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26 / M / Straight / Single

Philadelphia, Pennsylvania

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Last Online
Online now!
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 4″ (1.93m).
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism
Sign
Cancer but it doesn’t matter
Education
Working on law school
Job
Student
Income
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Okay), Japanese (Okay)

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My self-summary
I dance, I sing, I play, and I think. When I have free time I also go to law school. In two years I will still dance, sing, play, and think, but not go to law school. Probably something else will fill that gap.

In other news:

I radiate a variant of the higgs boson that attracts bizarre events to me rather than massive objects.

I'm not a scientist, but science is important to me.

I sometimes dance places instead of walking, especially within coffee/gelato shops.

I think everything one does deserves an epic soundtrack.

I've been known to disagree with the majority of people about things that seem obvious and uncontroversial, like whether or not we survive going to sleep.

I'm a feminist, of the manly variety. Honestly, I don't understand why this isn't just assumed by now. After all, we're living in the future, you guys.

I used to be INTP; now I seem to be ENTP.

I like to think this profile is a masterpiece of some kind, but probably it's just needlessly long.

I am superciliously silly, a priori, and sorcerous.

Now in Japanese!
Na naaa na na na naa na naa na na katamari damacy...
What I’m doing with my life
Previously: Game Designer/Ponderer
Currently: Law Student/Tutor/Dance-Person
Later: Bodhisattva

As an undergrad I studied philosophy and wrote papers on time travel. Then I became a video game designer. Somehow, I ended up in law school, where I get paid to do research on the intersection of video games and intellectual property law.

I also tutor academics and teach piano, and organize and lead folk dances. Sometimes I'm lead designer for a small mobile game company, but we constantly get sidetracked by all our employees being in grad school.

If these activities don't pan out, it's possible I'll go with my original plan to be Archmage of Earthsea.
I’m really good at
Parallel parking. Since moving into the city this has become a necessity, but these days I can park my car in places that even I thought were physically impossible.

I can dance. I go contra dancing every week, and I'm on the executive committee for the Princeton Country Dancers, which gives me an excuse to use phrases like "money musk" and "rapper swords" in a sentence. I also engage in ballroom dancing, swing dancing, blues dancing, and sometimes salsa and tango.

I play piano (for which it turns out having big hands is useful), ukulele (for which having big hands just looks silly), guitar (his name is Ignacio), and larynx. For the last year I've also been writing songs (here's one: http://bryansuchenski.bandcamp.com/track/lorelai).

I can draw/paint/make stuff. I once co-wrote and edited a 75-minute amateur film. Joyce Carol Oates once said that a story I wrote exhibited a "masterful style" (but then she also said meaner things to me from time to time). I can fence, know how to wield a katana, and can kick above your head (unless you're really tall), though these skills are rarely called upon since no one seems to want to attack me.

I'm really good at games, both digital and non-digital. When I'm feeling productive I can also make them (here's one: http://silentellipsis.com/riseofmagus).

I'm not terribly good at being decisive. I also have no natural sense of direction, but if I have the chance to see a map I'll be fine. These properties together mean that I'm prone to wandering, which may or may not be a bad thing.

Now in Japanese!
いいえ、上手ではない。

Now in Rumi-ese!
I am almost as awake as Shams Tebriz.
The first things people usually notice about me
My height and general manliness, my willful hair, my adventurous demeanor, and my ever-dance-ready posture.

Or maybe that I'm carrying a black ukulele around. Or a guitar. Or a violin. If we're at a dance, they're probably noticing my spinny-ness.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
a) Portrait of the Artist as a Young Man, Death in Midsummer, Waiting for Godot, A Wizard of Earthsea, The Two Towers, The Demolished Man, Shadowrun 3rd Edition Rulebook, On the Plurality of Worlds. Modernist poetry, especially TS Eliot. Haiku (kawazu tobikomu...if you know what I mean).

b) Koyaanisqatsi, 2001: A Space Odyssey, Ran (or anything by Kurosawa, for that matter), Fallen Angels, Princess Mononoke, Ghost in the Shell, Pan's Labyrinth, The Life of Brian, Legend of Drunken Master. Forewarning: I have an older sibling who is a film studies professor, so I'm acquainted with some disturbingly high-brow movies, but you can probably convince me to watch most anything.

c) Arrested Development, Firefly, Dr. Horrible's Sing-Along Blog, The Office, Evangelion, Babylon 5, The Daily Show/Colbert Report (I consider them one unit), Doctor Who (fair warning, I am actually a time lord), Sherlock. Unless they mean Broadway shows, in which case probably Spring Awakening and Phantom.

d) Radiohead, Philip Glass, Peter Gabriel, Rachmaninoff, Billy Joel, Death Cab for Cutie, Sigur Ros, Ben Folds, Regina Spektor, Mumford and Sons, The Swell Season, The Decemberists, The Civil Wars, Hirasawa Susumu, The Protomen, Nightwish, The Beatles, William Shatner, other stuff (these lists have a dangerous probability of getting unreadably long, so I'm trying to restrain myself). I like live music, too - I'm going to see the Protomen and The Postal Service in the next couple months, so if you want in on one of those excursions let me know.

e) Hummus. Also cheese, mushrooms, almond milk, sushi, pho, pasta, ramen, soba noodles, singapore noodles, other kinds of noodles, strawberry shortcake, onions, any fruit, and anything with a lot of carbohydrates and no aspartame in it. I do spicy. I mostly eat veggies, so I could go vegetarian easily if it struck my fancy (feel free to ask me why it hasn't), but I'm not sure I could ever give up cheese.

f) Why is there no games section? I'm adding one: Chrono Trigger, Final Fantasy (IV, VI, VII, Tactics), Rock Band, The Elder Scrolls (Oblivion, Skyrim), Sid Meier's Alpha Centauri, Ascendancy, Castlevania: Symphony of the Night, Super Metroid, Shadow of the Colossus, Xenogears, Secret of Mana, Starcraft, Age of Empires (II & III), Megaman (2 particularly), Minecraft. Non-digital games: Dungeons & Dragons (3.5), Shadowrun (3e), Magic: The Gathering, Nobilis, Waving Hands, Catan, Carcassonne, Dominion, 7 Wonders.
The six things I could never do without
Errant thoughts, movement, music, sleep, transformation and my eyes
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The best music to accompany a given activity, the nature of strategy, implicit narratives, time travel, alternate universes, whatever the hell an economy is, ninja, wizards, intellectual property, ninja wizards, overpowered prestige classes, aesthetics, K'nex, symbols, swords, dragons, flying stuff, lasers, "what the hell is the name of this song?", metaphysics, the value of humanity, pseudo-puns, and the void.
On a typical Friday night I am
Breaking into the Smithsonian's restricted collection to retrieve evidence of my own interference with this timeline a thousand years ago, then transmuting the evidence into an intangible form that I bury in the cold, barren soil of a half-forgotten dream. Then I probably add a sign that says "Secrets Buried Here" so I can find it later.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am a lucid dreamer.

Also, chocolatey drinks are a terrible weakness of mine. It can be hot chocolate, chocolate soymilk, a black-and-white milkshake - if it's liquid and tastes like chocolate, it won't last long in my presence. Solid chocolate admits of the barest possible defenses.

I actually listed myself as bisexual on here for a short time, but then I got a huge number of messages from horny guys and I ran away. This strongly reminded me of an episode of Boy Meets World where one of the characters cross dresses and gets aggressively hit on by some other guy, and the experience makes him understand how he made some girl uncomfortable earlier in the episode. I'm not sure which half of this story is the more private one - probably the part where I imply my familiarity with Boy Meets World.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 20–30
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
Well, you can certainly message me, and I'll read it, or if you really want to meet me, it's easy. Just start contra dancing in the Philly or Princeton area and you'll run into me. You'll probably run into me if you swing/blues dance, too.

As to the kind of person I'm likely to respond to, these attributes help:
-You're cute. This can mean a huge range of things, so there's no particular appearance you need to aim for, as long as you rock it.
-You dance. It's not strictly necessary (I've met my share of awesome non-dancers), but this is worth major bonus points.*
-You're smart. This can mean bookish, intuitive, witty, logical, or cunning. If you can't think on your feet, then you have to sit or lie down all the time, and that can get old.
-You're confident. Say what you think. Disagree with me, especially if I'm wrong.
-You're kind of a nerd. Again, many flavors accepted, but if you would never contemplate watching a sci-fi show or playing a board game, I'll think you're too narrow.
-You can surprise me. If I could explain how to do this, it wouldn't be surprising anymore.

Other reasons to message me:
-You need me to save the future (again)
-You're the ghost of Akira Kurosawa
-You want to offer me a job where the word "awesome" appears in my title
-You make music
-You're a dragon

*I'm sure people use the phrase "bonus points" all the time, but as a game designer, I do not use this phrase lightly. I am keeping a complete tally of your points, which you can later turn in for fabulous prizes.