Location: Watford, Hertfordshire for 3-4 days a week; Wrexham, North Wales for the other 3-4.
I'm a sceptical pagan, a sensible freak, and a reasonably sober old punk.
I've been practising polyamory for most of my life these days, and am finally starting to get reasonably good at it. More about polyamory & other shagging stuff in the "You Should Message Me If" section, below, if you're interested. I am married, and still spending some time with my wife, but (as of July 2010) no longer romantically or sexually involved with her, and as of February 2015, in the process of splitting up. We were together nearly 19 years, and are still good friends, and were polyamorous throughout (which made the transition to a non-sexual relationship a hell of a lot easier and less painful than it might otherwise have been, and seems to be doing the same during our current splitting-up/divorcing phase).
I'm pretty keen on Relationship Anarchy (look it up!) these days. Utterly unwilling to entertain monogamy or even monogamish (experimented recently with something like that and it made me deeply unhappy).
I have several extensive tattoos (see pics for the biggest one, which goes from my coccyx to my crown) and four piercings (three of which are below the neck; it used to be six/five). I like to shave some bits of my hair off and grow other bits long. I like shiny clothes, and big boots, and spiky things.
I read constantly; literary fiction, SF & Fantasy, thrillers, crime novels, historical fiction, gritty contemporary urban literature, history books, popular science, whatever comes to hand. Favourite authors include Iain Banks, J L Borges, Isabel Allende, Alastair Reynolds, Marge Piercy, Ursula Le Guin, Niall Griffiths, and Rupert Thomson.
I play games. I write tabletop roleplaying games and teach Game Studies & Game Design for a living, but I also play boardgames, computer games, and especially live roleplaying games.
I enjoy keeping fit -- running, martial arts (depending on time/fitness/convenience, this can include: judo, Filipino martial arts, Thai boxing, sport fencing, classical fencing, Tai Chi, taijutsu, combatives, and even the obligatory year or so of karate when very young!), weightlifting, kettlebell workouts, CrossFit, bodyweight exercises, etc. I aim to be lean, athletic, strong, and possessed of almost limitless energy. I like it that way.
I'm a bit of a nerdy science fiction geek... but only a bit. I do like to think that I'm capable of having conversations about other stuff too, from anarchist circus and contemporary dance to goth/industrial gigs and high-falutin' sculpture. If I know that you have no interest in SF & Fantasy & all that, you're unlikely to hear much about it from me. Just be warned that I was my primary school's acclaimed Doctor Who expert when I was eight, renowned for my ability to reel off summaries of every episode, even the ones I hadn't seen. I'm not sure I could remember them all now though.
Most of my living these days is made from writing, editing, game design, research, & lecturing. In the past I've had an assortment of jobs from vegan chocolatier to factory worker, deliverer of organic vegetables by bicycle to pagan bookshop-owner (the shop's still going, but I sold it on a few years back), graphic designer to stage technician, stilt-walker to marketing manager. It's all been fun, but I like what I do now, best.
I used to be somewhat more involved with political activism than I am now (mostly chaining myself to trees to stop roads being built through forests). I still go on demos and cause trouble occasionally, but mostly these days I talk a good fight. I'm not vegetarian any more, but am committed to not buying any meat that isn't at the very least free-range, and I can & do still cook decent veggie food too. Where possible, I buy locally made food from farmers' markets, etc., or get it delivered in bulk by the excellent Suma workers' co-op. Having recently read _No Logo_, I've also decided not to buy any sweatshop-made clothing, which cuts out 90% of high street shops. EDIT: heading more towards vegetarianism, most of the time -- we'll see how it goes. :)
I do travel a bit, mostly to visit friends or for academic conferences. I love New York and Chicago and Denver, especially, in the USA, and plan to get out to Oregon and California someday too. I seem to get to Europe and North Africa more often at the moment though. I am from the internet, especially alt.gothic
I am quite close to being polysaturated right now, especially with PhD work and day job to fit in, too. I have a wonderful, amazing partner, and another fantastic lover who's quite far away and who I don't spend as much time with as I would like. So I am a little resistant to starting something new. Unless you are especially fabulous. I am sure you are.
My (soon to be ex) wife told me this profile makes me come across as an arrogant idiot, and that I'm actually really nice. I pointed out that she thought I WAS an arrogant idiot when we first met...
I am venomous, fearless, and dry. But I'm trying to be a better person. Aiming for supportive, fearless, and dry.