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50 M Yorktown Heights, NY

My Details

Last Online
Today – 7:15pm
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Has kids
Likes dogs and has cats

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My self-summary
Half of me is an artist and wanderer, a craft-obsessed introvert who who prefers thunderstorms and late nights to sunny afternoons. The other half is a stable professional, well established in an amazing and very social career, who takes satisfaction in family and in being the reliable one. I am drawn to women who are articulate, feminine, creative, passionate, funny, and really really smart.

It would be fun to dress up nice, have a martini-drenched meal, and then hit an avant garde jazz show. It would be at least as much fun to pile onto a dubious looking vehicle and head down a dusty developing-country road, in search of the lion, the leatherback turtle, the last genuine spice market in Fes.

But it would be more than fun to be ordinary. We cook and eat a slow dinner, then wander through the quiet neighborhood on a spring evening. The bracing air flows through us like water. The sun descends; the familiar trees and buildings are transfigured. Later, sitting up with the lights out, we lead each other in whispers to private territories.
What I’m doing with my life
Aside from family, friends, and work (teaching literature and creative writing), my time goes to writing and producing music and to surviving a tempestuous bromance with my cat.

I have also directed Shakespeare, played semi-professional jazz, and worked in Africa. I love all three and intend to go back to them as soon as I figure out how to invent 48 hour days.
I’m really good at
Going out into the world
Generating to the bottom of things
Getting the gig
Getting in trouble
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Food & drink: Indian, Mexican, Mediterranean, Moroccan

Prose: Recent fave: The Master and Margarita. I also love Kundera, Ishiguro, Marquez, Didion, LeCarre, Chekhov, Dostoevsky, and JG Ballard. I hung out with Jennifer Egan once, which rocked.

Poetry: Wallace Stevens, Billy Collins, Pablo Neruda, Elizabeth Bishop, Seamus Heaney.

Music: Modest Mouse, Radiohead, Gomez, Dexter Gordon, Eminem, The Dresden Dolls, Astor Piazzolla, Nirvana, Miles Davis, Isis, Portishead, Astrud Gilberto, Sufjan Stevens...

Movies & TV: Wilfred, House of Cards, District Nine, Dallas Buyers' Club, The Wire, Arrested Development, Rashomon, Blow Up, Pan's Labyrinth, Being John Malkovich, American Beauty, The Seventh Seal, Archer, Louie, Battlestar Gallactica. A chemistry teacher I know looks (and acts) a little too much like Walter White did before he became Heisenberg. I'm uncertain about him.
The six things I could never do without
rain, wind, trees, sunlight
my children
tons of laughter
amazing conversations
music equipment
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Reading on the couch with my son
On a typical Friday night I am
Atypical. Or watching Netflix.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I've flown solo for awhile and I'm good at it. I'm just not very interested in it anymore.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 35–55
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating
You should message me if
You feel potential chemistry