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  • Ages 38-58
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Nov 2
6' 1" (1.85m)
Body Type
Average build
Agnosticism and it’s important
Post grad
Has kid(s) and wants more
Has cats
My self-summary
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I leap tall buildings in a single bound. I collect Nobel prizes like boys collect baseball cards. I swim the English Channel for lazy weekend relaxation. I stop bullets with my bare hands. And I have a very nice bridge I would like to sell you.

I am an art-nerd, who is warm, conversational and a little impulsive. I make music and love silence, stay home and wander broadly. I am drawn to very smart women who are creative, principled, good with children, independent, warm, and sensual; who laugh easily, and who feel awestruck (at least sometimes) by the majesty of the world: a craggy hilltop in the fog; the squeak and sweat of street ball; a flooded river and a bright kayak; a long road and an old car; smells of whiskey and leather; lions at night; my children’s faces; a garage with loud guitars; busted-up industrial buildings; dusty walking shoes; the steps to your home.

It would be great to find a love with whom to share a life of adventure and safety; wandering and domesticity. She may have traversed the planet, but she knows that the inner world (hers, mine, ours) contains continents and oceans yet to be explored...and she is an explorer, who seeks for beauty in light and darkness both. I know I won't find you overnight, but I've lived enough to be patient. Besides, I like meeting people, and I am content to have a few affectionate intrigues along the way.
What I’m doing with my life
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Family, friends, day work (teaching creative writing), night work (writing music and poetry), walking, thinking, laughing, making trouble with friends, and managing a heated bromance with my cat.

I have also directed Shakespeare and worked in Africa. I love both and will go back to them when I can.
I’m really good at
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Getting out into the world
Getting to the bottom of things
Getting the gig

Also, editing other people's writing, though not always my own.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My invisibility cloak.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Food & drink: Indian, Mexican, Ethiopian, Moroccan

Prose: The Master and Margarita, JG Ballard stories. Also Kundera, Marquez, LeCarre, Coetze, Chekhov, Saramago, Dostoevsky, Gibson, LeGuin.

Poetry: Wallace Stevens, Frank O'Hara, Elizabeth Bishop, Seamus Heaney, John Keats, Pablo Neruda, Anne Sexton, Sophocles, the unpublished geniuses in my beloved writing group.

Music: Modest Mouse, Radiohead, Gomez, Dexter Gordon, Godspeed You! Black Emperor, The Dresden Dolls, Astor Piazzolla, avant jazz, Mount Eerie, Nirvana, Miles Davis, Astrud Gilberto, Velvet Underground, Bright Eyes, Beck...

Movies & TV: Black Mirror, Battlestar Gallactica, Dallas Buyers' Club, The Wire, District Nine, Rashomon, Blow Up, Pan's Labyrinth, Being John Malkovich, American Beauty, Louie. Bojack Horseman!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
wind, trees, sunlight, darkness
music equipment
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Reading on the couch with my son
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Hearing music, making music, walking in the mist.
You should message me if
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You have a warm heart and a probing mind.

You are in love with poetry and the natural world.

You smile and laugh easily.

You would like to meet an art-nerd, who is warm, conversational and a little impulsive.