sensualeclectic
53 Indianapolis, IN
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My self-summary
I think I’ve always known that I was polyamorous … before I found a word for it.

I have known that I was bisexual since I was a teen.

Sexuality has intrigued me since I was about seven. Sensuality has intrigued me for even longer.

I got married at 35, I was divorced at 40 and we remained friends. At 45 I realized that I had completely immersed myself in my career and closed myself off from my sexuality since my divorce. I decided to dive into sexual and sensual exploration … it was a blast! Shortly thereafter, although I wasn’t looking to get into a LTR … I met my current partner and we’ve now been together for over 7 years. We are polyamorous.

During the 7 years, we explored swinging - it didn’t work out. We had a triad with another woman - it didn’t work out, and I got hurt. We’ve been involved in the local poly community for a year now. My partner has been in another relationship for a year, and I’d like to find someone - or several someones - to go out with … and maybe stay in with.

So, here’s the deal … I am older, and heavier than ever before (well duh on one of those!) As I said, I’ve been hurt … and I’m still healing. I am a pretty amazing person … and I am very human. Right now my humanity ties in to my self-esteem and body issues. I am shy until I get to know people, and I am a little socially awkward. I am self sufficient and independent. I have many friends and I deeply value my friendships. I am creative, inquisitive, visual, and enjoy positive touch. I am a geek, I am eclectic, I like board and card games, I like to make things, and I enjoy theatre, science fiction and fantasy, showtunes and burlesque.

I am looking to meet people and build friendships that could lead to more. I am not looking for a replacement to my primary relationship, I am looking for more ways to both feel and express my love. I am amenable to men, women or couples.

I am a non-smoker and social drinker - I do not like getting drunk or being around drunks. I try to be kind and non-judgmental in all things. I am looking for people of a like mind.
What I’m doing with my life
I am currently in a committed relationship with my life partner and love of my life. We are polyamorous. We are both open to me finding additional friends/partners and adding to our relationship.

Quite frankly, I've been through some difficult times and am still very cautious about who I will open up to. I will do much "vetting" before anything happens and anyone that I am meeting must be willing to meet my partner for his okay. If you are in a relationship with someone else I would expect something similar.

I am step-mom to two elementary school boys that we have 50/50 custody of and being good parents is very important to us. We also do not hide the fact that we have a nontraditional relationship from our sons.
I’m really good at
Seeing more than one side of a situation.
Loving people for their unique self.
Listening without judging.
Being imperfectly human.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm quiet.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books - I love to read ... mostly fiction and fantasy, some science fiction ... and from time to time biographies ... but I'm not great at remembering names ... I'll add on to this as I have flashes of what I consider favorites!

Movies - (see my note above about my memory) ... Shortbus; The Princess Bride; The Professional; Holiday Inn; Philadelphia Story.

Shows - Television ... Dr Who; Star Trek (TOS, NG, DSN, Voyager); Once Upon A Time; Wonderfalls; Firefly; Hot In Cleveland; Charmed; Supernatural; Buffy the Vampire Slayer; The Dollhouse; Pushing Daisies; Big Bang Theory.

Shows - Stage ... Wicked; Man of La Mancha; Avenue Q.

Music - about anything that has a melody ... particularly blues, jazz, standards, big band and broadway.

Food - Mediterranean; Indian; Micro Brews; Thai; Korean; Greek; Vegan; Vegetarian; Coffee; Pizza.
The six things I could never do without
Friends.
My boys.
Books.
Something to write on & with.
Hugs.
Honesty.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to be true to myself and how to separate the true me from the face and expectations that I put on for most of my life.

How to find peace in myself and move forward from grief and losses in the past few years.

How I can help other people find their own peace and place in the world. Teaching others about being open and accepting of things outside the boxes we were taught to stay in.
On a typical Friday night I am
My answer from five years ago was...

"Eating out with the "Friday Night Dinner" group. Our motto is "Friends don't let friends eat at chain restaurants." We tend to make it ethnic food ... indian, thai, japanese, italian, mexican, chinese, etc. Then back to my best friends house to either sit and read in each others company, play board game or karaoke."

The general idea is still there ... but as parents of gradeschool boys it's not quite as simple as when I was single. I don't have a typical Friday night any more!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
There are lots of things ... but generally I'm an open book ... if you ask - I'll tell you.

I am private about who I share information about being bi and being poly ... not because I'm ashamed but because there are some people that I just don't think need to know that much about me. However, if they ask, I'll tell them.

More and more I'm becoming enchanted with the idea of being a sex-positive advocate.
You should message me if
You are interested in building a friendship.

You like the idea of discussing healthy sexuality, communication, relationships, polyamory, costuming, theatre, crafts, child-rearing, world domination, relaxation, erotica, bondage, self-worth, freedom or good food and wine.

You are willing to accept my quirks and share yours with me, knowing that sometimes my family commitments come before my personal time online and with friends - it doesn't mean I don't care.

You are able to be honest with me and accept that I speak my mind and believe in living transparently.
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