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28 Philadelphia, PA Man


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  • Ages 18–30
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  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 6:22am
6′ 4″ (1.93m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Cancer, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from law school
Open relationship
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Okay), Japanese (Okay)

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My self-summary
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I dance. Between dances I work at a small law firm, manage a community-service-driven community (that specializes in hyphens), play and design games, make music, and take copious naps.

If you dance contra or blues you can probably skip the rest of my profile and just go to a nearby dance to encounter me (or better yet, let me know which dance you're going to). For those of you who don't dance or who have extra time, I'll try to make this entertaining.

I'm in a relationship with a really cool poly girl from Baltimore (, and a nerdy chemist in Philadelphia (who has no OKC profile). I'm open to other partners, but don't have anything specific I'm looking for right now. Polyamory is a relatively new thing for me, but I feel like it is empowering me to be more honest with myself and others. I'm totally willing to talk about it whether you 110% agree with me or you're wondering what the hell I mean.

In other news:

I radiate a variant of the higgs boson that attracts bizarre events to me rather than massive objects.

I'm a feminist. That doesn't mean I'll agree with you about what exactly "feminism" means, but it is important enough to me to say in my profile.

I'm not a scientist, but science is important to me, as are its limits.

I often dance places instead of walking, especially within coffee or gelato shops.

I think everything one does deserves an epic soundtrack.

I've been known to disagree with the majority of people about things that seem obvious and uncontroversial, like whether or not we survive going to sleep.

I am INTP by nature, but in the last 5 years I've explored my secondary personality traits much more intensely. Now a test might register me ENTP or INTJ depending on my mood.

I'm actually more ignostic than agnostic, but that's not an option.

I am superciliously silly, a priori, and sorcerous.

Now in Japanese!
Na naaa na na na naa na naa na na katamari damacy...
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Fighting the Man. And by the Man I mean Comcast.

I'm doing legal work in healthcare right now, and tutoring in my extra time. I want my work to be somewhere in the nexus of policy, public interest work, intellectual property, and tech-law issues. I particularly care about people's access to information and ability to be creative without getting sued. I have strong opinions on net neutrality, telecom consolidation, and fair use.

I also live in a big, seven-person house that hosts awesome parties and regular community service days. This in turn connects me to a lot of projects and the city-wide social entrepreneurship scene.

If law-type thing don't pan out, though, I'll go with my original plan to be Archmage of Earthsea.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Parallel parking. Since moving into the city this has become a necessity.

I go contra dancing every week, and I'm on the executive committee for the Princeton Country Dancers, which gives me an excuse to use phrases like "money musk" and "rapper swords" in a sentence. I also engage in blues dancing, and my house organizes regular blues dances/fusion dances. I have some experience with ballroom, salsa, and tango, but rarely get to dance those styles. I go to lindy hop dances fairly often and hope that people don't realize I'm faking it (usually it works). Actually, it's still fun when people do realize I'm faking it (as long as they play along).

I play piano (for which it turns out having big hands is useful), ukulele (for which having big hands just looks silly), guitar (his name is Ignacio), and larynx. Sometimes I also write songs (here's one:

I'm really good at games, both digital and non-digital. When I'm feeling productive I can also make them (here's one I made to accompany my friend's 16-bit music:

I can draw/paint/make stuff. I once co-wrote and edited a 75-minute amateur film. Joyce Carol Oates once said that a story I wrote exhibited a "masterful style" (but then she also said meaner things to me from time to time). I can fence, know how to wield a katana, and can kick above your head (unless you're really tall), though these skills are rarely called upon since no one seems to want to attack me.

I am not really good at navigation, however. When I walk out of a building, I tend to just walk in a totally random direction and don't stop to consider where I'm going until a few blocks later. If I have the chance to see a map, or I'm in a grid-based city, I'll be fine.

Now in Japanese!

Now in Rumi-ese!
I am almost as awake as Shams Tebriz.
The first things people usually notice about me
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That I'm dancing. It's more noticeable if we're not at a dance venue. People also notice my height (which I often forget about myself), my willful hair, my nerdy t-shirts, and my adventurous demeanor.

Or maybe that I'm carrying a black ukulele around. Or a guitar. Or my roommate.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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a) Confessions of a Mask, On the Plurality of Worlds, A Wizard of Earthsea, The Two Towers, The Demolished Man, Shadowrun 3rd Edition Rulebook.

Also, modernist poetry and haiku (kawazu tobikomu...if you know what I mean).

b) Koyaanisqatsi, 2001: A Space Odyssey, Ran (or anything by Kurosawa, for that matter), Fallen Angels, Princess Mononoke, Ghost in the Shell, Pan's Labyrinth, The Life of Brian, Legend of Drunken Master, Ghostbusters.

Warning: I have an older sibling who is a film studies professor, so I'm acquainted with some disturbingly high-brow movies. That said, you can probably convince me to watch whatever.

c) Babylon 5, Arrested Development, Firefly, Dr. Horrible, Evangelion, The Daily Show/Colbert Report (I consider them one unit), Doctor Who (the David Tennant seasons), Game of Thrones, Avatar: The Last Airbender.

Unless they mean Broadway shows, in which case probably Spring Awakening and Phantom.

d) Billy Joel. Also Radiohead, Philip Glass, Peter Gabriel, Rachmaninoff, Death Cab for Cutie, Sigur Ros, Ben Folds, Regina Spektor, The Swell Season, The Decemberists, The Civil Wars, Beirut, Nobuo Uematsu, The Protomen, The Beatles, William Shatner, other stuff (these lists have a dangerous probability of getting unreadably long, so I'm trying to restrain myself).

e) I feel like I'm gradually becoming vegetarian. There isn't a powerful push behind it - I'm just happier when I eat more vegetables and less meat. More specifically, the important foods are: hummus, cheese, mushrooms, nuts (especially pecans & walnuts), nut-butters, Singapore noodles, other kinds of noodles, chocolate, strawberry shortcake, onions, kale, spinach, roasted peppers, and any fruit except watermelon (I know it's weird, but it's one of the only foods I'm averse to). You could put most of those things into one big pot and I'd be super excited. I do spicy.

As to drinks, I like many varieties of milk (almond/soy/cow), juice, and water. I really like water. I drink beer/cider/wine, but mostly on social occasions. I don't usually like soda (and hate diet sodas), but I make an exception for Virgil's Rootbeer, which I think includes angel's sweat as an ingredient.

f) Why is there no games section? I'm adding one: Chrono Trigger, Final Fantasy (IV, VI, Tactics), Rock Band, The Elder Scrolls (Oblivion, Skyrim), Sid Meier's Alpha Centauri, Ascendancy, Castlevania: Symphony of the Night, Super Metroid, Shadow of the Colossus, Xenogears, Secret of Mana, Starcraft, Megaman (2 particularly), Minecraft, League of Legends, Dark Souls, Puzzle Quest, One Finger Death Punch.

Non-digital games: Dungeons & Dragons (3.5), Shadowrun (3e), Magic: The Gathering, Nobilis, Waving Hands (Warlocks), Catan, Carcassonne, Dominion, Small World. Chess is pretty cool.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Errant thoughts, movement, music, sleep, transformation and my eyes
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The best music to accompany a given activity, the nature of strategy, copyright law, implicit narratives, time travel, alternate universes, whatever the hell an economy is, ninja (it's already plural, as it happens), wizards, intellectual property, ninja wizards (alternatively, wizard ninja, which I guess is more concise by one letter), overpowered prestige classes, aesthetics, 3D printers, symbols, swords, dragons, flying stuff, lasers, "what the hell is the name of this song?", metaphysics, the value of humanity, pseudo-puns, and the void.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Sneaking into a restricted portion of the Roman forum behind a bunch of Italian archaeologists who were allowed to be there.

Admittedly, that only happened once, and I think it was on a Monday morning, but it is the type of thing I would do on a Friday night when the opportunity presents itself.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have really mixed feelings about wearing a suit. Sometimes it makes me feel like I'm buying into an oppressive system and visually signaling that I'm superior to people around me; other times I think it makes me look snazzy.

Also, I'm a lucid dreamer, or I have been. I am much more likely to let my dreams run their course these days, but there's a limit to how scary my nightmares can be, because if I'm truly out of my depth I'll take over the dream.
You should message me if
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It is known. And you want to get coffee. Seriously, I spend a stupid amount of time in coffee shops when left to my own devices.

As to the kind of person I'll respond to, these attributes help:
-You're cute. This can mean a huge range of things, so there's no particular appearance to aim for, as long as you rock it.
-You dance. This is not strictly necessary (I've met my share of awesome muggles), but is worth major bonus points.
-You're smart. This can mean bookish, intuitive, witty, logical, or cunning. If you can't think on your feet, then you have to sit or lie down all the time, and that can get old.
-You're confident. Say what you think. Disagree with me, especially if I'm wrong.
-You're kind of a nerd. Again, many flavors accepted, but if you would never contemplate watching a sci-fi show or playing a board game, I'll think you're too narrow.
-You can surprise me. If I could explain how to do this, it wouldn't be surprising anymore.

Other reasons to message me:
-You need me to help you with a transdimensional horse infestation
-You're the ghost of Akira Kurosawa
-You want to offer me a job where the word "awesome" appears in my title
-You make music
-You're a dragon, or a Mother of Dragons
-You're affiliated with a nonprofit that wants to ally with mine and increase the power of your benevolent empire

I know this profile is long. That's to scare away people who don't like words.