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shangbaby

43 F Van Nuys, CA

My Details

Last Online
Feb 12
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Black, Native American
Height
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Curvy
Diet
Mostly other
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Catholicism, and laughing about it
Sign
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Technology
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
UPDATE: I guess you could say I am serious about finding a serious relationship. I am placing my blurb from Afroromance to see if my luck will be different here. Thus, my previous "self-summary" still stands when it comes to future pets and how my mind works. But, I thought it best to really state what I am looking for in hopes that I actually get it. Here it goes:
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" Redheaded men are gorgeous. Tech knowledge is relaxing. I like french bulldogs. I prefer sunshine. Horses rock! Belly buttons and manly shoulders are attractive.

WHAT A MAN DOES NOT HAVE TO BE FOR ME TO BE INTO HIM

Someone with swagger!
Believe it or not... Not every black chick digs a smooth operator. I prefer you be genuine, honest and sincere and most of all a sweetie!

A pretty boy!
I like rugged good looks... Manly good looks! So if you think Rob Lowe impresses me, think and try again. I think Kevin Mckidd is the maniliest morsel that ever graced red hair:-)

A sugar-daddy
I am far from a sugar baby. Although I would find it less worrisome to be financially set for life, I gain a great sense of self providing for me. I enjoy being self-reliant and not having to wait until someone else gets around to getting what I want.

A great dancer
I think the chicken dance is funny. Making me laugh and being the king of keeping a smile on my face is a continent-sized plus.

A Brut or an asshole!
I actually like nice guys! I am not one of those chicks who digs a mean man! Truth-tellers are welcomed and much appreciated, but kind delivery and tact gets you far with me. If you are a natural, kind-hearted teacher, consider me your willing student. If you are an empathetic coach with constructive, helpful criticism, my ears are open. Most of all if you can bring your positive change with an observant charm, patient style, and calm demeanor, I will bring my Josephine-Baker-A game and bleed in my ballet shoes for you.

The Perfect Man
You just have to be my perfect man :-) Kind, observant, calm, smart, open and ready for me.

NEW SECTION
MY UNDERSTANDING OF WHAT A MAN IS

A man to me is someone who meets life's challenges with a dogged, realistic positivity and confidence (please don't confuse with swagger). In other words, he has been there and done that and got the T-shirt. He isn't chick-bitchy. He knows himself well because he put himself out there to find out. He definitely has some wisdom to distribute. Yes, he is handy around the house and car, okay... Jeez! I apologize for not being able to get over that stereotype... I'm in love with it(not a deal breaker, though if you throw money at those types of problems). A man is genuine and sincere in action. I like romantic gestures if they are not empty gestures and easy go-tos to obscure a serious problem. No king-of-denials please! A man is self-reliant, independent and well-adjusted in life. A man has room in his heart and life for love and knows what he wants and can communicate that.

WHAT I THINK A WOMAN IS
A woman is someone who understands that vulnerability is a strength as well. She enjoys a man being the man, but knows how to inspire the feminine side to blossom without diminishing his masculinity. He feels even more of a man by being the best sweetie she could experience. A woman is self-reliant and independent, but understands that partnership allows for support to be given and received with grace. A woman knows when to let the girl out and when to grow up about it! A woman knows when to let the man do it and when she truly needs to intervene (can be hard for me to discern sometimes, because I am a fixer by nature). A woman is self aware and can communicate clearly what she wants from herself and others. A woman is a grown up with a penchant for some innocent, harmless mischief. I did say I was wicked ;~}

DEAL BREAKERS
NO SMOKERS (unless you're willing to quit)
NO HARM TO CHILDREN OR ANIMALS
NO ACTIVE CRIMINALS - NO RIDING OR DYING HERE! I WILL RAT YOUR BUTT OUT WITHOUT SHAME! LEGAL LINE CROSSERS KEEP IT MOVING!!
DON'T BE MEAN TO ME AND DON'T BULLY ME.
NOT INTO SHARING MY MAN WITH OTHER WOMEN.

OPEN MINDED TOWARDS
Certain aspects of S&M (I'll explain later)

Physical activities involving mud. (nothing to do with the previous item listed. And, no I have not been involved in a mudder run)

Kids. Really depends upon the man I end up with.

Animals. I do have allergies, but that will not stop me from owning a French bulldog one day.

Planned travel.

We will talk later about it all later.
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So there it is. My Afroromance profile summary. So one of two things will happen. Either you'll want to genuinely get to know me better or I have scared you far away. Either way is find with me. I'm not offended and my intention is not to offend. Closed mouths don't get fed and you can't get what you want if you don't ask for it.

Hmmmm. So, I figured out what to say!

I like laughing so hard that I feel I'm going to laugh myself to death. I like horses, and would like to tender a horse one day (I don't like the word breaking...too violent). At first I was a cat person. I plagued my mother for several years about cat ownership. So, finally she relented and got me Sasha & Boom-boom ( I named them ). Life happened..yada yada yada...I lost Sasha, and Boom-Boom adopted another owner (ouch!). After that it was just attempts here and there that didn't turn out so good. I still love cats, but I am ready for a cute, chunky, cuddly French bulldog with a face like a boss. They are so cute. I confess I watch French bull dog videos on YouTube (head bowed down in shame). My favorite type of horse is a Clydesdale. I do love stocky, strong builds. And that horse is magnificent.

So that is my animal love space. Hmmmm. What else to say!....
I am a business analyst. That sounds like it is as boring as hell, but you underestimate the joy solving problems can bring. Now I know the majority of business analyst work in the technical realm, but I see so many opportunities for the business analysis skill set to be applied. The main thing I do is find gaps in process, keep stakeholders on the same page and manage expectations and clarify spoken language (yes even when everyone speaks the same language there can be a misunderstanding in language). That is just my two cents!

Ahh..How my mind works. Yes I am a chick, but I would like to think I am logical for the most part, which may not be everyone's cup of tea. I realize that. I'm human, but dysfunction is hard for me to live in. I do prefer a logical approach to life..so if it doesn't make sense to me, you may have to explain your perspective. I am totally open to being wrong. I take most things told to me with a grain of salt, though, so don't be offended, it is just me being the analyst. My social worker friend informed me about incorrect affectation. It's when your facial expression is inconsistent with what you say. This just means I may do the german shepard head tilt...you know the one I'm talking about.

That is all I could get off the top of my head today. Umm..if I have more then I will expand. But, secretly I think everyone will be fine if I stopped here. :)
I’m looking for
  • Straight guys only
  • Ages 35–50
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating