FOR REFERENCE :)
I am in an open/poly-amorous, sex positive marriage, looking for a possible long or short term female companion and friends of both sexes.

soooo anyway...
Hey! I'm Shelby. I really love wine. I'm fairly decent at cooking food, as well as eating it. If you like sushi & pho, we're probably meant to be. I love going to see just about any live music, dancing my ass off & spilling my beer IN your shoes. If you can't let me have this simple pleasure, we probably shouldn't hang out. I'm a creature that dislikes sports [rather, yelling at the TV about your favorite sports team], so if sports/being a sports fan is something that you're really into, I probably won't like you... sorry, not sorry. Gardening is my favorite passtime, and if it involves growing food, even better. I'd rather take a bath than a shower. I love laughing so hard I cry. I have an adorable bike that I love riding around town, let's ride bikes! I can knit, but only hats. Sometimes instead of having a real conversation, I may just sing something to you. I hope that's alright. I've been in Santa Cruz since January, and it's rad as hell. We moved here from San Diego for the sweater weather. I also have an unhealthy relationship with garlic, so I guess it's a good thing that we moved wicked close to Gilroy... hehehe

-Looking for a job... moving is lame.
-Making my rooftop garden/patio a reality.
-Possibly going back to school in the fall.

Cooking awesome food, drinking tasty wine, dancing in living rooms, keeping my house clean, hitting my head on things, aggressively making out, partying a little too frequently, petting your dog, snapchating, laughing then snorting obnoxiously, being super awkward, excessive cuddling, penmanship, having an opinion about weird topics, eating bagels, and Angry Birds.

...is my face? Or probably my septum. I'd like to think it was my eyes, but when I look in the mirror, the first thing I notice is my septum [hur hur hurrrr].

Music: Fuck Buttons, Alt-J, Oneohtrix Point Never, Tangerine Dream, Vampire Weekend, Nick Drake, This Will Destroy You, Purity Ring, Bat For Lashes, The xx, Local Natives, Brand New, Broken Social Scene, The Temper Trap, Noah and the Whale, White Lies, Third Eye Blind, The Weeknd, The Paragraphs, Nico, Elliott Smith, Mason Jennings, Twin Shadow, Low, Conor Oberst [and all of his lovely projects], Radiohead, Death Cab for Cutie, She & Him, Grizzly Bear, Royksopp, Tanlines, The Naked and Famous, Gold Panda, Portishead, New Order, Dinosaur Jr., Queen, Japandroids, Belle & Sebastian, The Devil Makes Three, Ella Fitzgerald

Movies: The Little Mermaid, The Cabin in the Woods, The Royal Tenenbaums, The Men Who Stare at Goats, Clueless, The Kings Speech, Howl's Moving Castle, Star Trek, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Inception, Jurassic Park, Sleepy Hollow, The Nightmare Before Christmas, Being John Malkovich, Princess Mononoke, Star Wars 4, 5 & 6, The Artist, The Shawshank Redemption, Gosford Park, Pulp Fiction, Vanilla Sky, Cashback, Lars and the Real Girl, Human Traffic, Blue Valentine, Party Monster

Shows: Mad Men, Lost, Downton Abbey, Twin Peaks, The Walking Dead, Freaks & Geeks, Arrested Development, Firefly, Bob's Burgers, Scrubs, HIMYM

Books/Authors: any and all cookbooks, Chuck Palahniuk, Kurt Vonnegut, Michael Crichton, Harry Potter

Food: everything.

Hot tea
Cigarettes
Music
Sex
Wine
Family

-adopting a dog.
-the lack of dried goods available for sale at farmers markets.
-how awesome my husband, family & friends are.
-gender binaries & expression.
-starting a jug of wine of the month club.

Drink, drank, drunk. The location changes sometimes.

....sometimes I wear socks longer than I should.

-you love sushi
-you are also poly/open to poly
-you dig riding bikes
-you appreciate great films
-you enjoy drinking cocktails
-and engaging in copious amounts of snuggling

You should not message me if:
-you salt your food before tasting it
-you are a person who identifies as male looking for a hookup
-eat fast food more than once every 2 weeks [In-N-Out doesn't count haha]