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24 F Providence, RI

My Details

Last Online
Jul 19
4′ 11″ (1.50m)
Body Type
Other, and laughing about it
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
I really need to update this thing since I wrote most of it when I was 18/19. I'll get around to it one of these days...

I'm Kiwi. I never get used to trying to fit myself in these boxes; I keep missing things out and cutting off corners. I think I've about got it right now.

I love to laugh, giggle, chuckle, smile, whatever. I am not afraid to be silly; in the words of Maude from Harold and Maude (a favourite film of mine), "Everyone has the right to make an ass out of themselves. You just can't let the world judge you too much."

I grew up in Massachusetts, went to the University of Reading in England and moved to Providence during the end of 2012. I'm still getting settled in, really. (I got my degree in Ecology & Conservation. I thought my procrastination days would end with studenthood, but I was wrong...)

I spend quite a bit of time plucking at my ukulele and faffing about on the Internet. Also hanging about with my many (11) housemates, who are also my friends, and the 8 cats/1 ferret/1 rabbit of the household.

I grew up an athlete but then went and broke myself (fractured hip) so now I'm not. I've had a bad hip since I was 14 and a hip replacement since I was 17. (My ceramic hip's name is Fluffy.) Now I tend to be an odd writer with assorted hobbies and interests that I can seldom name in one thought stream. I like to get outside whenever I'm able to and my hip allows it. Lately my hip has been pretty terrible and hasn't allowed me to do much at all, which frustrates me quite a bit.

My friend once told me I reminded her of a forest faerie or dryad. I love unicorns and fantastical things; my imagination has never faded. I'm a little strange, but a lot more than a little okay with that.

I identify as genderbendy/"girl-bendy"/genderqueer (sometimes different terms for different days) and I'm trying to slowly (on a budget) move my wardrobe more toward the masculine look I've been wanting. If you have bow-ties that you don't want, we should chat: I'm on an endless quest for bow-ties.

Sometimes I'm loud and silly and active; sometimes I'm quiet and soft and still. I love being both ways and somewhere in-between. People that can jump this pendulum life with me make me happy, but I'm equally pleased to join friends on either side. I try my darndest not to judge people and from what I'm told, I succeed.

(As far as dating/romance/relationships go, I'm poly-friendly. Many of my friends and favourite fictional relationships have been poly; I tend to dig it.)

These days I'm mostly looking for friends.
What I’m doing with my life
Doing odds and ends; volunteering with the high-school aged teens and also on the worship committee planning/crafting services at my Unitarian Universalist congregation; prancing around and being silly; volunteering in general; wearing pyjamas too often (which is to say, just the right amount); looking for a job that will not make me miserable but will let me earn enough to pay rent/bills, student loans, food, and a little fun; thinking about having a yard/garden some day so I can learn to garden and live with a dog again. I also spend a lot of time snuggling with my old-man pug-dog, whom I've had since I was nine.
I’m really good at
Writing, at least word-count wise (NaNoWriMo anyone?). Working with kidlings, kids, and teens. Talking about sex/sexuality/relationships/queer-community stuff. Living whimsically and creatively. Being a dork. Activism and volunteering. Spontaneity. Doing headstands. Throwing snowballs. Making very pretty To Do Lists that might get done faster if time weren't put into making them pretty (rainbow pens! :D ). Reciting Dr. Seuss' "Oh The Places You'll Go". Being with people. Being alone.
The first things people usually notice about me
It's split between height, outfits and expressions:

- I'm 4'11, though I often come off as taller (thanks Doc Martens!);
- The outfits just tend to be odd or colourful or monochromatic--I try to look dapper whenever possible;
- I have been described as a 'rubber face' and my face shows an expression before I can think it.

Sudden realisation: when my hair is down, it's my hair, which is down to my tailbone when dry but which I often forget would draw attention.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: I'm not a picky reader. I'm a voracious book caterpillar fattening up to become a literary butterfly. I stink at favourite books; I love something about every book. For comfort books, I do have a soft spot for Harry Potter and Tamora Pierce's series 'Circle of Magic,' despite both being aimed at young adults. Young Adult books can be wonderful! Rachel Carson is also my personal shero and I am very fond of her more personal writing especially. I tend to love fantasy, sci-fi, fiction, non-fiction, biographies and information books as well as lesbian lit. in any genre (even pulp fiction). Also textbooks. And books on sexuality/gender. Never let me in used bookstores. Especially ones with any sort of "sale" sign in the window. I'll leave it at that!

Films: (This is a list from when I was 16, but it's the most recent list I have.) Alice in Wonderland, Amelie, Better than Chocolate, Blue Crush, But I’m a Cheerleader, Ellen DeGeneres: The Beginning and Modern life and Other Inconveniences, Empire Records, Harold and Maude, Harry Potter films, If These Walls Could Talk II, Imagine Me & You, Iron Jawed Angels, It’s in the Water, Monty Python: Holy Grail, Life of Brian, and Meaning of Life, Lion King, Lion King 1 ½ slash 3, Loving Annabelle, Mirror Mask, RENT, Rocky Horror Picture Show, Sailor Moon R S and SuperS, Sin City, Studio Ghibli productions, The Fifth Element, The Incredibly True Adventures of Two Girls in Love, The Last Unicorn, The Princess Bride, The Truth about Jane, Underworld, V for Vendetta, Elena Undone, and maaaaaany more.

Music: (I should also update this when I have my iPod on me.) Alanis Morissette, Alix Olson, Amanda Palmer, Amy Carol Webb, Amy Speace, Ani DiFranco, Avenue Q, The Beatles, Carbon Leaf, Carly Simon, Carole King, Cat Power, Cat Stevens, Counting Crows, Disney Anything, The Dresden Dolls, Eliza Gilkyson, Ellis Delaney, Ember Swift, Fiona Apple, Five O'Clock Shadow, The Free Design, Gandalf Murphy & the Slambovian Circus of Dreams, Gin Blossoms, Girlyman, The Goo Goo Dolls, Ingrid Michaelson, Janis Joplin, Jenny Owen Youngs, Joan Baez, Jupiter Sunrise, Kimya Dawson, Lui Collins, Mandalay, Mary Poppins, Melissa Ferrick, Meredith Brooks, Monty Python, Patty Larkin, Peter Paul & Mary, Presidents of the United States of America, Queen, Rachael Davis, Regina Spektor, RENT, Sarah Bettens, Shawn Colvin, Sheryl Crow, Spice Girls, Suzanne Vega, Tegan & Sara, Tierney Sutton, Tori Amos, Uh Huh Her, Voltaire, Zoë Lewis, my friends and many more.

Food: I am not much of a foodie. I don't do seafood/fish (mostly a texture thing) and I generally don't do much meat except chicken or turkey when I'm buying my food/eating in. But I have a firm rule about not "yucking" anyone's "yum" and I DO appreciate good food when it's put in front of me! :D I love sandwiches - no, really, I do. I also have a soft spot for avocados.

I watch a lot of TV at the moment. More than I am willing to list, I think. I did notice a trend in my appreciation for shows that feature female friendships that don't revolve around romance with males. (Or, uh, lesbian shows.) Alright, fine, a list is available here. :P
The six things I could never do without
Community (family/friends), nature, ukulele, Internet, imagination, reading of some kind (books, fanfic, Internet: I need my words!).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Everything I can. Silly, serious, serene. I equally enjoy going out of my mind.

I love daydreaming. Night-dreaming, too. I think those may count as thinking, to varying degrees...
On a typical Friday night I am
Varied. Sometimes my friends bring me out (often to the Rocky Horror midnight shows, since many of them are shadow-cast members). I admit that I also love chilled nights in pyjamas, staying in to watch films and hang out with occasional spontaneous dance, art, cuddles, whatever. Generally I'm up for most things. (: I love dancing but it tends to wreck my hip, so though I enjoy the occasional night out crazy-dancing, I have to limit those. These days many of my Friday nights are spent with my housemates at home or, as I mentioned, out at shadowcasting events.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Many people here say "I'm an open book, ask me anything" or some variant; that's totally true for me too. But there's something I want to include even if it drives people off, just because I only want people to contact me if that's really what they want to do. This is a good indicating factor of that.

I'm a virgin. It's not because I "can't get any" or because I'm religiously/morally/whatever else against it or because I'm waiting for perfect romantic love/marriage. For a long while it wasn't my priority in life (school was) and now I'm (happily and not at all impatiently) waiting for someone I trust and who mutually catches my interest. (As a person with some physical disability and chronic pain, my body can be an un-fun place to inhabit sometimes and I can't always trust it; that means the trust that doesn't go to my body must be transferred to the "someone else" to be gentle with it when that's what it needs.) I'm not miserable over it, either; I'm really quite content.

It doesn't mean I'm not educated, either. I've been reading erotic literature and fanfic since before I was a teenager; I watch (good) porn and educational videos (fuck yeah Nina Hartley and Jiz Lee and all the queer pornstars); I'm the "go-to gal" when my friends have questions about sex or sexuality or relationships; I love reading books like Betty Dodson's "My Romatic Love Wars" or books like "The Whole Lesbian Sex Book" or "The Ethical Slut"; I have my own supplies. I just haven't done it all. So by society's standards I am both a slut and a prude, haha. I think sex-positivity can totally co-exist with virginity and that it doesn't have to be a "virgin-shaming" thing.

(It still seems odd to me that being a virgin is taken as such a shameful thing these days for anyone who's over, like, 17. Isn't the idea that people should have the chance to do it when they want to, without being judged, what we're all working for? Club Tina Fey!)

Oh, and I don't shave. Only very rarely when it suits my fancy. It's no big deal to me, so if it's going to be a big deal for you in any way, we should probably just pass each other by with a smile. (:
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like girls
  • Ages 20–30
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
you want to, honestly! Especially if you're a bit on the geektastic side and you enjoy hanging about or going off on adventures. I'm here for friends more than anything, I think, so if you feel awkward about messaging me with anything Else in mind, please feel free and encouraged to pop me a message as a step toward friendship.

Sometimes I don't get to visit Internet Street often, and more often than that it takes me ages to get through my email inbox, so if it takes me ages to respond I'm sorry in advance!