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shatteringlili

24 / F / bisexual / Single

Shelton, Washington

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Ethnicity
Hispanic / Latin, White, Other
Height
5' 9" (1.75m).
Body Type
Overweight
Looking For
New friends, Long-term dating
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other but not too serious about it
Sign
Virgo and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from high school
Job
Clerical / Administrative
Income
Rather not say
Kids
Pets
Likes dogs and Owns cats
Languages
English (Fluently), Sign_Language (Poorly), Japanese (Poorly)

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I am compassionate (soft), intelligent (nerdy), and a curmudgeon (yep).

My Self-Summary

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On a note: I apparently enjoy randomly finding users who interest me and sending them messages hours after I should be asleep, thereby resulting in really bizarre messages from me.

No wonder I'm still single. :(
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Here goes! I'm very wordy, so feel free to skim and then ask me anything you want at a later time.

My hobbies include making jewlery from beads, drawing, writing fanfiction, and producing/mixing/performing in amateur radio plays. I really enjoy voice acting and singing, though I'm my worst critic. The same goes for my artwork. It's rare for me to produce something I'm really proud of.

My personality is hard to describe. I'm the kind of person who will tell you flat out when I think you're doing something stupid and are going to fall on your backside, but will also be the first one holding out my hand and helping you back up when you do. I take the "help those who help themselves" approach. I can seem a little eratic in this sense, and a lot of it is just a maladjusted response to being taken advantage of a lot when I was younger.

My parents are extremely important to me, and it's always "family first, friends second, rest of the world last" with me. I have a lot of trouble listening to people rip on their mothers, unless they're able to verify that there's a valid reason for that hate. It just hurts me inside, knowing that anyone can be that bad of a mother.

I have passionate opinions... which I think I may be displaying in this profile.

I'm touch-and-go when it comes to children. I'm willing to learn what it takes to raise kids and get along with them. I have said for a long time that I "hate kids", but in honestly, what I dislike are parents who don't put the time and effort in to teach them well. Kids who behave badly are sometimes a sign of parents who parent badly.. though I myself am an example of how that isn't true (I was a horrible child).

I get really upset when I see someone neglecting or mistreating their children in public. I have to stop myself from saying something rash to them.

I love animals - especially dogs and cats. I dearly miss my cat Bagheera and dog Chunka. I want some chickens, or a goat, or some rabbits..! Someday. I would also like a pet rat. What? They're supercute, cleaner than you'd think, and very social.

I recently procured two kittens that were abandoned at my workplace... Sekhmet and Bastet. They seem to be in good health and I will be paying for them to be vaccinated and spayed. So... if you have a cat allergy, sorry!! I'm a no-go for you.

Oh! Also.. my account may be wrong, I'm somewhere between 5-8 and 5-10 in height. I'm not sure the exact though.

In addition... as they say in Avenue Q, everyone's a little bit racist. But serious bigots, GTFO. All you get is my wrath. I want nothing to do with you.

My personality awards say I'm less desiring of sex, but that actually depends on a lot of things. Don't choose not to IM me based on that. ^^;

What I’m doing with my life

Thanks to buying a home, I am not able to relocate.. though I wasn't ever planning on it. I've spent the last years of my life giving up things for my partners... I feel it's about due time I stopped sacrificing the things that are important to me for the sake of a relationship. That's not healthy for me. There's a difference between compromise and sacrifice.

Also... and reading some people's profiles I think it may be best to say it here. I am a spiritualist, though my "religion" thing says so already, I want to make sure than whomever contacts me is aware that I am *not* convertible. I will not go into personal reasons for this, but I'm saying it now. If I marry someone with a different religious background, I would expect them to fully understand that I would want to raise my children with an understanding of both sides and allow them to make their own choices when they grow up.

I normally don't really like talking about my religion up front - I think it's tacky. But I think it's better to have it here so that we don't run into unpleasant surprises later. Like, I would rather know now if you think reading Tarot is the devil. Because I do read Tarot and I'm quite good at it. And I'm not the devil. Or of the devil or whathaveyou.

I’m really good at

I guess I'm good at singing and drawing, and can be good at writing when I put my mind to it. And over-analysis. :D

I'm told I'm eerily good at reading tarot, though I second-guess myself a lot. I really enjoy giving readings though, and wish I had more people to read for. I would never charge someone to do a tarot reading... that's silly. I think if you're motivated by money, you're more motivated to tell them what they want to hear so they keep coming back.

I'm also good at listening and offering advice, though my advice can sometimes seem kind of harsh (as I said, I'm blunt). I'm learning to be less so, though. Lately my listening skills are getting weaker as I'm trying to sort out things in my own life and have less time for everyone else (isn't that the case with all of us right now?). If I am needed though, I will focus on someone else to help them through a tough situation.

I'm also very good at being maternal and mothering my friends, though it drives them crazy. The only person who really puts up with it because she's come to understand the way I function is my closest friend of around a decade.

The first things people usually notice about me

It depends on the day. Sometimes it's how quiet I am, or how outgoing, or loud, or shy.

Some people notice my art first off if I'm drawing. I used to always have a sketchbook with me, but it seems like there's not enough hours in the day for it anymore.

My friend tells me that I have a cute face :)

The fact that I'm reading a comic or playing on my DS.

My favorite books, movies, music, and food

Movies? Labyrinth, V for Vendetta, Ghost Rider, Rigoletto, Ever After, the Devil's Advocate, Hannibal, Silence of the Lambs, Red Dragon, Silent Hill, Secret Window, Sweeny Todd, Edward Scissorhands, Interview with the Vampire, Memoirs of a Geisha, Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon, In The Company of Wolves, and more... much more.

TV Shows? Firefly, Dark Angel , Farscape, Witchblade, Star Trek: TNG, Heroes, Forensic Files, Psychic Kids: Children of the Paranormal, Psychic Detectives, Dr. G: Medical Examiner, Snapped, Glee, So You Think You Can Dance

Music? My taste in music is highly ecclectic, ranging from video game soundtracks to Globus to Savatage. I also like Tonedeff, believe it or not.

Books? Too many to list. Recently I've come to adore the Mortan Instruments series and Rats and Gargoyles.

Food? My single most favorite food is strawberries. Overall I'm a foodie, and learning how to cook for myself. I ... also eat too much xD

The six things I could never do without

1 - My family
2 - My friends
3 - My eyesight (I'm an artist)
4 - My cell phone (to my deep shame)
5 - The reason why
6 - Coherent thought

I spend a lot of time thinking about

I'm constantly trying to improve things about myself, including my temper and self-esteem.

I think about worldly things until I get bored and start daydreaming. I daydream a lot.

On a typical Friday night I am

Relaxing at home after work and staying up way too late. Sometimes I'll go out with my close friends. Usually I'm playing video games, or watching Asian horror films from my Netflix account.

I'm not a barfly - I don't like the atmosphere in bars or casinos, but would love to go to a classy lounge or to a high-end club if I had the money and time. I don't mind a bar if it's karaoke night.

I don't usually drink, but it's not like I'm anti-alcohol; I like wine and sake and really like mixed drinks if they are sweet, but I actually *can't* drink a lot. Or at all really, but I still do sometimes. I'm diabetic and on medication that may cause negative side-effects if I drink.

The most private thing I’m willing to admit here

I'm fat. Wait, that's kind of public...

You should message me if

Message me if you're looking for someone who can hold an intelligent conversation AND be silly, sometimes both at the same time.

Contact me if you're looking for something from friendship to the long term.

DON'T message me if you're looking for a one night stand or for friends with benefits or the like. I'm not interested.