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27 Carmel Valley, CA Woman


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  • Ages 23–33
  • Near me
  • Who are single
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My details

Last online
Today – 4:55pm
Asian, White
5′ 0″ (1.52m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Atheism, and laughing about it
Pisces, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Doesn’t have kids
Has dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay), Sign Language (Poorly)
My self-summary
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I realize my profile is a lot to get through. Only the strong survive!

*Update- I just started back on this site recently. Some stuff is out of date. Ask me what!

Welcome! I'm a reformed emo kid who has learned to love life. I decided to stop taking myself so seriously, and search out and enjoy the good things in life.

I enjoy sitting in the forest communing with nature; I also very much love the city, so I feel very lucky that I live somewhere with easy access to both. There is frequently a battle in my head between environmentalism and commercialism - every day I tip a little more toward the former, but damn, it is tough sometimes! I try my best to be a vegetarian but sometimes I just can't resist delicious, meaty temptation. I mostly do it for sustainability reasons nowadays.

I drink beer and I like it. I also can't say no to a good pinot noir.

I am pretty nerdy: I took a class on the native flora and fauna of California for the fun of it, I watch Jeopardy (and am damn good at it), and I always have a book with me. I also like going to places that fall under the category of "good for elementary school field trips": Monterey Bay Aquarium, Tech Museum, Exploratorium (the zoo kinda makes me sad)...what's life without a childlike sense of wonder? Science is fucking cool!

My demeanor tends toward the quiet, laid-back side, but I am also very passionate when it comes to things like social justice and environmental ethics. My closest friends would describe me as initially stand-offish, but once I have accepted someone as a friend, very warm and accepting. I tend toward the realistic/cynical side but always try to find the silver lining. True to my hippie nature, I think a lot of the world's problems could be solved if we all tried to understand and care for each other a little more. Kumbaya you guys.
What I’m doing with my life
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I was an English major for a long time, but it just wasn't my passion, so I've switched to environmental studies. At this point I want to either do research or education, with a side of civic engagement - some combination thereof, preferably in the field, would be perfect. Undecided about grad school, but if I suddenly win the lottery then I'll definitely be in school longer.

As for work, I am a lifeguard, and co-director of a nonprofit organization.

I also run a small jewelry business on the side.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
How about things I really enjoy...Yoga (mostly just for sivasana), car-aoke (teaching myself to harmonize! With very mixed success), having incredibly stupid conversations (or incredibly intellectual ones, I quite enjoy both), really lame jokes, organic gardening, sleeping outdoors, artistic stuff, dancing, reading, learning, hiking, skiing, men, the performing arts (any type of art, really), reading reading reading, art in all its forms, and sports involving water. But not water sports. Need a surfing buddy! Reading in the shower, cooking, parenthetical sentences.

If you can't tell I'm a bit of a hobby collector and am always down to try something new, though I'm not much of a thrill seeker. My introversion means I find such thrill in generally non thrilling activities. Ooh, birds! Did you see that crazy flower, brah!?
I make a point of learning a new skill, trying something I've never done before, or bettering myself in some way as often as possible.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm SHORT. And have a seemingly surly demeanor, but really I am probably spacing out or tripping on a new realization about birds or something.

I can be very sarcastic and deadpan-y and this tends to go right over the heads of people who don't know me well. Possibly I'm just unfunny.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: A Sand County Almanac, The Best American...series, Bukowski, The Wild Trees, Fahrenheit 451, David Foster Wallace, Bill Bryson, Bret Easton Ellis, Without Conscience: The Disturbing World of the Psycopaths Among Us (nightmares FOREVER), McSweeney's, The Road, The Metamorphosis, Shakespeare (really), The Hobbit, Harry Potter (duh, what kind of nerd would I be), Your Inner Fish, The Stranger, Chuck Klosterman, Murakami. Lately it's been a lot of nonfiction. And peer-reviewed articles on habitat fragmentation. Currently reading: The Handmaid's Tale and Man's Search for Meaning

Movies: The Cabin in the Woods, Fight Club, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, The Graduate, Across the Universe, Best in Show, 8 1/2, The Big Lebowski, Watchmen (I know, I know), Zombieland, The Hebrew Hammer, A Bout de Souffle, Cabin Fever, This is Spinal Tap, Lilo & Stitch, Heathers, Wet Hot American Summer, Star Wars, Indiana Jones, Wristcutters: A Love Story, O Brother Where Art Thou, Once Were Warriors, Bonnie & Clyde, The Producers, Thelma and Louise, almost everything Kevin Smith, Quentin Tarantino, Mel Brooks, and Alfred Hitchcock have done, The Lord of the Rings, Moulin Rouge, Kill Bill, Donnie Darko, Young Frankenstein, Mean Girls (so much smarter than it's given credit for, and written by/co-starring Tina Fey!), A Hard Day's Night, A Prairie Home Companion, Schindler's List, (500) Days of Summer...I really love discussing movies. And would like some more sophisticated selections! I treat Cinequest like it's a job.

The last several months are most accurate, but the overall is a fun look into my pretty bleak musical past (present?). And my love of classic rock, motown, doo-wop, and oldies isn't well-represented here. If it has soul and/or a good beat to dance to or I can belt along and pretend I'm a cheesy pop icon I probably will enjoy it.

Sometimes I listen to stuff that would be embarrassing if I had musical scruples, but I can justify it all. Can't we just listen to music for the fun of it, snobbery be damned? Okay, it's pretty embarrassing that I listen to songs from Glee.

TV: Dexter, Arrested Development, Parks and Rec, Venture Bros., 30 Rock, Wilfred, Our America with Lisa Ling, It's Always Sunny, Firefly, Freaks and Geeks, So You Think You Can Dance (one of the few reality performance shows showcasing true artistry), Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Jeopardy, No Reservations. Sometimes even the stuff about sasquatch and ghosts. Pop culture in all forms is fascinating to me - if nothing else it shows us how far we have fallen as a society.

Lots of podcasts and old school Loveline.

Food is best when it is ethnic, spicy, and cheap.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Music, life, and very very deep things of that nature, what makes people tick, evolutionary psychology, what the hell I forgot to do now, what I want to do over the weekend, how much longer our society is going to survive, who I'm going to be when I grow up, when I will next see my friends. Men with beards. Mmm, beards.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Spending a night in with a fancy wine or beer and Netflix/a book or a night out having good food and great conversation.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Every time I see the "Two of Us" tab I sing the Beatles song in my head.
You should message me if
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My lame profile didn't drive you off? Writing a sales pitch for myself is very awkward.

If you are kind, funny, intelligent, and love exploring and taking care of this planet as much as me. I am a bit cynical, and I really enjoy people who I can commiserate with for a bit who can also bring some optimism into the mix.

I know I'm a "red-dot" person and that can drive people off, but I have pretty specific tastes, and am apparently bad at not leading people on. Sorry in advance if I don't message back; that being said, try to message me anyway. You never know.

***I'm adding this because I've gotten a number of messages like this:
If your first message to me says "you're hot", "your cute", "u r a beautiful princess" etc. and not much else...I will not respond.