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45 F Westfield, NJ

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5′ 6″ (1.68m)
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Cancer, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
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Likes dogs
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
I consider myself to be a thoughtful and compassionate person who chooses kindness over being right. I think it's important to be self aware so that life can have meaning and resist being critical.
I would describe myself as curious,determined, and fairly independent.. I value the expression of thoughts and opinions.
I enjoy exploring the city and checking out cultural spots and interesting restaurants. I also spend time at the shore. And also exercise.
I'm open to new experiences, going to new places and am more interested in the process rather then the outcome or product. I strive for goodness not perfection..try to be forgiving of myself and others. For me, its ok to make mistakes, it takes a lot of wrong answers to get to the right one.
I'm open to meeting different types of people. Someone who doesn't feel like they have to do what everyone else is doing to feel validataion. A person who appreciates the big ideas and the small moments that bring meaning to our everyday lives.
Basically, I'm looking for someone who is sincere and genuine. A person who is willing to let go of the myths, illusions and expectations, and explore the process of life as it really is. It wouldn't hurt to have some fun along the way! Does that sound like too much to ask? I don't know??
What I’m doing with my life
Being the best person I can be..
I'm an art therapist. Used to work in mental health.
Currently work at an elementary school assisting differently abled children in the classroom.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Favorite authors like: Joan Didion, Junot Diaz, Brett Easton Ellis..
Food: sushi!, I eat mostly veg, I'm at Trader Joes 2x a week.
Music:I am a long time lover of all kinds of alternative and indie pop and rock, like Sonic Youth, Dinasaur Jr, Liz Phair, Radiohead, Cat Power...can't even begin to name them all. Fan of 80's music The Smiths. Too many to include. Also try and follow current indie bands..
Some synthy electronic...
Please tell me you love films like Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Drugstore Cowboy, Virgin Suicides, My Own Private Idaho, Hedwig and the Angry Inch.
I enjoy Showtime series like Homeland, I'm a serious Dexter finatic (RIP).Rewatching the entire series. I love Seinfeld and a good Law and Order or House bingathon is a treat. I am an NPR junkie, listen daily.
The six things I could never do without
contact lenses
the important people
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I'm recognizing that life is lived in the moment, in the here and now, and not in the past or the future.
Don't try and change others! Focus on what I can control.
The importance of levity and is to serious to be taken seriously.Lighten up.
There is no such thing as normal.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Ask me in person. I probably wont tell you until I get to know you.
I’m looking for
  • Straight guys only
  • Ages 43–52
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
If you are interesting, smart, funny, kind, self aware, kinda cute, don't take yourself too seriously and
don't care about being "normal" or if you want to.