I'm a bi man looking for local friends, with or without benefits. I'm in an open LTR of eleven years.

I'm going to school to advance my career in health information technology.

I'm also working to get fitter. I have dieted down to 225 from a peak weight somewhere north of 350. I don't have a perfect body and I don't care if you do either.

In my free time I like collecting and listening to music, karaoke, reading, movies, thrift stores, bicycling, cooking, camping, spoiling my pets and quality time with my tivo and vaporizer. Other stuff I collect: tiki memorabilia, vintage advertising, PEZ, Day of the Dead folk art & Halloween decorations.

Sex, kissing, massage, listening, making lemon pound cake & cherry clafouti, finding media online, collecting & organizing, mixing tropical cocktails from scratch, singing to my dog and acting a fool.

My southern accent.

books - Eclectic taste. Cut my teeth on Stephen King & Clive Barker. Margaret Atwood, Joan Didion, Kelly Link, David Sedaris, "J.T. Leroy", Fannie Flagg. Working my way through the Sookie Stackhouse novels by Charlaine Harris. Southern humor, horror, scifi, slipstream, sociological history, etc.

movies - David Lynch, David Cronenberg, Todd Solondz, Todd Haynes, Robert Altman, John Waters, Gregg Araki, Lars Von Trier, Miranda July. Foreign films, indie, comedies, cult & oddball, B movies, horror, suspense, sci-fi and documentaries, especially anything about the arts.

shows - Mad Men. True Blood. Hung. Portlandia. American Horror Story. Weeds. Dexter. RuPaul's Drag Race. Baron Ambrosia & other food shows. Oddities. Work Of Art. Louie. Happy Endings. Ugly Americans. Futurama. Workaholics. Tim & Eric.

music - My largest collections:
- 60's-70's psychedelic & folk rock, sunshine pop & bubblegum
- early funk, R&B and psychedelic soul
- Prince & associated artists
- electronic music, vintage (Haack, Perrey, Kingsley, Garson, Scott) to current (drum & bass, dubstep, chillwave, witch house)
- soundtracks (especially blax/sexploitation, horror & porn)
- female blues & jazz singers
- exotica & lounge
- "dirty" blues
- outsider artists & assorted oddities
For even more detail, see last.fm/user/sgth0wie

food - Enjoy cooking, especially baking. I like steaks or burgers on the grill, southern cooking & soul food, Chinese, Thai, Vietnamese, Mexican, Italian, Polish, Middle Eastern, you name it. Adventurous palate & love ethnic grocery stores. The term "foodie" annoys me slightly, but I guess I'm one of those.

"Things" precludes people, so:
sex
food
water
shelter
clothing
internet access

sex.

Let's talk about sex, baby.
My partner and I play together sometimes but I'm mainly seeking friends to connect with on my own. I like women, men and couples, especially MF couples.

With women I enjoy just about anything sexually. I'm not the sub type though so a Dom is not really for me.

With guys I'm an aggressive top most of the time, but can bottom for the right man. I like submissive bottoms and versatile tops.

Entertaining friends at home or out with friends at karaoke.

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We have some things in common.
You are looking for a friend, with or without benefits.
You are 420 friendly.