I am warm, conversational, nerdy, cultured, and a little impulsive. I make music and love silence, stay home and wander broadly. I am drawn to smart women who are creative, principled, nerdy, warm, wild, and sensual; who laugh easily, and who feel awestruck (at least sometimes) by the majesty of the world: a craggy hilltop in the fog; the squeak and sweat of street ball; a flooded river and a bright kayak; a long road and an old car; smells of whiskey and leather; lions at night; my children’s faces; a garage echoing with loud guitars; busted-up industrial buildings; dusty walking shoes; the steps to your home.
I want a love with whom to share a life of adventure and safety; wandering and domesticity. She may have traversed the planet, but she knows that the inner world (hers, mine, ours) contains continents and oceans yet to be explored...and she is an explorer, who seeks for beauty in light and darkness both. I know I won't find you overnight, but I've lived enough to be patient. Besides, I like meeting people, and I am happy to have a few affectionate intrigues along the way.
I have also directed Shakespeare and worked in Africa. I love both and will go back to them when I can.
Getting to the bottom of things
Getting the gig
Also, editing other people's writing, though not always my own.
Prose: Recent loves: Blindness, The Master and Margarita, The Woman in the Dunes, JG Ballard stories. Also Kundera, Marquez, LeCarre, Coetze, Chekhov, Dostoevsky, Gibson, LeGuin.
Poetry: Wallace Stevens, Frank O'Hara, Elizabeth Bishop, Seamus Heaney, John Keats, Pablo Neruda, Anne Sexton, Sophocles, the unpublished geniuses in my writing group.
Music: Modest Mouse, Bedhead, My Bloody Valentine, Radiohead, Dexter Gordon, Godspeed You! Black Emperor, The Dresden Dolls, Astor Piazzolla, avant jazz, Mount Eerie, Nirvana, Miles Davis, Astrud Gilberto, Velvet Underground, Bright Eyes, Beck...
Movies & TV: Bojack Horseman! Transparent! Black Mirror! Also: Dallas Buyers' Club, The Wire, District Nine, Rashomon, Blow Up, Pan's Labyrinth, Being John Malkovich, American Beauty, Louie...
- Music equipment
- Your embrace. Okay, I'm not dead yet - as far as I can tell - so I guess that's hyperbole. Like the rest of this list.
Why many women on okcupid list parallel parking as the thing they're really good at. Actually, I think I might know, and I fully acknowledge the validity of the impulse. If you are one of them, I would like to talk with you about it.
You are in love with poetry, music, art, and the natural world.
You regularly find yourself overwhelmed by the vastness of your sensory experience...or by your need to giggle.
You have a warm heart