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36 Cedar Rapids, IA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 28–49
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Dec 18
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Christianity, and somewhat serious about it
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has kids, and might want more
Likes dogs and has cats

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
in case your wondering Shrekhot means to be cute for an ogre. Brad Pitt i may never be, but i could have had Fiona if i had gotten there first. i was once told that people will only read the first ten lines of your profile before making a decision about you. so if you do read the whole thing i will lay out for you first the ugly, then the bad, and finally the good and great things about me. and the ugly is just that UGLY

THE UGLY: i have four kids, tow of which are not in my life. not my choice just how it is. while i have never been addicted to drinking or drugs, i have struggled with cutting. i know its stupid and wrong, but it's still there. i hadn't had a relapse in about three years until the person i believed was my soulmate destroyed my heart. again i know its stupid and i am actually wanting to educate and inspire others to face this terrible disease. i have been homeless six times. this does not mean i want you to take care of me, in fact the exact opposite is true. i have a hard time recieveing gifts at all because of my shame in this fact. but it is still true, and there fore it goes into the ugly category. i am a child abuse survivor, which played havoc on my self esteem.
THE BAD: im kind of a geek. i also have never had a girl not cheat on me. this is when i discovered a new concept: the one common denominator in every relationship you have is you. this got me thinking about what i was doing wrong. the conclusion? one: i almost always put her needs and desires ahead of my own. this then gets mistaken for weakness and not the respect im trying to show. two:i am way to nice. nice guys always finish last, bad guys always steal the girl. my last three girlfriends broke up with me over money. this is a funny fact considering that one of them didn't have a job for a year and i was working three jobs ot support her and her two kids. i am trying ot use my creativity to support myself, and its not like i don't have a job, i do. i pay my bills, and work hard to make these dreams of mine happen. i also have an affection for sex in daring locations. i have a sex bucket list if you will. i also listen to ninety percent Christian music.
THE GOOD: if your still here well heres the list we have been waiting for. i really am a good guy. i love my kids with my whole heart. i love God, and im thankful; for what Jesus did for all mankind. i have flaws and weakness, but i can openly admit them. in that there's strength. i am a spiritual gladiator and i do not quit on anyone. if i am with you i give a hundred and ten percent. that sometimes works against me, but its true. i have a jealous side i don't show very often, but its a defense mechanisium. we all want to know our mates still have fight and fire for us. i am caring and loving. i am writing a book right now called dining with God, things He showed me through serving tables. i also am writing a few movies, and trying to launch two reality dating shows. i am worth a chat or two for sure. i am not seem like much, but i ma a diamond in the rough. i love with everything i have. i simpley do not quit.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
i work in the food industry, and im currantly attempting to produce a dating show.
this is the link to my show. enjoy and all comments accepted.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
the quest for my talents is never ending. but i do enjoy movies and writing. i also like cooking and making others smile.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
my strong personality, and my huge heart
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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friends, comedies, marx brothers, action flicks, sci fi, romantic comedies, really any movie, mostly listen to christian rock. as well as some rock
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
God, kids, pets, ipod, food, air, love
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
i think of a variety of different things to think of or dream about. my mind is deep and my soul is longing.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
either working, or with my kids.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
anything you have the courage to ask
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
you want an interesting conversation, and maybe some good movie advice. im always game for

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