I graduated from law school last May and then immersed myself in studying for the PA bar exam. I am now working as an attorney for the U.S. Department of Labor, where I do civil enforcement of federal mine safety laws. I am very lucky and grateful to have gotten this position, especially right out of law school. As for my personal interests in the field, I am drawn to - and committed to - animal law, public interest environmental law, wildlife law, and government accountability. I am sitting for the California bar exam at the end of July, so life continues to be quite busy for the next few months.
I have been vegetarian for many years and am now mostly vegan. I am looking for someone who shares similar environmental and food values as me. If these lifestyle choices don't match with yours, no worries and be well, but were not gonna work out!
I guess I should also add in that I have been an on-again-off-again smoker of American Spirits cigarettes for too many years. I'd like to quit for good, but am having patience with myself as it's a hard habit (personally and socially) to break.
More about me...
I lived in Northern California for 15 years before moving back to the East Coast for school. I thought it was time to give this coast another try since my family is on the eastern seaboard. Not sure where I'll end up. I grew up in Florida, and the West Coast still beckons.
Prior to being in law school, I was a rhythm and hand-drumming teacher for elementary school students, and performed quite a bit as a singer-songwriter/multi-instrumentalist. I am a self-taught musician (with a little help from my friends), and I suppose I'm most "accomplished" on guitar, mandolin, and percussion - but have been known to dabble on almost anything that can produce sound. Basically. I like to improvise... in life and on instruments.
I also have a MBA in Sustainable Business from a cutting edge program in Northern California, and worked for awhile as the program producer for a progressive talk radio show. I guess in some ways I'm a "jill-of-all-trades," though right now I feel like I am on a much deeper life path with this commitment to using the law as a tool to fight injustice.
For most of the past 15 years I have been in serial monogamous relationships with women. I've always avoided labels, but I definitely identify as queer. In other words, if you're homophobic or completely clueless and think two women need a man to be sexually satisfied, feel free to move on to someone else.
For me, sexuality is a continuum and I believe, for most expressive people, attraction is not limited by gender, nor does it stay static as we go through life. That said, I haven't been in a sexual relationship with a man in a long time. I've never ruled out being with men, I just haven't met a guy (at the same time I was single) who seemed like it would be the right fit. I am definitely more drawn to women, but I will not rule out 50% of the population based on labels and fear.
As for kids - I do not have any of my own. My dog Cosmo was my 21st birthday present to myself and he died 16 years later. He taught me a lot about being responsible for another life. He was my child, friend, jogging buddy, grandparent. Caring for someone from infancy through old age and death was transformative for me.
I am also very blessed to have nieces and nephews with whom I am very close - some are biological and some are children of my close, long-term friends (i.e. "family by choice"). I am a pretty cool aunt, I have to say, and my kids know that.
I still think about being a parent (either biologically or adopting), but I would rather not be a single parent. That just seems incredibly hard. I also growing more open now to not having children. I would love to travel the world extensively, and that is a lot harder when children are involved. I get what a huge responsibility kids are, and I recognize the freedom it affords to not have the financial and life commitment to another person at that level. All of that said, I also think being a parent is like nothing else... and sometimes I really want to experience that and to have a family of my own.
So, I am looking at all sides, trying to be honest with myself and others, and trusting the universe that it will work out exactly as it is supposed to.