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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 18-80
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Today – 9:56am
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
5' 8" (1.73m)
Body Type
Average build
Agnosticism but it’s not important
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids but wants them
Has cats
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
First and foremost I am married to a wonderful sexy woman. We are open and looking for friends...
The following is my original note here with some changes...
I struggle between romanticism and pragmatism . I have been told that I am sweet, sensual, creative, and caring. I am an avid reader, and music listener. Films are good too. I have a house in Oakland. I am handy with tools, etc... fixer upper there. Have a big garden, art studio, a newly planted Sequoia tree, and a strange squirrel that keeps showing up. My housemates are amazing and very creative and talented. We sometimes have backyard movie nights next to the outdoor fireplace. I got my MFA in New Media. I was an adjunct professor teaching at a local school. Considering other schools . I do video and sound installation. I compose and play music. I do a little multi media performance. I also hone my pen and ink drawing skills. I am a handy person at a health food coop. My hair is a little messy. I am constantly in awe towards the amount of talented people I know. I have shown in museums and galleries. I have been in arts residencies. I have toured throughout Europe for music. I have played in front of over 3000 people. I have produced a music an arts festival for years. I love being in love. I like to hike. I love the ocean.
I am handsome, eccentric, intelligent, and warm
What I’m doing with my life
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Fixing up my house. Working a lot. Reading a lot. Trying to establish a disciplined art and music practice. And, yes, starting to exercise.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Helping my friends. Building a community. Writing music. Creating visual art. Fixing things. Producing and curating. Kissing.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My blue eyes. That I look like a cross between the Flaming Lips singer (Wayne Coyne), Tom Waits, and Paul Rudd.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Films by...Lars Van Triers, Godard, Wes Anderson, ( I love the Royal Tenenbaums), Woody Allen, Ingmar Bergman, I loved the films "There Will Be Blood, Dog Day Afternoon.

Music too numerous. These days I have been listening to Die Antwoord, Nosaj Thing, Niel Young, o.lamm, The Field, Taken by Trees, Leafcutter John, Fever Ray, MGMT, MIA, Thom Yorke, The Notwhist , Radiohead, and many others too numerous to mention.

Along with the experimental stuff I still like the rock and roll including, Black Sabbath, ACDC, Rolling Stones, etc...

Books. I am a part owner of a bookstore do I love books and the books I like are too numerous to name as well. Just finished a Murakami book. I like fiction and non-fiction, with a little of science fiction thrown in. Art books as well...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Sex/ Love
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The to - do list I wrote yesterday.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Trying not to go out. But get often pulled out by friends and going to music and art shows.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Read some of my answers to the ok cupid questions. Some of them are pretty revealing. Yikes. Oh, and i am still a bit emotional about my last heartbreak.
You should message me if
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You are looking for an open minded couple, single, (kinksters are a plus). We occasionally play alone with others but mostly we play together.My past profile stated... I am looking for an independent minded spirit but one that would want to collaborate in life, and perhaps in projects. My ultimate relationship would be an equal one much similar to the artist/ designer husband and wife team, Charles and Ray Eames. They made beautiful things together.