Trek (TOS, NG, DSN, Voyager); Once Upon A Time; Wonderfalls; Firefly; Hot In Cleveland; Charmed; Buffy the Vampire Slayer; The Dollhouse; Pushing Daisies; Big Bang Theory.

Shows - Stage ... Wicked; Man of La Mancha; Avenue Q.

Music - about anything that has a melody ... particularly blues, jazz, standards, big band and broadway.

Food - Mediterranean; Indian; Micro Brews; Thai; Korean; Greek; Vegan; Vegetarian; Coffee; Pizza.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My boys.
Something to write on & with.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to be true to myself and how to separate the true me from the face and expectations that I put on for most of my life.

How to find peace in myself and move forward from grief and losses in the past couple years.

How I can help other people find their own peace and place in the world. Teaching others about being open and accepting of things outside the boxes we were taught to stay in.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
My answer from five years ago was...

"Eating out with the "Friday Night Dinner" group. Our motto is "Friends don't let friends eat at chain restaurants." We tend to make it ethnic food ... indian, thai, japanese, italian, mexican, chinese, etc. Then back to my best friends house to either sit and read in each others company, play board game or karaoke."

The general idea is still there ... but as parents of gradeschool boys it's not quite as simple as when I was single. I don't have a typical Friday night any more!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
There are lots of things ... but generally I'm an open book ... if you ask - I'll tell you.

I am private about who I share information about being bi and being poly ... not because I'm ashamed but because there are some people that I just don't think need to know that much about me. However, if they ask, I'll tell them.

More and more I'm becoming enchanted with the idea of being a sex-positive advocate.
You should message me if
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You are interested in building a friendship.

You like the idea of discussing healthy sexuality, communication, relationships, polyamory, costuming, theatre, crafts, child-rearing, world domination, relaxation, erotica, bondage, self-worth, freedom or good food and wine.

You are willing to accept my quirks and share yours with me, knowing that sometimes my family commitments come before my personal time online and with friends - it doesn't mean I don't care.

You are able to be honest with me and accept that I speak my mind and believe in living transparently.