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37 / M / Straight / Single

San Francisco, California

His Details

Last Online
Online now!
Ethnicity
Black, White
Height
6′ 1″ (1.85m).
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
Drinks
Often
Drugs
Religion
Atheism but not too serious about it
Sign
Cancer but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from Ph.D program
Job
Science / Tech / Engineering
Income
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
Here's a good song you can listen to while you're reading this drivel. No, there's no symbolism or deeper meaning, it's just a good song that I'm liking at the moment.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sfOeinZHXZ4

Now, it seems to me that so many of these profiles are written by a marketing agency, but then again, how could I possibly answer this without being completely self-serving? I thought it would be interesting to ask a couple of friends and ex-girlfriends to collaborate on this section, but then thought better of it. Mostly because of my friends. So, expounding upon the "My Details" section at the right...

Half Somali, half English/Welsh/Dutch/Isrealite. Father was Muslim, mother was Jewish, so I grew up a bit confused. They were both 5'7" but somehow I ended up 6'1" and still measure myself weekly against the door frame in hopes that it'll show 6'4". Soccer keeps me relatively fit and the pounds from piling up.

I love to eat. If you don't like pork products it's not exactly a deal breaker, but you have a big hole to climb out from. I'd describe myself as a non-smoker, but there are rare situations that just call for a cigarette. If that makes no sense to you, count yourself lucky. Drinks, on the other hand... I think Madame Bollinger put it best. Drugs would be the rare occasions where it looks like a cigarette, but isn't.

I have an open mind, but I can only open it so far before it feels like my brain is falling out. I was born in mid-July, and apparently that makes me a Cancer which means all kinds of things about my personality that are no more accurate than of any other sign.

I was good at math and science in high school, and boy were my parents proud. So, I slogged (it's the only term that fits) through an engineering PhD program, and managed to come out the other side just a bit nerdy, but in all the good ways. Well, I dig Star Trek, but that was established much earlier.

I'm a disposable lighter repairman. Don't laugh, it's a growth industry. Co-founding a tech start-up with good friends has spoiled me, but we got acquired, and now it's less than amazing. Sometime soon, I'll leave my current position and will likely be without income for a time while I start something new.

I like kids, and they seem to like me. Animals like me too. I'm very gentle and affectionate. I love cats, and tolerate dogs.

I'd like to believe that I speak the Queen's own English, as my father was an English literature professor, but it's best described as broken.

I travel as much as is possible, without burning myself out. Day trips to eat oysters in Tomales Bay, weekend trips in the tri-state area, weeks in places that sound amazing.
What I’m doing with my life
Honestly, just trying to enjoy every minute and leave where I go better than how I found it.
I’m really good at
Wait, how many words are allotted to this section? Would it be immodest of me to answer fully? Cooking project meals, playing with hair, lightening the mood, mixing cocktails, making friends happy, making the best of a situation, road trips, non-verbal communication (the very different looks that say let's get the fuck out of here because you look amazing, I just spilled a drink on this guy's couch, or my ears are bleeding from this conversation), trivia, directions, fixing things. Seriously though, I can't recall ever being the best at anything in my life, but I'm pretty damn good at most things I put effort towards. I also enjoy being willfully terrible at various things. It allows me to laugh at myself, and that is one of my favorite pastimes. Frustration and ineptitude is, at times, hilarious.
The first things people usually notice about me
is that I'm bald? Perhaps the kick-ass mullet I used to rock prematurely pulled my hairline back and made me have to start shaving at 19. I don't care. That do did wonders for me in high school, and I love being bald now.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
How can something so interesting to talk about be so boring to read? I almost never read this section anymore. In summary: I wish I had more time to read the books I carry around, I still manage to watch a movie here and there, I don't watch much TV, I've been to ACL/Coachella/Outside Lands for the past three years, and I have eaten out three meals a day for 330 out of the last 365 days.

But, if you think differently than I do, here's a list:
Les Miserables, The Good the Bad and the Ugly, NPR Morning Edition, Miles Davis, Miso-glazed Black Cod, The Autobiography of Malcolm X, The Wrath of Kahn, The Daily Show, The Cure Disintegration, Achari Chicken, The Lord of The Rings, Shawshank Redemption, EPL Weekly Roundup, Tom Waits Closing Time, Thai Basil Chicken Fried Rice, I Claudius, Cidade de Deus, Gossip Girl (see below), Cesaria Evora, Crispy pork belly, The Making of the Atomic Bomb, Godfather II, Californication, The Black Keys, Oysters and Champagne, To Kill a Mockingbird, Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid, Real Time with Bill Maher, Muddy Waters, Mac 'n Cheese with ham and broccoli.
The six things I could never do without
Good friends, good food, good wine, good music, good books, and a passport.

The overriding theme: simple pleasures, to me, are best. I want all of them in as many different places as possible.
On a typical Friday night I am
Buying a cocktail for a friend.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have watched an entire season of Gossip Girl. There is really nothing else that can be said. I'm drowning in the shame that is washing over me.

Several of my friends are lawyers, and they are less than forgiving.
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I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 24–34
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, activity partners, casual sex
You should message me if
You can teach/show me anything at all. Generally I'm drawn to people who are nice (above all else), engaged, intelligent, unassuming, interested in seeing new places, secure, likely to say "yes" and "now," able to be lost in our own world, able to offer a unique viewpoint, sexually liberated, appreciative of art and art history, desirous of a cocktail or glass of wine on the veranda.