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51 M Yorktown Heights, NY

I’m looking for

  • Everybody
  • Ages 35–55
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Sep 14
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Graduated from masters program
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Has kids
Likes dogs and has cats

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My self-summary
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I leap tall buildings in a single bound. I collect Nobel prizes like boys collect baseball cards. I swim the English Channel for lazy weekend relaxation. I stop bullets with my bare hands. And I have a very nice bridge I would like to sell you.

I play hard and touch softly, run things and let them slide, make music and love silence, stay home and wander broadly. Alert, interested minds interest me. I am drawn to very smart women who are poised, ambitious, pretty, feminine, and communicative, who laugh easily and feel awe toward this world.

A craggy hilltop in the fog; the squeak and sweat of street ball; a flooded river and a bright kayak; a long road and an old car; a mountain to climb; smells of whiskey and old leather; lions at night; my children’s faces; a garage to jam in; violent hockey games; industrial buildings; dusty walking shoes; flowers gathered, tie adjusted, a poem just written; the steps to your apartment.
What I’m doing with my life
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Family, friends, day job (teaching creative writing), night job (music--writing/producing), walking, thinking, laughing, making trouble

I have also directed Shakespeare, played jazz guitar, and worked in Africa. I love all three and will go back to them when I can.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Getting out into the world
Getting to the bottom of things
Getting the gig
The first things people usually notice about me
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My invisibility cloak.
Wait, that's not supposed to happen...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Food & drink: Indian, Mexican, Mediterranean, Moroccan

Prose: Recent faves: The Master and Margarita, JG Ballard stories. Also Kundera, Ishiguro, Marquez, Coetze, LeCarre, Chekhov, O'Brien, and Dostoevsky. I hung out with Jennifer Egan once, which rocked. Also non-fiction by Joan Didion and Jared Diamond and John McPhee, and poems by Wallace Stevens, Theodore Roethke, Pablo Neruda, Elizabeth Bishop, Seamus Heaney, John Keats.

Music: Modest Mouse, Radiohead, Gomez, Dexter Gordon, Eminem, Godspeed You! Black Emperor, The Dresden Dolls, Astor Piazzolla, Norwegian avant jazz, Mount Eerie, Nirvana, Miles Davis, Isis, Sunn 0)), Portishead, Astrud Gilberto, Mount Fuji Doomjazz Ensemble, Velvet Underground, Sufjan Stevens, Bright Eyes, Beck...

Movies & TV: Wilfred, House of Cards, Dallas Buyers' Club, The Wire, Rashomon, Blow Up, Pan's Labyrinth, Being John Malkovich, American Beauty, Archer, Louie, Battlestar Gallactica.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
wind, trees, sunlight, darkness
music equipment
your voice
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Reading on the couch with my son
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Seeing avant-jazz at Cornelia Street, having a loud drone-metal jam in someone's studio, or sitting over drinks and talking like Donald Duck.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Silly question. I'll tell all if we connect meaningfully.
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