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28 Portland, OR Genderqueer


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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 25–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 12:28pm
5′ 11″ (1.81m)
Mostly anything
Buddhism, and laughing about it
Graduated from university
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay), French (Poorly), Chinese (Poorly), Korean (Okay)
My self-summary
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tl;dr version: im not a woman, don't bug me if you don't want to hear about injustices in the world, fuck off if you're homo- or transphobic, I like goofballs and people who like trying new things.

Long version:
I'm a genderqueer bisexual intersectional feminist. Unpack that for a second. We cool?

I'm a well-traveled linguist looking for new friends to go on adventures canoeing, pawing through bargain bin records, jamming on instruments we aren't sure how to play, karaoke, trying new restaurants and bars, dancing like we don't give a shit, throwback films at second run theaters, treating ourselves to hot tea, spa time at Everett House, and any of a thousand other indulgences.

Looking for people who are really into things I don't know about (comics? astrophysics? banjo? making tasty foods?) who want to share those passions, and who might like to share my passions for social justice work, knitting, scifi and fantasy novels, languages, anthropology, and swimming. Looking for people who complement me, not someone who is the same, and who wants to be complemented. Love of books, puns, and words games like Scrabble are a must though.

Do you like walking places when it's dry and not too windy just because? Want to go to a community center and swim? Shall we marathon a terrible wonderful TV show and snuggle? I'm into it.
What I’m doing with my life
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After years of longingly making grabby hands at them in thrift stores, last week I finally caved and bought myself a typewriter. Since then I have made clackety clack noises with my little TRex typing style at all hours - letters and smutty fanfic and impromptu poems about whoever walks by...right now that is the major event in my life.
I’m really good at
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misplacing stuff, apparently.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Not a dinosaur. =(
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Booooks: For Whom the Bell Tolls, anything by Terry Pratchett, CJ Cherryh's Faded Sun series, Dautcher's Down a Narrow Road, anything by Oscar Wilde, and more books then I could possibly come up with at the moment.
Currently Reading: The People's History of the United States, White Queen

Advice column: Captain Awkward

Movies and Shows: Stargate, Condorman, the Princess Bride, The Fifth Element, and Velvet Goldmine are my top five most watched movies.
I love Farscape, M*A*S*H, and am working my way through all of Star Trek (currently in the middle of Deep Space Nine). I loooove and am utterly terrified by NBC's Hannibal! Have you seen the season 2 finale?!?! Would you like to yell excitedly about it with me?!

Welcome to Night Vale - my favorite podcast bar none. The live shows at Lewis and Clark and Revolution Hall were AMAAZIIING.

Music: I like to listen to stuff. Lots of stuff. I can be quite lazy about finding new music, so I treasure people who will actively introduce me to stuff. If I like you, I will actually try your recs without being coerced.

Food: apple cider (not the alcoholic kind, though I like that too), WAFFLES, pesto and heirloom tomatoes, bacon, pineapple.

Ninja Turtle: Michaelangelo
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Knitting supplies, fluffy blankets, thumbs, my hedgehog, my battered copy of the Hobbit, and noms.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Political fuckery. Twinkle lights. Identity. Tea. Xena the Warrior Princess. Sunshine. Books.

Lately devoting a lot of time and thought and reading to anti-racist work in solidarity with the Black Lives Matter movement, online and locally.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I often end up at comedy shows, throwback movies, queer events, friends' homes, or stay home listening to music and collaging.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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When I was twelve, I once saw Shel Silverstein in a coffeeshop on Martha's Vineyard. Or rather, I saw a sketchy-looking dude with a huge beard and a baseball cap who gestured me over. When I went outside to avoid him, a woman nearby ask me if I had gotten his autograph...Sorry, Mr. Silverstein.
You should message me if
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You should message me if you're pretty sure we could have a decent conversation and want to go out for a drink (coffee, tea, beer, wine, all good).

I'm pretty quick on the "let's meet in person!" draw, just to warn you. I also am a bit shy about initiating touch, and prefer that someone else either asks to touch me or invites me to touch them first. That's how I feel out physical chemistry, and consent asking makes me feel safe. Big picture, I'm looking for serious connections (not necessarily long term). I'm pretty open to all kinds of connection though, so if we've got chemistry, let's talk through the possibilities and go for it. Really into the idea of finding some makeout buddies for silly movie nights, so message me if you're looking for that too.