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29 Portland, OR Genderqueer


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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 25–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Oct 3
5' 11" (1.81m)
Buddhism and laughing about it
Doesn’t want kids
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat), French (Somewhat), Chinese (Somewhat), Korean (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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tl;dr version: im not a woman, don't bug me if you don't want to hear about injustices in the world, fuck off if you're homo- or transphobic or racist, I like goofballs and people who like trying new things.

Long version:
I'm a genderqueer bisexual polyamorous intersectional feminist. Unpack that for a second. We cool?

Currently single, open to whatever kinds of human connections seem desirable to us both.

I'm a well-traveled linguist (Arabic, French, Korean, Mandarin Chinese, Spanish, Uyghur) currently too broke to leave the country, so I'm looking for someone to go on lots of small local adventures with: camping, finding neat bookstores, checking out comedy shows, the people's choir, contra dances, etc. Love of books, puns, and words games like Scrabble are highly preferred. Priority given to those with passionate interests to share, and enough curiosity leftover to ask about mine.

Do you like walking places when it's dry and not too windy just because? Want to go to a community center and swim? Shall we marathon a terrible wonderful TV show and snuggle? I'm into it.
What I’m doing with my life
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I have a job, moving slowly towards grad school, but mainly lately, I do fibercrafts. I spin my own yarn, embroider swear words on throw pillows, knit, I'll totally tie you up or let you tie me up... string. dang.
I’m really good at
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misplacing stuff, apparently.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Not a dinosaur. =(
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Booooks: For Whom the Bell Tolls, anything by Terry Pratchett, CJ Cherryh's Faded Sun series, Dautcher's Down a Narrow Road, anything by Oscar Wilde, and more books then I could possibly come up with at the moment.
Currently Reading: the Phryne Fisher mysteries, Sex and Bacon, A Turn of Light, and Undoing Border Imperialism

Advice column: Captain Awkward

Movies and Shows: Stargate, Condorman, the Princess Bride, The Fifth Element, and Velvet Goldmine are my top five most watched movies.
I love Farscape, M*A*S*H, and am working my way through all of Star Trek (currently in the middle of Deep Space Nine). I loooove and am utterly terrified by NBC's Hannibal! Have you seen the season 2 finale?!?! Would you like to yell excitedly about it with me?!

Welcome to Night Vale - my favorite podcast bar none. The live shows at Lewis and Clark and Revolution Hall were AMAAZIIING.

Music: I like to listen to stuff. Lots of stuff. I can be quite lazy about finding new music, so I treasure people who will actively introduce me to stuff. If I like you, I will actually try your recs without being coerced. Latest find: Shamir Bailey.

Food: apple cider (not the alcoholic kind, though I like that too), WAFFLES, pesto and heirloom tomatoes, bacon, pineapple.

Ninja Turtle: Michaelangelo
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
feminism, anticapitalism, antiracism, fat activism, the fight against ableism, punx
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Political fuckery. Twinkle lights. Identity. Tea. Xena the Warrior Princess. Sunshine. Books.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
dancing by myse-elf, just dancing by myse-elf...

(I work Saturdays, so I usually don't get up to much unless there's a REALLY good show/party/movie/etc)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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When I was twelve, I once saw Shel Silverstein in a coffeeshop on Martha's Vineyard. Or rather, I saw a sketchy-looking dude with a huge beard and a baseball cap who gestured me over. When I went outside to avoid him, a woman nearby ask me if I had gotten his autograph...Sorry, Mr. Silverstein.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.'re all about SMASHING systems of oppression.'re not that into cisheteropatriarchal monogamy. want to.

I'm pretty quick on the "let's meet in person!" draw, just to warn you.