Like many, I am looking for that special someone. It feels like something that I can define and is elusive all at the same time. I know what it feels like when someone is a "fit", but the particulars are often impossible to define in advance. Or at least that's what I think now that I have more experience. But my very fond hope is that the right person will eventually read this and recognize the potential between us.
I tend to gravitate towards people who have a passion for what they are doing in life. Intelligence, sensitivity, great humor are the baseline, although the particulars will make or break. Generally speaking, I probably do best with the kind of guy who thinks outside the box, as I tend to do. Especially when said box becomes claustrophobic.
My great passion in life is art: designing and fabricating metal jewelry. I did go to law school but in trying to practice found it to be a bad fit for a visual, creative (and female?) personality. So I transitioned into something artistic, but am happy for the training I got in law school -- even though I also think I should have run the other way before the end of my first year. Anyone who knew me there and at that time would agree. But anyway, here I am. I'd say "all's well that ends well" but it hasn't ended yet. All I can say is that I am much happier. And the process continues ....
Disclosure: I live in northern NJ but my heart resides in NYC. It is easy for me to drive in and I often do.