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shydan

29 / m / straight / single

Binghamton, New York, United States

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introverted, intellectual, and curious

My self-summary Propose an edit

I am an inveterate reader. If I do not have a book in my hands, you can bet it is tucked in my back pack, or in the bag on my bike, or in the car, or somewhere about my person. I have a preference for science fiction and fantasy, but can also be found reading just about anything, fiction or non-fiction, I also read the local newspaper (online version, anyway) and at least one or two world news sources on a daily basis.

One of the few times I do not have a book in my hand is when I'm on stage, in the dark, trying not to run over actors. I do tech theatre, with a preference for backstage work. I have done a few show's with Know Theatre a community theatre in downtown Binghamton.

As part of the above, I do set construction, which got me into woodworking as a hobby. I'm not a real accomplished craftsman at this point, but I enjoy the occasional project.

In addition to these I have a wide variety of minor interests, and have at various times taken up assorted musical instruments, needlepoint, golf, archery, and probably several others I've forgotten at this point.

I am an introvert by nature, with a tendency to try to avoid unfamiliar social situations. While I have gotten somewhat better at dealing with people, I may still come across as cold or distant until I get comfortable with them. This tendency is somewhat exacerbated by an inability to make small talk. When I do get into a conversation, I like it to be about something. I enjoy intelligent conversations (or debates) about politics, or social issues, or the state of the world, or you name it. I will admit to a greater interest in discussions on space travel, alternative energy, or theatre as these are all subjects of particular interest to me. Please note that I am not neccesarily looking for someone who agrees with me, but simply someone who understands the difference between fact and opinion, ans is willing to discuss both.

Politically, I'm not sure where I fit, definitely liberal, but with some odd twists and turns. My single biggest belief is that the government should keep its hands off anything relating to how people choose to live their lives, as long as it does not hurt anyone else. This includes marriage, sexuality, end-of-life decisions, literature and television censorship, you name it.

What I'm doing with my life Propose an edit

Working as a mechanical engineer/machine designer for a company in Binghamton. Also starting to take classes towards what will hopefully become a masters degree somwhere in the not to distant future. At present I am also cycling to work, both for my own health and for environmental reasons, and taking karate classes for the heck of it.

I'm really good at Propose an edit

Reading, obviously, as I've spent a significant portion of my life doing it. I also like to think that I am a decent engineer, especially with regards to logical thought and technical design. Other than those, I couldn't say what I'm particularly good at, but am willing to try my hand at anything, and with more or less success.

The first thing(s) people usually notice about me Propose an edit

I really don't know how to answer this question. As I mentioned above, I am not at my best in unfamliar social situations, and as such tend to fade into the background. Thus when I first meet someone, they probably don't notice me at all. A tendency to get in long discussions about subjects, trivial or serious, would likely be the best answer, but this is usually only after I get comfortable around someone.

My favorite books, movies, music, and food Propose an edit

I am a very heavy reader, and my current favorite changes rather frequently. My favorite authors are probably Robert Heinlein, Lois McMaster Bujold, David Weber, Terry Pratchett and more recently Eric Flint. I am also quite fond of the work of Sara Pararetsky and Dana Stabenow.

b) My favorite movie is probably "Real Genius" a very geeky, but very funny 80's movie. As may be obvious from above, I am a fan of literary science fiction, but I tend enjoy SF movies only if they're of the thoughtful, rather than action oriented, type. This would include "GATTACA" and "Simone", but leaves out gems such as "Aliens" or "Total Recall". My personal collection also includes such wide ranging selections as "Casablanca", "Kissing Jessica Stein", "Clerks", "Gladiator", "The Princess Bride", and "The Scarlet Pimpernel", make of this what you will.

c) My musical tastes cover a fairly wide range. I am fond of some folk, especially folk rock; Celtic and Celtic rock; filk, often described as science fiction folk; eighties; musicals, especially "Chess" and "Les Miserables"; a limited selection of classical; and a very limited selection of country. My recent CD purchases have largely been from either local performers or ones heard on weird radio shows on NPR or college stations.



d) I couldn't say that I have a favorite food or foods. I am a decent cook, although my tendency to experiment means that not all my attemtps are succesful. It also means, however, that I don't have a single style or cuisine that I attempt. When eating out I am likewise reasonably eclectic, but will attempt anything once or twice if I haven't had it before. I have a preference for local restaurants over chains, but that's more of a social choice than a gustatory one.

The six things I could never do without Propose an edit

Besides the basic neccesities of food, clothing, shelter, etc. I would tend to say intellectual stimulation. This includes such sub-categories as books, interesting conversation and/or an internet connection. Beyond that I'm really not sure.

I spend a lot of time thinking about Propose an edit

A lot of things. I tend to free associate readily, especially when I'm trying to focus on a boring bit of work, or trying to fall asleep at the end of the day. In the spirit of this question, which I guess is asking about favored intellectual pursuits I am a fan of alternative energy and the environment and space exploration and exploitation. As such I spend a fair amount of time pondering these, ways that I can personally help with one or the other, and what I would do if I had the money/authority/influence to advance one or the other of these causes.

You should message me if Propose an edit

If you are looking for intelligent conversation and are willing to discuss just about anything as the mood strikes. If you have been described as a geek, or describe yourself as one. If you are looking for someone to be friends with, and see if anything develops from there. If your idea of a relationship involves mutual support, but not mutual dependence. And above all else, if you feel like it.

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No
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Religion
Christianity and laughing about it
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Working on masters program
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Likes children
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Owns cats
Languages
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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