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45 M Oklahoma City, OK

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6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
A little extra
Atheism, and very serious about it
Libra, but it doesn’t matter
Dropped out of university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has a kid
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), German (Poorly), Latin (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I am a disabled veteran. I do a little bit of computer work as a paying hobby with a specialization in laptop repair. I have a grown son but geography means that I don't get to see him nearly as often as I'd like. While I am also just as much a dog person even though I don't have one living with me currently, I do live with a cat who is as attached to me as I am to him. I am not going to give him up so if you're allergic or just don't like cats, we're probably not going to have a lasting relationship.

If you're looking for a bad boy with lots of tats, you'd better just move along. I was raised to treat people with respect, kindness, and generosity whenever possible. I may become absent-minded and aloof at times and even occasionally fail to take your feelings into account but I could never be deliberately callous or cruel. I try very hard to keep my word and with that, try to only give it when I am confident that I can keep it. I believe in being as open and honest as I can. Sometimes it is hard to balance kindness and honesty but I would never be deceptive if kindness seemed more important.

Just because I am not a bastard does not mean I am a pushover, either. I would never strike another person to settle a score but that doesn't mean that I am incapable of defending myself and those in my care.
What I’m doing with my life
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I am in the process of overhauling almost every major aspect of my life. From healthy eating to exercise to relationships and more, I am changing my outlook on nearly everything. After being a spectator for too many years, I am no longer content to let life pass me by. It is easy to say something like this and hard to put it into action but I can assure you that I am completely committed to the new life I am creating. I have managed to shed over 20% of my body weight so far this year and that puts me well on my way to my goal. I've also finally managed to acquire a recumbent tadpole tricycle and I'm actually beginning to ride regularly.

I have started discarding most of my possessions and packing the rest. A new life means letting go of the things from the past that no longer matter. The real motivation for this though is the fact that I want to find a decently-sized sailboat (24-32 foot) and I want to live aboard her as well as get her out on the water as often as I can. When I was younger, I went sailing rather often on Lake Hefner with friends and family and I have found that I want to get back into it again and learn how to handle a boat this large on my own.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
"A human being should be able to change a diaper, plan an invasion, butcher a hog, conn a ship, design a building, write a sonnet, balance accounts, build a wall, set a bone, comfort the dying, take orders, give orders, cooperate, act alone, solve equations, analyze a new problem, pitch manure, program a computer, cook a tasty meal, fight efficiently, die gallantly. Specialization is for insects."
So far, I haven't been able to get a handle on #6 and I plan to die quietly in bed so #21 will hopefully never be tested. The rest are cake, though.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I know the first thing I notice every time I look in the mirror is the gray hair in my beard and mustache. I don't feel old enough to have any gray hair. I find it works best to just shave it all off.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I got a Kindle recently and have begun reading again. Mostly, I've been reading some sci-fi classics that I never got around to reading before, including H. G. Wells, Ursula K. LeGuin, Phillip K. Dick, and Douglas Adams but in the past I have enjoyed books from many genres, including mysteries, thrillers, true crime, and historical non-fiction, particularly with regard to ancient technology and warfare. At the top of my list of all-time favorites is Heinlein's Starship Troopers, because I read it during an afternoon pass while I was in Basic Training. It was a particularly cathartic experience and that is what makes this book my #1.

I am really into film, particularly documentaries, foreign, independent, and classic Hollywood cinema. My best friend is a film school grad and he's helped me get a pretty good informal education on the history of cinema. I hate to name only one film as a favorite but I suppose it would have to be Dr. Strangelove or: How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Love the Bomb but I'm also quite partial to Blazing Saddles, The Princess Bride, Airplane!, This is Spinal Tap, Being There, and The Producers (Zero Mostel > Nathan Lane). There are dozens, hundreds, really, of others, such as almost every film in the Criterion Collection. I'm a huge fan of Monty Python and many other staples of British comedy, including many of the old Ealing Studios comedies. I'm not averse to good drama or even action flicks but I really prefer stories that are character-driven rather than explosion-driven. I'm not even opposed to most chick flicks and rom-coms but I will say up front that I have almost no interest in horror movies. I generally find them pretty boring and derivative. Occasionally, though, something like The Evil Dead comes along and manages to hold my interest.

I despise nearly all reality television. I'm not kidding. Occasionally some of the celebrity life shows (Gene Simmons, John Force, Ed Begley, Jr, Dee Snider, etc) can be interesting but when they start to get contrived, I'm looking for a real documentary to watch.

My music tastes are pretty broad; I really like classic rock (I'll take The Who over the Beatles and the Stones, thank you very much - John Entwistle was indescribably awesome), jazz, and classical. Once in a while, I'll hear something new that really catches my ear so I don't mind listening to other genres occasionally. In the car, though, I almost always listen to NPR.

I have managed to completely overhaul my diet in my quest for better health. I'm all about glycemic load these days and it's been months since I've eaten breads, potatoes, pastries, or candy. I mostly live on steamed or juiced vegetables, salads, meats, and cheese.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
NPR and the BBC World Service
Water - Seriously. I'm drinking over a gallon per day.
Internet access
Wind - It is essential to my two favorite outdoor activities: sailing and kiting.
All-beef hot dogs, Chicago-style
In light of my dietary modifications, Habanero Jack cheese has replaced hot dogs as the snack I'd prefer not to live without (Damn, I was eating hot dogs as snacks. No wonder I had gained so much weight.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why so many people can't show a little more kindness and compassion. And why anyone without a seven-figure income votes Republican.

Whether I'm going to fit in when I get to Portland because I don't own a single pair of Chucks and almost certainly never will. My feet need too much support.

Whether my cat will hate me when he finds out that we're going to be living on a sailboat.

How many years it will take me to acquire the skills needed to navigate the Northwest Passage on a sailboat.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Online and wondering why I don't get out more and find a date.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I used to be a Republican. I got better.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 30–55
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
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- you are interested in a kind, courteous man who knows how to show respect.
- you have a good sense of humor and can appreciate mine (or at least pretend and try to laugh at my jokes.)
- you are looking for someone you can talk to (who will actually listen.)
- you are curvy and confident about it. Oh, how my heart melts at the sight of a real woman with real curves. This is not my primary consideration in choosing someone to date but it is a big(!) bonus.
- you're impressed by the fact that my Bacon Number is 2.