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35 Oakland, CA Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 28–46
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 11:29pm
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body type
Mostly vegetarian
Atheism, and laughing about it
Pisces, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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There is worth in brevity so I am: artistic, athletic,
health-conscious, intuitive, intellectual, funny/goofy, quirky, strong, spiritual, empathic, direct, intense, laid-back and grounded yet driven and passionate about new ideas and creating cool stuff.

I value friendship, family, honesty, respect, reflection, personal evolution, philosophy, rights, sexual freedom and fluidity, art, music, freedom of expression.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I simply love traveling. I identify as a world citizen and in most circles am not proud of being an American-in case you are not paying attention, we don't have a good track record over these past few decades.
I came to Australia to get my masters at University of Sydney in Human Rights policy-there is plenty of abuses here in downunder (see: Aboriginal land rights and "boat people") I am interested in social justice, law, psychological impacts of unlawful detention etc. I will be moving home to San Francisco after three years of working in Australia and gaining a permanent residency visa, which allows me to return to OZ whenever I want because having two summers in a year ain't too shabby :-) For now, I want to plant roots again and work by my family and friends in SF further pursuing my interests in law, social justice & human rights.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
understanding people, laughing, traveling, resolving conflict, sports, kissing, dancing for hours on end, singing, uniting people, finding the humor in a hard situation, positivity and perspective. I use to play soccer for the United States U-21 National Team and went to Wake Forest in North Carolina to play in the ACC. I have since had a few knee injuries that keeps me off the field intensely but I still love the game and plan to coach in the future. If you like the REAL football, we will probably have something to talk about. I always try to strike a balance between my athletic and artistic self.
The first things people usually notice about me
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vibrance, plethora of hats, vocality, smile, buff arms
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
too many to name. Nina Simone, Tribe Called Quest, Lupe Fiasco, jazz, soul, rock, hip-hop funk and blues. I simply love listening and playing music. I am a singer/songwriter and believe music is the best healing medicine. If you are a musician lets play some tunes!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
the sun, the ocean, social and kinetic movement, friends and family, music, avocado and burritos (Australia does not have good mexican food and I miss Cali for this among many reasons)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
history and herstory
what I want to do next
the ocean, sea life and how we are destroying our oceans :-(
what is truly important to me in this short life
will I have a family of my own
how relative 'time' really is
social justice, racism and homophobia
good food and wine
good sex
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
doing something random
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I like a variety of people. I identify as bisexual, which means that I have had sex with both men and women and not necessarily at the same time.
So, Kinsey introduced the sexuality spectrum (im a 3). We are all on that spectrum and we all have our own sensualities, tastes and tendencies. I have dated both men and women in the past and have experienced the differences between them in many ways to form a unique perspective on gender and love.

I am balanced in my male/female energies and desire to meet other people who have explored these things as well. I want someone open, knows what they want, does not mess around, is deep and committed but open for adventure and personal freedom. I am still looking for my life partner and making friends along the way. I want to meet a man who is my opposite but compliments me too. I want to meet someone who expands my world exponentially, would like a family of their own and shares in these same values.
You should message me if
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you like my profile and think we could connect in a genuine way. I've had many relationships in my life but am now looking for a longer-term, deep connection with a grounded and loving man, who is kind of a badass but doesn't know it-I still have not found my partner in crime.

Please do not message me for threesomes or poly relationship options because I am not interested. I am looking for a monogamous relationship with a man, preferably intelligent, artistic, athletic, kind and humble-if you are showing your abs in your photos then you probably are not for me. I like a guy who is confident enough not to boast or to brag. I despise hubris. If you are of African-American descent then I will probably find you much sexier than white guys. I have gone black and I just find it really hard to go back :-)

**Also, if you want to collaborate on music, I love most genres so hit me up if you like any of this: