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50 F Durham, NC

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Middle Eastern
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Libra, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Hebrew (Fluently)

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My self-summary
OKC taught me that I am somewhat obsessive. I keep on getting on to work on the endless list of questions even though I am underwhelmed by what they can actually tell us about ourselves or others. Oh well, I guess that too says something.
I am putting down some of the pieces to the puzzle that is me. If after looking at a sample of the pieces you think you might be interested in a peek at the whole picture – shoot me an email (but PLEASE no “winks”…) I respond to all emails that have content (‘hi – how are you’ does not qualify) but I do not respond to “winks”.
Also, If you are not local I will not be writing back no matter how well matched we are. Sorry but I do not have time for virtual relationship; barely keep up with my real life ones...


My IQ is above average, my heart rate and blood pressure are below average and I work to keep the relative place of these important numbers constant as I grow older… Other important numbers in my life? 91.5, 1360, 87.9, 100.7, 106, 24…

I keep my hands and feet where I can see them!

I would die for my children but I do not live for them.

Exercise boars me to tears. I hate the gym but I love how I feel when I go so I do...

I never read only one book at a time.

I need personal time and space – if you don’t we cannot connect. Since my work schedule is flexible it is easy for me to find my “me time” while being available to a partner. If you feel insecure merely because I need “me time”, we will have a problem. Needless to say that I understand your need for your own “me time”.

I can be clueless at times. Can be charming and endearing – REALLY!

When my hemoglobin level cooperates, I give platelets. How about a first date at the Red Cross?

I have more laugh lines than frown lines. They are all proof of a life well lived!

Music? I love Gregorian chants, Joan Armatrading (bonus points if you know her and kudos if you youtubed her because you didn’t know her), Symphonic or Chamber music, not so much Opera, love Jazz, classic Rock, Brazilian music (ADORE Bosanovas) and the list goes on. Did I mention my tastes are eclectic?

I used to breed show Chinchillas (yes, there are live Chin shows) and even won some national ribbons!

I read cookbooks for fun but I seldom follow a recipe when I cook. Haven’t poisoned anyone yet to the best of my knowledge…


Good judgement comes from experience. Experience comes from bad judgement!

I live life like my brightest day is yet to come (though “today” feels like it may be “it” on occasion).

I am a very fortunate woman: I have everything I need and most of what I want!

Wag more – bark less!

I am an atheist but I firmly believe that “but for the grace…” and I try never to forget that. This belief leads me to live generously.

My past teaches me that I am capable of creating a full and rich life for myself and for those I love. That knowledge lets me enjoy the present and not worry about the future which I have every reason to believe will be every bit as good as my past.

I admire helpful, kind, or compassionate people; Kindness is far more attractive than intelligence in my book – having both is extremely sexy!

I refuse to live “defensively”. I believe that a life worth living results in getting dinged and scuffed along the way. My goal is not to avoid pain but to have joy in my life.


I will stop and pull weeds in my front yard even though my nails are manicured.

I am exceedingly open and honest.

I am kind and extremely loving.

My curly hair. I just recently learned that my hair is actually “curly” and not “wavy and unmanageable” as I had always thought. Learn something new every day – even about something I have known my entire life (such as my own hair!)

I remember to put out water not just feed for the birds and the squirrels.

I am spontaneous.

My sense of humor.

My eyes.

I am a good friend and I am fiercely loyal.


I am impatient but I am working on it.

I am (at times) brutally open and honest (The “open” and “honest” I want to keep but I am trying to get rid of the “brutally”)
*** I got a whole lot of grief about this one recently from some friends. The contested my choice of words and argued that I am not "brutally" anything but rather very honest, forward, perceptive, and verbal about what I think and see but that there is no brutality nor judgement about it. So scratch the brutally honest but I still find that some people have a hard time with my outspokenness (cultural?) and since I do not wish to make people uncomfortable, I am working to damp it down.

I am not very good at setting boundaries but I am much better than I used to be and improving all the time

My attention span is short (self diagnosed touch of ADHD)

I finish other people’s sentences. Working on it.

Need to learn to be more concise...
What I’m doing with my life
Learning to enjoy rather than carve out a path and trying to leave people and places I touch better, or at least no worse, for having been in contact with me.
I’m really good at
Not being narrow and focused. Being eclectic. Being me (no one better!)
The first things people usually notice about me
My smile.
My legs but I am in pants more often than not so...
The six things I could never do without
"could never"? How about would not want to...
My kids.
Intimacy (not just sex).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What I am doing and the people I am with.
On a typical Friday night I am
Hmm, depends. Either at the Straw Valley Cafe, home, or on a road trip (LOVE road trips!!!)
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 45–55
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
if something resonates. if you think we would enjoy connecting. if you are looking for a friend and are a good friend yourself.
if your name is ...................................