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silverhand13

29 / M / Gay / Single

Harlingen, Texas

His Details

Last Online
May 11
Ethnicity
Hispanic / Latin, White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m).
Body Type
Full figured
Diet
Smokes
Sometimes
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Often
Religion
Atheism and laughing about it
Sign
Scorpio and it matters a lot
Education
Working on college/university
Job
Artistic / Musical / Writer
Income
More than $1,000,000
Offspring
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
I'm a geek-nerd-dork / gamer. I'm gay, I enjoy 420, video games, role playing games, horror movies (and games) and reading. I also enjoy anime, magic the gathering, cooking (I've cooked at a few restaurants, but perfect my talents at home!), porn (hope this doesn't bug you.. we're all guys here!), science, technology, news, and keeping up with politics.

I'm a writer by trade, and also as a tax preparer for this current season, so if you need your taxes done come to me! Although honestly, turbotax works just fine; it's what I use.

Romance is very central to the karmic/world paradigm of who I am and what I believe in. Negativity is a huge turn-off for me, as my personal belief is: Love is the most powerful force in the universe, more than maximized meteor swarms, five-minute final fantasy summons, and Cthulhu.

I am a stocky guy and need someone who is comfortable being attracted to a bigger guy, and also cool with me being quite furry all over, I've got a good deal of muscle, as well as bulk, so I'm usually described as stocky. I love to laugh, but I love being serious as well depending on the situation, someone who I can make smile and who can make me laugh as well has bonus points already. I like guys who are affectionate often and have a healthy sex drive, or at least don't mind that mine's pretty high. It's kinda hot when a guy is a little needy or clingy, but that's not a requirement. Cold/unaffectionate types should immediately close my profile and go fly a kite and work out their intimacy issues.

Obviously, I talk a LOT. I hope you do too, or are a good listener! My nickname thrust upon me (by an ex) was Rickipedia (and kind of stuck), as I harvest information, videos, music, current events/news- and am quite good at it. I actually have a huge youtube archive with over 20,000 videos and climbing with everything from music, comedy, gaming stuff, remixes, and even hot guys, and tons of other genres under the name ELECTRONICOFFEE. I tend to be the person people go to, when they need to know about anything pretty much. Not that I know everything (not yet), but someday when I'm wired to the world, I'll be a Super Brain.

Yeah, cause that's how they made me.

I am n3rdy as fuckzor, limit-break-like, and masturbation worthy.

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What I’m doing with my life
I just moved back to South Texas (Harlingen, to be exact), in order to reeducate myself (college, 2nd degree); I think it's important to sometimes recollect yourself and move foward. I just started a new job (see below) and am enjoying settling back into a groove in the chill and laid back locale of the valley.

I have been working on advancing my editing and development on my own d20 gaming system, as well as alternatives within the current d20 system, based on botanical science as well as upgrading and developing an astrological system within my d20 Empyrean setting. Currently, I'm overhauling my entire d20 system, for a final edit before publishing, which I'm extremely excited about! I've been tweaking and playtesting it for a number of years, so it's a long time coming and I am just so glad it's finally to this final stages. ((UPDATE: Publishing in 2011!! Say hello to Empyrean d20!))

I am an optimist AND a realist, and in fusing them together- I believe strongly in making your own future and writing your own story; it's not only possible, but it's more rewarding that way as well.

I can, if inspired, literally spend all day cuddling, kissing, and loving on someone if they are deserving of my attention and can show the same enthusiasm. I take a zen approach to life and relationships, and I'm looking for someone else who can talk about issues, work out problems, and won't just break up or explode at every little argument. Relationships are a lot of work, and I've got the energy and drive.

I normally am open to random nerd cock/ass on my face assault tactics, I am being a bit more than normal-picky about adding another to the mix. I'm a Top by Default, so guys who are exclusive tops, please stop here. For the record, I can be Versatile when I'm in love with a guy. Ideally I'd love to meet a romantic, loyal dude who can enjoy spending time, cuddling, talking, kissing, gaming, adventuring, wandering, sharing, talking, learning, dancing (on occasion), making love (lots), and having someone who will completely adore you- even when you're not at your personal best.

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I’m really good at
Video Games : I pwn most people I know. Online, console, whatever. If you can watch me play games (regularly), sweet <3. If you can play with me, that's hot. If you can beat me, you can definitly keep me :)

If you hate video games or gaming (in general) then we won't get along, because it's 30% of my FREE TIME depending on my schedule, what games I enjoy, and what I'm currently rocking. (Srsly.)

Writing : It's my #1 Passion!

Kissing : It's a requirement. If we don't kiss on the first date, or if we have horrible kissing chemistry (that you are UNWILLING to work on) it's likely I won't be interested in: a. physicality (sex), b. a second date, or c. feeling a romantic click, but most likely d. all of the above.

Game Development / Being a Dungeonmaster. Running table-top and RP games since I was 9, has given me over 18 years of experience as not only creative writing, but also in the realms of leadership, system design & balancing, management, organization, and improvement. Maybe that's why 60% of my resume is based on retail management?

Cooking. I rock in the kitchen and most of my friends will vouch for that. It's a huge passion for me; I enjoy all kinds of cooking, proteins especially [I am veggie-friendly], and my specialties are probably seafood, italian, mexican, and soups/sauces. Yes, I've done this professionally.

Romancing. I'm great with giving affection and doing sweet stuff <3 My greatest love in life is making someone smile, especially someone who is appreciative of romance. I'm probably one of the most passionate and romantic guys you will ever meet.

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The first things people usually notice about me
Broad Shoulders; I'm told it's a sexy trait.

Build; I'm a bigger guy, so we tend to stand out.

Hair; I tend to get compliments for it often.

Glasses, those always are an eye-catcher for some.

Heart; it's often on my sleeve (visibly so).

Nerdy Aura; reading a book, playing my nintendo ds

My Penis; when there's photos of it.

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Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Authors: Ayn Rand, H.P. Lovecraft, Mercedes Lackey, Margret Weis and Tracey Hickman, Shel Silverstein, J.K. Rowling, Augusten Burroughs, Poppy Z. Brite, Clive Barker, Dean Koontz, John Saul, Christopher Rice, Random Manga

Movies: Breakfast at Tiffany's, Return of the Living Dead, Tank Girl, Romy and Michelle's High School Reunion, Mystery Men, Lost in Translation, Labyrinth, Legend, Garden State, The Eye, The Ring, Resident Evil, Nightmare of Elm Street, Constantine, Mirrormask, Adam and Steve, Another Gay Movie, Trick, The Living End, The Skeleton Key, Kill Bill, Spirited Away, Kiki's Delivery Service, Howl's Moving Castle, Resident Evil, Silent Hill, Constantine, Monster House, Shock Treatment, Monster Squad, Battle Royale, Martyrs, Kung Fu Hustle, XMen Series, Diary of the Dead, Planet Terror, Suspiria, Totally Fucked Up!, Scary Movie Series, White Chicks, The Truth About Cats & Dogs, WANTED, The Sweetest Thing

Shows: Weeds, Gilmore Girls, Iron Chef, Heroes, The Soup / Talk Soup, The 4400, Farscape, Buffy/Angel, W.I.T.C.H, Aqua Teen Hunger Force, PR: Mystic Force, Dexter, Read or Die, Wondershowzen, Dead Like Me, House, Wonderfalls, Battlestar Galactia, Xmen (Classic 90s), Thundercats, The Guild (online), Read or Die: The TV Series, Dennou Coil, Fate Stay Night, Azumanga Daoih, Cardcaptors, Penn and Teller's Bullshit

Foods: My grandmother's cheesy onion and chicken enchiladas, calzones, egg tacos, flan, ceviche, sushi (squid, copper river salmon, eel esp.), bacon, lasagne, mushrooms, hummus, rye bread, brunswick stew, lobster, baby rabbit risotto, almond chicken, spider roll, leek and potato soup, tab soda, coke zero, banana/orange/pinapple juice, iced tea, barebequed meats,
steak sandwiches (of any kind), omelettes, cocoa pebbles, dark berries, pomogranates, sausages (dirty! haha), white cheese (RACIST!), bubble tea, most breakfast sandwiches made with croissants, bagels, or english muffins

Music: Too many to list! I'm into everything from 80s hip-hop and rap, to punk, to some select metal, to ALL manner of electronica, house music, remixes, mash-ups, ambient / downtempo, jazz/lounge, 90s alternative, and even chiptunes / video game music. I run an archive on youtube that has almost 40,000 videos on it and about 50% of those are music-oriented, so trust me when I say I've got pretty deep, eclectic, and fervent taste.

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The six things I could never do without
Video Games; one of my biggest hobbies. I've been in love of the cultural movement of gaming culture since the early 80s, and I love almost everything about it. Gaming culture is very key to who I am, and most of the world can be broken down into gaming terms, as often I do.

Buttsexx0rz; probably what I (sexually) crave more than anything. I'm a versatile top, and it's something that definitely has to be a part of a relationship- I need a guy who needs someone inside him, even if it's half the time (read: versatile). If your backdoor is an exit only, we are not compatible :) It's just how I'm wired. I love to kiss, cuddle, suck, foreplay, tie a dude up, cover him in honey or boy cream, but when it comes down to it- I'm an ass guy. Yes, bad hygiene is a deal-breaker. You'd be suprised how many guys don't know how to take care of personal hygiene.

Marijuana; it really stimulates and enhances all of my favorite activities, from gaming, to writing, to game development, dungeonmastering, sex, cuddling, movies, and even wandering about or having conversation. I'm NOT a burnout or a deadhead stoner, I'm an intellectual / philosophy-oriented pot head and it affects me more in the fact since I overthink things a lot and have a higher anxiety, it helps me relax and compute information better. Pot doesn't change the way I act, treat people, or communicate. I'm naturally short-term memory fucked and somewhat goofy, so again- I hope you won't hold my regular, self-medicating against me :) I also vaporize (http://happyvappy.com) versus smoking normally (true vaporizing has no combustion, ie: no smoke, just water vapor + THC trapped between the water molecules - I'm a science lover). It's healthier, smarter, and frankly tastes a hell of a lot better. Again, I'm not your typical stoner and one of my biggest turn offs is anti-greenies, who make it a point to try and make me feel bad for something that's relatively harmless compared to drinking alcohol (which 90% of the gay population does from my own observations) or smoking cigs (which is more than half of gay men according to gay.com). If you're going to judge me, my friendship, or my value in a relationship on the fact I smoke pot, you're way too close-minded for me). Last point: Pot has never hurt anyone, killed brain cells, caused someone to die, caused cancer, and in many studies is shown to not even have any kind of physical addiction or gateway effect.

Computer; I hate writing by hand, but I type incredibly fast and almost at the same speed I can speak/think, so it works so much better. I do outlines of things, such as character classes on paper, but I really fill and feel them out when working on the actual editing on a digital format. The internet and I have a very long connection, as most of my early life I helped to convert and organize large amounts of digital bodies into the online gaming community, via several methods over the years. Most of my time back then was spent working on forums, guilds, and setting up online gaming events on several online systems; I helped start and fostered a lot of the role playing online scenes from the WBS (pre-AOL), to AOL (RDI, Rhy'Din), to many many MUDs and MUCKs, but I mainly do MMORPGs and table-top as well as lots of console gaming now.

Meat; If you're vegan or veggie guy, I totally respect that. I will not force you to eat meat, wiggle it in front of your face, or otherwise be disrespectful when it comes to that. That being said, I eat a lot of meat, I'm somewhat carnivorous by nature, and while I can make 101 awesome non-meat or meat-substitute meals (that are healthy AND delicious), I'm just a hound for protein. Granted I DO love my tofu, TVP, and vegetables high in protein, I really love meat when it comes down to it. Seafood probably tops my list (except oysters), but don't take me to a seafood buffet unless you want to be there a while, let's just say. Red meat I enjoy, but have a particular penchant for pork.. and alliteration. Chicken is awesome, but sometimes too plain or poor quality for me to enjoy, especially if it's some processed crap.

Affection; I was raised as a very affectionate child, being from a latino family that was probably more affectionate than most latino families. I think my "needy" side comes from this, as for me, unlike most people- I communicate a LOT through touch. Touch, especially when dating or in a relationship sometimes says things that you can't express, because there isn't words for it, no matter how creative you are. It's a different kind of communication, and often when I have strong romantic feelings, I really like to quite close, and quite regularly. I really enjoy PDAs, unless there's a crew of skinheads or gang-bangers around, but that's just for safety (as gay crimes have spiked in the recent months). I have been told I'm one of the most affectionate guys most people have met, and while I can be clingy, I tend to behave myself (usually heh.) in social settings. At home, at bets are off, and my idea of a perfect night is often curling up together and playing some video games or watching a movie, while kissing and cuddling all night. I'm TOTALLY a homebody / nester- but it doesn't mean I can't tear up a dancefloor or don't enjoy spending most of a day wandering around random marketplaces and interesting locales.

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I spend a lot of time thinking about
Paradigms; how the world is constructed, faiths, sciences, and all manner of building blocks inbetween. I think constantly about all sorts of horrible and wondrous things, and honestly I don't think as a writer, I would be half as good if I didn't have these overwhelming thoughts about the bigger picture. Being somewhat OCD, I tend to be somewhat compulsive and overthink things a lot; I'm not totally neurotic, but I admit I can be sometimes distracted by weird or horrible thoughts appearing in my head sometimes. I'll almost-always tell you what it is (that I'm thinking about), once I'm comfortable enough with you.

Hope; this world is doomed, or at least it seems headed that way, and despite most world religions based on love, people seem to do the opposite; with our world becoming more and more like a corporate oversight, I often wonder if it's worth being good in times like these. Often I weigh the conditions and stresses of being a good person, versus being not-so-good of a person, but I always attempt to do the right thing. I want a happy ending, and my belief is that you can't have one, by being a bad person.

Alignment; I currently am lawful neutral in nature, but tend towards good, hopeful, and helpful actions; I'm looking for someone who can be an optimist alongside with me. I believe in a pretty strict karmic system, so I tend to stay my hand often, and believe strongly in the virtues of justice, forgiveness, and redemption. Honesty, loyalty, and dependability are three of the sexiest traits a man can hold in his heart!

Romance; I don't need flowers every day, but once in a while is really thoughtful and touching. I'm not a materialistic person, and I definitely carry my own weight in the romantic department as well. I think a thoughtful or original gift / surprise is worth 20x as much, as something expensive and flashy. But gifts aside, romance is characterized by the way you talk to someone, the way you want to say the right thing, to make them smile, to verbalize the intensity of how strongly someone makes you feel. Passion is the keystone of romance, and the right guy for me will appreciate how romantic I am, and will (attempt) to be romantic at times as well.

Horror; I won't explain much, I'd give you sanity damage (if you get this reference, EMAIL ME NOW! :) But I love it in all formats, movies, comics, anime, haunted houses (real and fake, love both!), survival horror based video games like Silent Hill or Resident Evil] or Fatal Frame. I've dumped guys in the past for being too scared to watch a horror movie with me- granted they were jerks anyways, but it just goes to show how much I dig scurry stuff. Ghosts, zombies, and aberrations (mutations with powers / abilities) are my favorites, by the way.

Sex; I'm a guy, I'm 28, I'm a scorpio and latino, it's kind of unavoidable. I have one of the highest sex drives on anyone you'll meet. I prefer my sex to carry some passion, and I prefer it not to be casual- but hey, life happens. Sex should be often in a real relationship, but it's not everything- I definitly am looking for more than just that. I don't 'hook up' or have casual sex. Hell, I don't even casually date, because then things get messy. Life is messy, but it doesn't mean you can't attempt to avoid drama by just being patient. I'd rather get to know one amazing guy at a time. Of course, ideally, half the time I'm fantasizing about having a boyfriend come home to me and putting his butt and/or penis all over my furry face.

Concept Design; I like designing game materials around themes and with unique concepts and details, power sets that not only kick ass but are useful, fun to play, and balanced. I run my games in a very video-game esque style, with high action but also puzzles, storyline, massive boss battles (I'm somewhat boss-obsessed), and soft gooey bits. I think my material is some of the most original and fun out there, and 4 out of 5 gamers agree. /wink - Gamer Tested, Gamer Approved.

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On a typical Friday night I am
Hosting a game (not sports, tabletop gaming), writing, checking out a movie with friends, playing some playstation or PC Games, k :D Wandering around online or in World of Warcraft (ask me for server / character info) or searching for brains.. mmmmm .. brraaaaaiinnss.. /zombiewalk

Oh yeahs, movie theatre double or triple feature days/nights and late-night coffee or grocery store wanderings.. I do that a LOT. <3

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The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I only take it up the ass when I'm in love. Oh yeah, and the guy has to wear glasses while doing it. I'm kidding, if I loved him, it wouldn't matter. BUT - if a guy didn't wear glasses, I'd hope he'd indulge me by wearing a fake pair in bed now and then .. Grrrr <3

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I’m looking for
  • Gay guys only
  • Ages 18–40
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, activity partners, long-distance penpals
You should message me if
You're looking for:

- Someone awesome who wants to be friends (or more), are openminded (emotionally / romantically) and if you're half as geeky as me, or think you are (or think you're more-so and don't mind being proved wrong), then you should defintly email me. I dig all kinds of dudes, but brains and geekery get me going; if you're a stoner, skater, office-dude, or punk-oriented then that's some major bonus pts. This goes for friends and boyfriends!

- Awesome DM, (Dungeons and Dragons, Call of Cthulhu, d20 Modern, World of Darkness [old, bleh on teh new stufffs) someone who doesn't run the prototypical gaming session where everyone is falling asleep at 9pm cause they are bored of fighting hordes of orcs and goblins. My game is a very fast paced, puzzle oriented, complicated traps and huge epic bosses with a whirlwind (and long term) storylines. I've been running games and designing material for over 20 years and I'm only 28, so expect a mixture of experience and fresh material.

- Huggable/Cuddly Geeky Friends: I are very friendly and loves cheezburgers and has teh love geeking out with friends, whether it's watching heroes or gilmore girls together, gaming tabletop or online, catching a movie out and about, or gaming on the consoles or online /geekout!

Contacing Me? electronicoffee@gmail.com (main email, work, home chat) electronicoffee (yahoo chat only, home only) fixmyhtmlcode (work chat only, linked to my gmail chat)

Love isn't just an objective in life, but also a state of being. - Me

Pluses? Geeks, Nerds, Brainy Guys, Intelligence, Tech Savvy, Science Savvy, Politico Savvy, Culture Savvy, Bookish, Shy, Bashful, Fuck-able (able, not in the context of the 'sexy' adjective), Gushy, Clingy, Kink Oriented, Did I mention Clingy? (that's hot.), Scientists, Teachers, IT Guys, Gamers, Stoners, Glasses (omfg <3), Uber Affectionate, Slutty (but just with me /wink), Flirty/Seductive (with me, not everyone), Racial / Crazy? / Tounge-in-Cheek Humor [Sarah Silverman, Dave Chappelle, Wondershowzen]

Dirty Bonus Points? Toys, Dress Up Games, Role Playing, Dom/Sub Play, Jockstraps, Creampie / Monogamous Bareback, Glasses In Bed, Massages, Soft Biting <3

Negatives? Toilet Humor, Bad Hygiene, Slutty (with everyone), Flirty (with everyone), "I Don't Kiss", "I hate people who eat meat" (I am veggie friendly, but I know some veggies aren't meat-people friendly), Close Minded, 100% poly people ("I love the world! No Strings Please!"), Anti-Marijuana Advocates, Homophobes [yes, even against yourself], Self-Loathing and/or Constantly Depressed, Racism [the un-funny kind], Irresponsible Drivers, Emotional Cowards, Unaffectionate Guys, Hypocrites, Banal People (anti art, creativity, etc.), NASCAR, Most Basic Sports (I do love fencing, swimming, and martial arts).

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