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simon_brooke

54 / M / straight / Single

Dumfries, United Kingdom

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Height
6' 0" (1.85m).
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Fit
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New friends, Long-term dating, Activity partners
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No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism and laughing about it
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Education
Dropped out of Ph.D program
Job
Science / Tech / Engineering
Income
$50,000–$60,000
Kids
Pets
Owns cats
Languages
English (Fluently), French (Poorly), German (Poorly), Icelandic (Poorly)

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I am intellectual, kinked, and political.

My Self-Summary

Sinister pagan in the 16th prime of life*, conjures daemons with his two cats at the sign of the Witch's Rock.

* OK, this ceased to be true on the 17th October 2009; but hey, who's counting?

I'm a philosopher by training, and ideally I'd like to be a philosopher be profession. However, not many jobs going these days... So instead, I write software.

I love

* writing and story telling - I'm not published, but it is my one remaining ambition;
* reading, and books - I like other people's story telling too;
* cycling;
* my home area, its people and its history;
* my cats.

I'm not religious in any conventional sense; I'm an ex-Quaker, but I've come to see organised religion as generally evil.

Politically, I am a long way out on the libertarian left, rather green, and very much a localist. Politics matters to me - I'm unlikely to get on well with someone who's political opinions are not thoughtful (which does not mean we have to agree).

I'm not very materialist, ambitious or money motivated. I have all the stuff I ever wanted. So long as I can pay the bills and have a little extra for toys that's enough for me. On the other hand, I am entrepreneurial; I've been self employed or a business owner most of my life, and although I'm not just now I almost certainly will be again.

I do not have (and do not want) a television.

I am somewhat kinked, definitely to the dominant side. I'd rather remain celibate for the rest of my life than have a relationship with someone who preferred to have sex in the missionary position at night in bed with the light off.
Now in French
(Vous comprendrez que mon Français c'est très mauvais - si vous pouvez l'améliorer, je serai reconnaissant)

Je suis philosophe de formation et, idéalement, je me voudrez être un philosophe de travaille. Malheureusement, pas beaucoup d'emplois en cours ces jours-ci ... Ainsi, au lieu, j'écris des logiciels.

J'aime

* écrire des histoires - Je ne suis pas publié, mais c'est ma seule ambition qui restent;
* des livres - j'aime aussi les histoires d'autres gens
* la cyclism;
* Ma patrie, son gens et son histoire;
* Mes chats.

Politiquement, je suis loin sur le libertaire à gauche, vert, et très localiste. La politique c'est tres important - je suis peu de chances de bien s'entendre avec quelqu'un qui a des opinions politiques ne sont pas sérieux (ce qui ne signifie pas que nous avons d'accord).

Je ne suis pas très matérialiste. J'ai tous les chose que j'ai toujours voulu. Quand je peux payer les factures et ont un petit supplément pour les jouets, c'est suffit.

Je n'ai pas (et ne voulez pas) d'une télévision.

Je préfère rester seule pour le reste de ma vie que faire habite avec quelqu'un qui a préféré faire l'amour dans la nuit au lit avec les lumières éteinte.

What I’m doing with my life

Getting by. Working to pay off my mortgage - less than a year to go; and, if all goes well, then I will be able to work a lot less. Planting trees, and looking after trees I and friends have planted. Cycling - not as much as I'd like, but somewhere between three and five thousand miles a year. Talking with friends. Finishing a computer game I've been writing for a year and a half. Tying off the loose ends of a failed relationship, and looking to move on.
Now in French
Je travaille pour payer ma maison - j'ai moins d'un an pour restante, et, si tout va bien, alors je n'aurai pas besoin de tant de travail. Je plante des arbres et tendent la forêt que mes amis et moi avons planté. Je faire le cyclism - moins que je le voudrais, mais plus de cinq mille kilomètres chaque année. Je passe du temps avec des amis.

I’m really good at

Writing. Story telling. Bondage. Photography. Cycling. Sailing. Software design.

The first things people usually notice about me

Heavens! I don't know (and probably wouldn't want to). They notice what they notice. What do _you_ notice?

My favorite books, movies, music, and food

Books

* Umberto Eco, The Name of the Rose
* Guy Gavriel Kay, Tigana, Ysabel
* Lois McMaster Bujold, The Curse of Chalion
* Snorre Sturlasson, The Heimskringla
* Iain M Banks, Inversions
* Douglas Adams, The Hitch Hiker's Guide (and sequels); Dirk Gently's Holistic Detective Agency
* Neil Stephenson, Anathem, Cryptonomicon

Movies

* Akiro Kurosawa, Seven Samurai
* Antti-Jussi Annila, Jadesoturi (Jade Warrior)
* Terry Gilliam, Brazil
* Akiro Kurosawa, Kagemusha
* Clint Eastwood, High Plains Drifter
* Sergio Leone, The Good, the Bad and the Ugly
* Bernardo Bertolucci, Last Tango in Paris
* Peter Jackson, The Lord of the Rings trilogy
* Frank Darabont, The Shawshank Redemption
* Jean-Pierre Jeunet, Amelie
* Michael Winterbottom, 9 Songs

Music

Capercailie
The Bonzo Dog Doo-dah Band
The Move/Roy Wood/Wizzard
The Doors
Rimski Korsakov
Annie Lennox/Eurythmics
Pink Floyd

Food!

H'mmm.... Most of the things I cook don't have recipes and don't have names. A lot of fresh ingredients; inspired a bit by Malay and a bit by Afghan cooking. I cook from fresh ingredients as often as possible, usually four days a week. As you'll notice, I tend to cook to MINIMISE WASHING UP!

So, for example, Ricey Stuff:

Method: to a pan on a brisk heat add oil, sliced fresh garlic, plenty of sliced fresh ginger, onion (spring onion if available), capsicum pepper, lamb or fish or cashew nuts; stir fry until the onion is soft and the meat or fish sealed. Add sliced mushrooms, dried apricots, flaked almonds, and the zest of one lime, shredded. Stir fry a little more, then add rice, salt, water and the juice of the lime. Cover and simmer. When the rice is cooked, garnish with fresh coriander (and optionally a thin shredded omelette) and serve immediately. Vary according to availability of ingredients.

Ratted Wheels:

To a pan on a low heat add plenty of good olive oil, garlic, aubergine, salt. Stir fry gently until the aubergine has begun to cook and soften, then add onion, capsicum pepper, and other seasonal vegetables, cover and sweat on a low heat for some time, stirring occasionally. Add a lot of sliced mushrooms and a tin of tomatoes, chopped. If you're opening a bottle of wine for the meal anyway, add a glass of wine. Ignore on a low heat for half an hour. Serve with plenty of fresh home-made bread.

The six things I could never do without

The hills
The sea
My friends
My bikes
My home
Stories

(on rereading that, Jings, how pretentious! but none the less true)
Now in French
Les coteaux
La mer
Mes amis
Mes vélos
Ma maison
Les histoires

I spend a lot of time thinking about

Stories, Software design, Sex.

On a typical Friday night I am

Usually tired. Usually driving home, catching up with post and things on the Internet, listening to the News Quiz and Any Questions on Radio 4, talking to friends, getting a bike ready for the morning.

The most private thing I’m willing to admit here

My most significant sexual fetish is forests.
Now in French
Mon fétiche sexuel le plus important c'est des forêts.

You should message me if

You are complete in yourself and confident of who you are, thoughtful,
fit (perhaps a cyclist!), a long way from vanilla flavoured, and are tentatively interested in something long term, complex, sensual and interesting.
Now in French
Vous êtes complète en soi, réfléchi, peut-être un cycliste, pas de la vanille, et sont provisoirement intéressé à quelque chose à long terme, complexe, sensuel et intéressant.