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38 San Mateo, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 25–42
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 3:43pm
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body type
Graduated from masters program
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
English, French (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
This is me in a nutshell:
- I've called the Bay Area home since 2000, after stops in Ohio, China, and New York.
- I grew up in France, but I'm not French.
- I've done, and occasionally do, all the stereotypical Bay Area OKC guy stuff (hiking, rock climbing, dancing salsa, playing guitar) but I've never been to Burning Man, and don't plan on it either.
- I love animals (they taste delicious!)
- I love kids (they taste delicious!)
- I sing/hum in the shower and beatbox everywhere else
- I constantly have a string of completely unrelated songs or pieces of music that play in succession in my head (earworm non sequiturs?)
- I have an adorable niece and an equally adorable nephew who keep me grounded and are the best antidote to ridiculous grownup concerns. If ever I'm feeling down, I just think about them and it puts me in a good mood.
- I have no tattoos.
- I am intrigued by Equine Assisted Psychotherapy (youtube it; it's amazing stuff).
- I'm a fan of inappropriate jokes (think Louis CK).
- I've been known to salsa dance -- sometimes without stepping on my partners' feet.
- I'm a huge soccer fan, so I was in heaven during the World Cup.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Enjoying it while collecting hours for my LCSW.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Chasing my niece and nephew around the yard and making them laugh; various outrageous accents; kenken and kakuro; bad puns; the occasional improv game; cards against humanity; biopsychosocial assessments...
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My Hello Kitty fanny pack.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
On my bookshelf, you will find books by David Sedaris, Isabel Allende, Richard Feynman, Chuck Palahniuk, Salman Rushdie, Edward Gorey, Billy Collins, Charles Addams, David Macaulay...

My musical tastes are all over the place: Jazz, old school hip hop, bossa nova, rock, metal, classical, ambient kazoo music. Favorite artists include: Tomatito, Talking Heads, Miles Davis, Django Rhinehart, Luscious Jackson, Kostars, Dusty Trails, Iam, MC Solaar, Ali Farka Toure, Manu Chao, Headhunters, DJ Krush, Amon Tobin, Zeppelin, Supertramp, Prokofiev, Bach, Beethoven, Dave Brubeck, Serge Gainsbourg, Grant Green, Flying Lotus, Andres Segovia, Massive Attack.

I love comedy: Louis CK, Archer, Eddie Izzard, Reggie Watts, David Cross, Craig Ferguson, Daily Show, Colbert Report, Burning Love.

Movies: I love Almodovar and Hitchcock; I'm very fond of a bunch of weird French movies from my childhood (Le pere noel est une ordure, la grande vadrouille...), To Live, Lawrence of Arabia, North by Northwest, Amadeus, the Shawshank Redemption, Being John Malkovich, The Big Lebowski, Brazil... Too many to list!

Food: Most anything, except perhaps oysters. I'm learning to cook (hey, don't judge: Julia Child started cooking at 37).
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Dr Pepper (which I rarely drink nowadays, but a world without it would make me very sad), friends, humor, music, sunny days, books (the paper kind, although I'm slowly getting used to reading off of a kindle screen).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The issues my clients face.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
out with friends for dinner/drinks, at a movie, or passed out on my bed after an exhausting work week.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I XXXXXX with XXXXXX using only my XXXXXX and my XXXXXX.
You'll need a decoder ring.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You're down-to-earth, open-minded, considerate of others, and sometimes sassy. You're happy with who you are. You can laugh at yourself and can poke fun at me. You feel strongly about issues and have opinions about the state of the world. You're compassionate and are looking for a gentleman.

I don't smoke, I don't do drugs, and I only drink occasionally. I'd prefer it if you didn't smoke (sorry, just not a fan of smelling like an ashtray, nor of kissing one).

A drink or two now and then is great, but if you find yourself needing to get inebriated in order to have a good time, we probably won't be a good match.