Notice... I may be moving out to British Columbia (BC) in the next year as soon as I get the money together, so I'm open to communicating with people from BC as well.

Please DON'T IM me. I find people who IM, are just here for instant gratification, aren't serious at all, just gawk at the pics, don't read a thing & are just trollers or sex seekers.

If you want to contact me seriously after reading my profile IN FULL (I recommend you print it off), e-mailing me should be fine. If you are too impatient to e-mail me or read my entire profile & give me my simple requests, don't bother, it will just waste your time, as I can only deal with people who love to read.

I am not seeking instant gratification, I only seek deep relationships. I even consider friendships to be deep & feel they should also be worked on.

I live in the present & don't assume anything. I may be looking for an intimate relationship, but I'm just as happy making a new like minded friend.

I look for others who are the same. Thank you***

(For all you readers out there, this is for you... I highly recommend printing this off so it's easier for your brain to retain & if you don't like reading, I really doubt you will enjoy my company, as I love to read & learn : )

Also, if you are scared to talk on the phone, please go to someone else. I look for people who don't live in fear & unfortunately a lot of people on these dating sites seem to live in fear. I look for the exceptions to the rule.

I'm looking for people who are strong secure individuals & no, ego doesn't mean one is secure : )

Just to let you know, I WON'T e-mail back & forth more than 1-4 times. I'm here to get to know real live human beings, not computer monitors.

I want to start off just as friends with no expectations. I say this, b/c too many people lie saying "yeh, friendship is great", but then when they figure out we aren't suited for more, they disappear & yes, that hurts me.

If a friendship progresses into something more, fine, but like I said, making a new friend is also important to me, so if you are unable to just be friends with a woman b/c you have to be in a relationship (to me this is a huge sign of insecurity), I'm not interested.

My time is precious to me. Please respect yourself so you respect me & don't waste my time. I'd rather not talk at all if you don't value friendship just as much as relationships.

As an aside so people are aware, if I ever get into an intimate relationship with you, I only like clean shaven men, but clearly it doesn't matter to me if we are just friends, as I don't believe in friends with benefits, either one is a friend, or one is more. That's my view on the topic.

As for women, I am not into dykes, butches, etc. I like feminine women (this doesn't mean wearing only skirts or dresses), & the odd time someone who is tom boyish is okay, but I like my men as men, & my women as women, not people who cross over to the other gender & yesss, I know this is a whole discussion all on it's own LOL.

As for weight, I don't like very skinny, or extremely overweight. I've gained some weight over the last few years b/c of health reasons, but I'm working on that via my health, as I don't believe in diets. Health is important on many levels.

I am not your average woman, so I'm open to meeting people outside Kingsville/Windsor, which is the area where I live.

I'm even open to Europe, Spain, South America etc. (note: warmer climates : ) Hurry, the ice age is coming.

I make phone friends all the time, so I can call you if you are in NA, just remind me to do so.

If you are outside NA, you would have to call me & I don't like VoiP or Skype as for me fluidity in a conversation is very important to me, & I run my business on my computer & so I don't use it for this purpose.

Back to intimate relationships...

As I stated, for the right person/people, I am willing to relocate & I would hope that if you found someone you really really resonated with, you wouldn't hesitate to relocate because love & healthy relationships also mean a lot to you.

I consider myself very intelligent & I say this b/c I seek others who are also very intelligent. Let me explain here since I know society thinks intelligence means degrees.

I recently took an online IQ test & failed as I knew I probably would.

I'm not into math & my brain doesn't work that way.

My intelligence is intuitive in nature, meaning I'm a visionary, I am sensitive to people's energy (no I can't see your vibrational aura, rather I feel it), I can almost always (with certain exceptions of course) read what people are going to say before they say it, & I can think several steps ahead in my mind.

I also equate intelligence to an open mind hence me always wanting to learn, knowing that what I know & believe today, may change as early as tomorrow.

I also don't fear change & to me that's another aspect of intelligence.

And I have no degrees & am not sorry I didn't go to post secondary, but I do imagine what it would have been like to form friendships that lasted until now, had I gone.

I'm biamorous & polyamorous, but can easily be in a monogamous relationship.

I am NOT looking for swingers or polysexuals, so if you are either, while you can do as you wish, I'm past that stage of using sex to fill a void. I seek love, committed relationships, & people who understand the difference between sex & love.

I'm a sensual person, whether wild, kinky or sexual, my core root is sensual. I seek others who are the same.

For intimate relationships, I'm seeking either straight or biamorous men, biamorous women or couples who are also very very intelligent, polyamorous & respect women as human beings, not sex objects.

Note to couples: I have to say this b/c of what I've encountered with couples who call themselves polyamorous.

I don't resonate with fear based people, we've established that already, so I will never ever promise that I won't be attracted to other people & never want to have a relationship with them. To ask me to restrict myself to me means that you aren't really poly, rather you are a mono couple open to adding a 3rd.

This does NOT mean I want to have a relationship with every person who comes into my life. Quite the contrary. I would prefer 1-3 people max, & I like I said earlier, I can even be in a mono relationship while still identifying as a polyamorous woman, but I will NEVER stop myself from loving someone else if that person came into my life.

I don't believe any human being should resist. That's a religious doctrine I don't believe in & causes many a human to suffer, but we all know humans love to suffer : ) Not this human, I wish to be happy. : )

That's what I love about polyamory, there is no controlling, one is open to love.

The reason I bring this up, is b/c too many couples (even swingers) try to control the single people & I won't be controlled by anyone.

If it ever came to the point that I found someone else appealing, we'd discuss it, & if that isn't good enough for you, then we don't see polyamory in the same light.

If you don't know what polyamory means, just ask me for my site.

We all have fears, but I'm seeking people who's fears aren't the full focus of their existence. I'm seeking people who can express their fears & work on them. I strive to do that as well. Nothing to be ashamed of, when you love yourself, being an open book is much easier.

More about me & what kind of person I seek:

1. Excitement & Fun - this is an absolute must for me. Everyone has their own opinion about what this means.

For me, I don't like sitting at home ALL the time, but I tend to do it more when I'm alone & not in a relationship.

With my partner(s), I want to go out & do things, try new restaurants, see new people, take new courses together, explore the world around us & also spend alone time at home connecting with him/her, as well as with myself.

I don't wish to go out every night of the week, but I don't want to be spending all my time in the house either.

Balance

I love being spontaneous, but I also like planning things so I am not wasting time driving all over the place.

I seek people who have an imagination.

I used to have a huge imagination, & I'll admit, it has wanned over time. I'm working on getting that back again.

2. Making a lot of money is important to me. In the summer of 2006 I finally came to terms with my spiritual side & my side that wants nice things, to travel, live in a gorgeous house, help society, build an alternative school, etc.

I need money for that, & I am really only seeking others who love money, & don't have a problem striving to make it.

I've been working on my money issues ever since that course, & I absolutely resonate with millionaires & billionaires who are spiritually conscious. I love that combination.

Note: I don't want to be working tons of hours, so I'm learning how to make money with less work, so if you are a workaholic as I've been & you are looking to get into a relationship, something will have to give with me. I love working on my business, there is no doubt about that, but relationships are very important to me as they should be to you.

So if your career or business trumps relationships, I'm not the one for you.

3. Romantic - no, I'm not a sap LOL, but I want to be romantic if I am really connecting with the other person.

Why wouldn't I want to be, so yes, I do want to feel romanced by my partner(s) & I want to reciprocate that feeling to others.

I am not into frilly things (I'm more of a modern, chic type of person), not into cartoons, video games (although as an outing once in a while it could be fun), nor stuffed animals etc., but I do feel that being romantic is an internal thing. You either feel like being thoughtful, giving (big or small) & being creative towards your partner so the relationship flourishes, or you don't, & that goes for both men & women.

4. Love - first you know the difference between infatuation & love.

I'm not looking for someone who is easily infatuated & then a few months down the road when they realize I'm human & not perfect, they run away.

I'm looking for someone who has already started loving themselves so in the future the potential is there to love me purely.

You can't love someone else if you don't love yourself. That's spirituality 101.

5. Relationships - As I mentioned above, you understand that relationships take effort & regular attention.

Love isn't the only thing that is needed in a relationship. Anyone who thinks it is, isn't educated enough for me in how relationships work. While I still have much to learn, I need people who understand that fairy tales don't exist.

On the flip side, I'm looking for people who have dreams, goals & desires.

If you naturally take an active role in your relationships, & you strive to improve your relationship skills, then we have something in common : )

Each partner should be contributing 100%, not 25% or 50%, but 100% & no, women aren't responsible for giving more than men, but men have grown in the last 10-15 years & are more giving in relationships now : )

You also get that if it's not working outside the bedroom, it won't work inside the bedroom & no amount of sex or pushing for sex is going to fix a relationship that is unhealthy.

6. Communication - is soooo crucial in all relationships. I try to work on that all the time becoming a better communicator, saying how I feel in the moment instead of waiting weeks & months to relay how I feel.

I look for others who also say how they are feeling & are honest, whether they think it will hurt the other person or not & they don't run away if I say how I feel.

If you can't talk about the negative as well as the positive, you don't have the relationship skills I need.

Saying that, I STRONGLY believe, that "Actions speak louder than words"

Ask me for a communications game I have, I can send it to you via e-mail. : )

7. Your Career/Business - to recap what I said earlier, As much as I love being an entrepreneur & working, I learned a long time ago that money doesn't make me happy & if I'm working too much, that usually means I'm hiding from something else that is bothering me.

Yes, work can be an addiction, & while many people admit they are workaholics, & are actually proud of that status, they totally ignore the fact that being a workaholic hinders their inner growth & relationships. Many very successful people don't think they can do both, I just saw an interview with David Foster & it's sad to hear him say one can't have a healthy relationship when doing the kind of work he does, hence 3 divorces.

To me that's just an excuse.

My goal is to be making passive income so I don't have to work as hard to pay the bills, & I can concentrate on other things that matter to me.

Like a lot of people, not working so hard is one of my issues I need to work on because I was brainwashed into thinking that we have to work very hard to be respected in life.

What are your issues & your goals? I'm interested : )

8. The Universe - I don't believe in god or religion, I ONLY believe in the spiritual Universe & energy.

I've been studying spirituality for years now (since '92), & it's now a somatic experience for me, not only a left brain understanding.

I seek others who get what I'm saying, agree, & are somatically spiritual.

If you have been studying Abraham Hicks, all the better : )

9. Health - I quit smoking & smoking up at the end of June 2006, so I don't wish to be around people who smoke.

Even just as friends, the smell is in the hair, clothes, skin, etc.

I take health very seriously. I know a lot about alternative health, healthy food (not talking mainstream healthy here, as they are just learning about health & don't know much about it, although they are getting better which is good to see).

I'm a very strong believer that we create our own illnesses via our emotional issues & the body is just telling us we need to address something that is bothering us. I'm working on my own health issues & I don't believe you have to have cancer to have health issues.

If you think that organic is BS or eating healthy is just a fad, we probably shouldn't be in the same room together LOL. I only eat junk when I'm dying of hunger out on the road & there is nothing else around & I NEVER feel good after eating it.

I eat beef occasionally, I do eat chicken & I only eat fish when I'm eating sushi because the farmed fish is terrible with both lice & mercury, not to mention what Global Warming is doing to our water & yes, I've been environmentally conscious for the last 17 years, & even moreso since it hit mainstream.

I'm also learning a TON now about how pollution affects our health & I would love to see people taking down those huge manufacturing plants that are killing off humans.

Do you know that the male race is dying off? I'm almost finished watching the documentary on that. I know it's the time for women, but really people, is this the way to go about doing it?

I am a p/t vegetarian & I love all different ethnic foods except for E. Indian, Pakistinian, Ethiopian, or anything else that is extremely spicy overall, so although going out to restaurants isn't great because you never know what they are cooking with, I can't help myself being a foodie & yes, the quality & taste of food is very important to me : )

I don't just shove food in my mouth because I'm hungry. I have a refined palette. Gotta love Chef Ramsey if you don't hate him first!

Should have been a food critic LOL

I am not an avid workout person, but when I do work out, I love it.

I used to do pilates, now I'm dancing at home to get back into shape after gaining some weight & this past summer I finally bought a new bike with all the fixings.

10. Sense of humour - yes, I have that somewhat dry, sarcastic, intelligent sense of humor & quick wit & I really appreciate that in someone else.

I'm not into stupid humour.

11. Family - You don't have issues with kids. While I don't like annoying kids who are out of control, I am seeking people who don't have issues with kids in general & don't have a problem eventually bonding with them. My last partner emotionally did a number on my son, so it's something I'm more aware of now.

News as of September 2009 - my son no longer lives with me, & him & I are no longer talking. I didn't realize there were sooo many abusive kids out there, & that there is such a thing called "parent abuse". I even started a blog about it, so if you are the type of parent who thinks you have to be responsible for everything your kid does, or live with them even if they are abusive to you, we aren't on the same page.

My feeling is that it doesn't matter who you are, parent, sibling or child, no one should be abused by someone else just b/c they are a family member. That's both physically & emotionally.

That doesn't mean we have to be "nice" 24/7. I usually am if we are very compatible, but people do do things that annoy me : ) I'm talking about people or kids who abuse & don't care to figure out how to solve the problem, so instead abuse or running away is their way to solve their problems. That of course is a clear sign of immaturity & I'd love to say only kids act this way, but we know there are tons of adults out there just as immature as 17 year old teenagers.

So no more kids for me. It came earlier than expected, so I'm now going back to learning how to live totally alone : ) It's been a long time since I lived by myself.

12. Respect - I seek people who respect others. I always respect people by responding back to e-mails, returning phone calls, saying what's on my mind & generally treating others as I want to be treated.

There are human traits that I don't respect, & if you are interested to know what will trigger me, just ask. : )

13. Balance - I believe 1000% in balance. Not being obsessive one way or another. Someone balanced is a healthier person in my opinion.

13. My interests. Here are just some of my interests...

Dancing, Movies, TV, Reading, Learning, Spiritual Growth, Cooking, Theatre, Travel & Business.

Anyway, I will end my ad here. I just wanted to give you a cross section of who I am & what kind of a person I seek.

I know it's long, & I apologize for that, but clearly I'm not your average person, nor do I wish to be around people who are average.

If you feel we can start off as friends, I'm ready whenever you are to see if we can converse over the phone.

I would appreciate you giving me the keywords "I would like to start off only as friends with no expectations" & tell me why at first glance you think we are compatible.

You have a wonderful Holiday Season & keep warm, it's damm cold our there again : )

Love

Michelle

I don't have favorites. I'm too diverse to have any one desire. It's a lot simpler to say what I don't like then what I do like, as I love to explore & try new things. : )

Movies, won't watch horror or stupid humor, can handle some C&W, but it's not really my cup of tea.

I don't like subtitles, I feel it takes away from the movie since I get into the characters & their body language. One can't do that while reading text.

Other than that, I'm game & since I can watch pretty much anything I usually let the other person pick from a selection that I have an interest in.

Music, anything pop dating from the 50's on up. Disco (within reason, classic rock I find as I get older I like more rock type music.

I won't listen to heavy rock though, heavy rap, metal, house, C&W or hip hop, but I can listen to pop rap, some pop C&W, electric which may be house, who knows anymore, & I don't like alternative, but once again, I don't know what that means, other than I like my singers who can carry a tune & I could be wrong, but I'm under the impression that alternative artists don't. Sometimes it doesn't matter b/c of the melody, most times for me it does since my ear is very sensitive.

I even love some foreign music & I have a vast New Age collection for sleeping.

Books, I don't read much fiction anymore, but I probably should read more just to lose myself. If I do, it's usually suspense novels. I used to read Dean Koontz when I was younger, but I think he's since gotten too dark for me.

I used to love John Grisham, but his last book sits in my magazine rack unfinished.

Now I mainly read business books, books regarding my industry, & books on spiritual growth.

I've sort of started reading magazines lately, health ones & just picked up one on Islands which is getting me into visualizing traveling to where I want to go, so that's good. I may buy their subscription.

I read so much online every day being a netrepreneur, I think I need to start getting away from the computer & reading more in print which is healthier for the brain anyone if you didn't already know.

Food - everything but junk food & spicy. Can't stand East Indian or Pakistani, although I've once tasted a really good home made samoses.

Ethiopian isn't my cup of tea either, way too spicy & I don't like the sponge lemon bread as I call it LOL

Everything else I love if it's cooked properly (I'm a foodie), although I haven't tried every ethnic food, but I have a wide range underneath my belt having lived in Toronto for many years.

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