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31 F Berlin, Germany

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Last Online
Yesterday – 11:32am
5′ 6″ (1.67m)
Body Type
Mostly vegan
When drinking
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Dropped out of masters program
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
English (Fluently), German (Okay), Dutch (Poorly), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I was made in Canada, live in Berlin, but mainly think of Edinburgh as home. I've also lived in the Netherlands and visited many places in between, some of which I can remember.

What's with all the gender binary stuff on this thing? I am queer and see myself as a woman only insofar as that is how the outside world tends to socially construct me. Genderqueer fits well and I like gender-neutral pronouns, please (they/them/their).

Until last year I battled bureaucracy, supposedly in the name of grassroots, social justice projects, especially in eastern Europe. Amongst other things, I was sometimes rewarded with enough money to pay for life's necessities and a few of its surpluses. Now I'm kind of carrying on the same, with a significant decrease in bureaucracy but a lot more wrangling with the Arbeitsamt.

What comes next is a big question mark. I am fighting the urge to dive into the first thing that comes along. And trying to keep this in mind:

I like paisley, sushi, tickle fights, open source, wandering around free museums, zines, ears, booksbooksbooks, freak outs, letters in the mail, roller derby, diy, fake moustaches, cycling, anarchism, subversive cross-stitching, polyamory, earthships, underground everything, weight lifting, gin, finding treasures in charity shops/junk stalls, seaweed (but not between my toes), ellipses, mashed potatoes, independent art, asparagus, saunas, infrequent writing spurts, real ale, scalp massages, lists, train travel, androgyny, autonomy, cloudy cider, geeky games, gardens full of food, musical things, ice skating, pacman, et cetera.

If you are racist, sexist, classist, ableist, ageist, heterosexist, transphobic, fascist... I will probably tell you to suck an egg and maybe make you cry.
What I’m doing with my life
Currently in negotiation.
I’m really good at
Mass catering and food making. Ice skating. Organising and facilitating stuff. Complicated train connections. Muscle building. Juggling numbers. Fun.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
David Forster Wallace's 'Infinite Jest' has been sitting on my night table for quite an embarassingly long time now. I still pretend I'm reading it, though I'm barely more than a hundred pages in and haven't picked it up in nearly a year. Maybe I should just admit I really like linear plot structure?

Barbara Kingsolver, Margaret Atwood, Zadie Smith and Tom Robbins are a few of my favourite fiction writers. Zora Neale Hurston's 'Their Eyes Were Watching God' is the best thing I've read in years. Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie's 'Americanah' is a close second.

Non-fiction pursuits are not as frequent as they once were. When I do dip in, it's bound to be something political. Gustav Landauer's 'On Revolution,' Valeriu Nicolae's 'We Are the Roma!' and Shula Firestone's 'The Dialectic of Sex' are recent selections.

I heart cookbooks.

Diane Cluck, Architecture in Helsinki, New Model Army, The Boredoms, Jeffrey Lewis, Austra, The Magnetic Fields, Public Enemy, The Pixies, PJ Harvey, Ladytron, Blackbird Raum, Defiance Ohio, The Roots, I Am Oak, and Neutral Milk Hotel are some of the things spicing up my stereo. is tasty online radio.

I have a soft spot for the films 'Shortbus' and 'But I'm a Cheerleader.' I have a hard time committing to staring passively at a screen for 2+ hours at a time (but often enjoy it when I do).

'The Wire' is probably the best thing to ever happen to television. 'Bored to Death' is pretty darn great as well. Do good German television shows exist? I would be happy to learn of them (Tatort doesn't count).

Food = vegan deliciousness. Japanese, Sudanese, and Vietnamese. Soul Food. I like finding ways to make wholefoods taste sinful.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What comes next. Horizontal organising structures and direct democracy. Efficiency and effectiveness. Love, in all its many varieties. The tangled webs of gender and identity. Ideology. Checking my privilege. Pretty things, pretty people. Freedom and equality. Food.
On a typical Friday night I am
Recovering from Thursday night. Roller derby and Späti beers. Dancing.
I’m looking for
  • Everybody
  • Ages 21–41
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if're patient enough to speak in German with me (and won't cringe too much as I butcher your native tongue). are an oddball, creative or outside-the-box thinker.

That goes double for the passionate, compassionate, the outrageous and kind, smart cookies and ponderers.

Political animals are very welcome here.

Feministas, gender queers and gender-deviant folks of all types.

I have a long-term partner, whom I live with. If that's not alright with you, don't bother messaging.