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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 38–44
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Aug 17
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Graduated from masters program
Art / Music / Writing
Has kids, and wants more
Likes dogs and has cats
My self-summary
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I leap tall buildings in a single bound. I collect Nobel prizes like boys collect baseball cards. I swim the English Channel for lazy weekend relaxation. I stop bullets with my bare hands. And I have a very nice bridge I would like to sell you.

I make music and love silence, stay home and wander broadly. I am drawn to very smart women who are creative, principled, independent, warm, and communicative; who laugh easily, and who feel awestruck (at least sometimes) by the majesty of the world: a craggy hilltop in the fog; the squeak and sweat of street ball; a flooded river and a bright kayak; a long road and an old car; smells of whiskey and leather; lions at night; my children’s faces; a garage with loud guitars; busted-up industrial buildings; dusty walking shoes; the steps to your home.
What I’m doing with my life
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Family, friends, day work (teaching creative writing), night work (writing music and poetry), walking, thinking, laughing, making trouble with friends, and managing a heated bromance with my cat.

I have also directed Shakespeare and worked in Africa. I love both and will go back to them when I can.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Getting out into the world
Getting to the bottom of things
Getting the gig

Also, editing other people's writing, though not always my own.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My invisibility cloak.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Food & drink: Indian, Mexican, Ethiopian, Moroccan

Prose: The Master and Margarita, JG Ballard stories. Also Kundera, Marquez, LeCarre, Coetze, Chekhov, Saramago, Dostoevsky, Gibson, LeGuin.

Poetry: Wallace Stevens, Frank O'Hara, Elizabeth Bishop, Seamus Heaney, John Keats, Pablo Neruda, Anne Sexton, Sophocles, the unpublished geniuses in my beloved writing group.

Music: Modest Mouse, Radiohead, Gomez, Dexter Gordon, Godspeed You! Black Emperor, The Dresden Dolls, Astor Piazzolla, avant jazz, Mount Eerie, Nirvana, Miles Davis, Astrud Gilberto, Velvet Underground, Bright Eyes, Beck...

Movies & TV: Black Mirror, Battlestar Gallactica, Dallas Buyers' Club, The Wire, District Nine, Rashomon, Blow Up, Pan's Labyrinth, Being John Malkovich, American Beauty, Archer, Louie.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
wind, trees, sunlight, darkness
music equipment
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Reading on the couch with my son
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Hearing music, making music, walking in the mist.
You should message me if
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You have a loving heart and a probing mind. You are in love with poetry (or any other art form) and the natural world. You've been through a thing or two but have accepted it and grown from it. You smile and laugh easily.

I don't want you to be perfect, and if you want me to be, you might want to move on to the next profile. But I do want you to be as open and willing as I am for the kinds of brave communication and collaboration that are bottom-line necessary to make a deep, lasting relationship blossom.